Why do most men forget important dates?
@faln_angel1205 (1192)
United States
December 1, 2009 4:34pm CST
Birthday, Anniversary, First Date?
In my case it is Anniversary. Our 11th wedding anniversary is this coming Saturday. Most Saturdays hubby goes out with his best buddy. I assumed tho, that this week would be different since it is our annivesary. I was just informed he is still going out with his friend. I asked if there was something else he could do that night other than that, and he said no, i then asked if he knew what saturday was and he said no.
Naturally i am upset, i know many women have this happen with their spouses, but man it stinks. He doesnt forget all the time, but most yrs he has forgotten..and he never remembers my birthday. I dont want gifts or even a card, but is it too much to ask of him to remember the day, and acknowledge it?
What are your thoughts, and how often does this happen to you, if at all.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi faln__angel1205 hi my hubby was the same way he had to be reminded of my birthday and of our anniversary almost every
year, once reminded he would make a fuss on my birthday. once he took me out to Spires to dinner and pretended he did not remember my birthday but after our dinner he nodded to one of the waitresses and here come the cook with a large birthday cake german chocolate if you please,and they all sang happy birthday
to me. what a surprise. I tell him as I think mine have selective memories which do not include birthdays or anniversaries either. I always got some kind of gift on our anniversary but I had to remind him. also who do you think mailed outthe christmas cards,me of course. Who sent his mom a birthday care me of course. guys are funny that way.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Yes, Hatley, they are. If it were left up to my husband not one Christmas card would get mailed and his side of the family would be mad at us every couple of months. 
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Let me give you a piece of advice...let your husband know when an important date is coming up. The only smart thing my ex-husband ever said was this, "All year long you keep track of everyone in the family's birthdays, anniversaries and special events. You always tell me when something is coming up so why is it that you don't tell me when the most important birthday (yours) or the most important anniversary (ours) is coming up?" I asked him why he couldn't remember two little dates and he said that I had trained him to not think about dates because I always remembered them. Then he asked me why I couldn't just tell him when my birthday (for instance) was coming up like I do with anyone else's? So, that's what I started doing. Remembering a specific date is not an indicator of love. Men don't think like women, this is widely known. So, instead of setting yourself up to have your feelings hurt, tell you husband that you are going to start letting him know a week in advance that your birthday or anniversary is on such and such day. Then it's up to him to take it from there.
