My Neighbor Called Me White Trash Again! Sick of Being Harrassed By This Jerk!
By schulzie
@schulzie (4061)
United States
December 2, 2009 7:18am CST
You might have read another one of my discussions here about a week ago about my neighbor and how he is verbally assaulting me and insulting me in the mornings when I take my children out to their bus stop at the condominium that I am renting.
If you want to familarize yourself with this situation you can read my other discussion about it here:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2189508.aspx
Anyways, today on December 2, 2009 at 7:18am EST (the last time was November 24, 2009 at the same time - 8 days ago), he is standing at his front door, inside the screen door and apparantly watching me as I was putting my girls on their school bus and greeting their driver. Mind you, the stop is outside the entrance to the condominiums and this is about 100 feet from his front door.
Anyhow, I told them goodbye and came walking back towards my condo (I have to pass his doorway which is at the end of the pathway and then turn right to go to my door). As I get to the end of the pathway and am turning towards my door (and I'm not looking at his residence at all - I'm looking at my phone to see if I have any missed calls), I hear his voice - in a louder than normal volume - say "Hey! White Trash!!".
You know, I think he is more "White Trash" than anybody else I have ever met before. I don't like calling people names like that, etc. but he does fit the title.
Anyways, this morning we did not even make any noise as we went out there and I didn't make any sound on the way back to my residence. It startled me when I heard him and saw him standing there and it got my heart racing. I cannot stand this jerk! I don't know what his problem is but he must not have a life at all that he is constantly paying attention to me and my family. I feel harassed. I know we are in a condo and it says that we should not be a nuisance or make loud noises, etc. My kids sometimes talk in a regular volume voice as we walk outside (because they're excited to go to school, etc.) but he is worse with what he is doing in calling me this racially charged slurs. He is white too but I don't think it is ok to call someone this, especially when they are minding their own business.
Actually, I just want him to stop doing this to me. I don't deserve this. I try to act like he doesn't exist to honest with you. But it is difficult when he keeps calling me names like this and watching me from his unit. This behavior is just uncalled for.
If any of you live in an association please tell me, should I complain to the Association's President here (she is friends with him and his father and she is an annoying busybody), or should I complain to the Property Management Company? I tell you one thing - the landlord will be sad because she will have a hard time again finding someone else to rent this place.
Please help me with your advice.
Thanks and happy myLotting!!!
I cannot tell you how glad it will be the day I can move from here. Good riddens!
You know, I think he is more "White Trash" than anybody else I have ever met before. I don't like calling people names like that, etc. but he does fit the title.
Anyways, this morning we did not even make any noise as we went out there and I didn't make any sound on the way back to my residence. It startled me when I heard him and saw him standing there and it got my heart racing. I cannot stand this jerk! I don't know what his problem is but he must not have a life at all that he is constantly paying attention to me and my family. I feel harassed. I know we are in a condo and it says that we should not be a nuisance or make loud noises, etc. My kids sometimes talk in a regular volume voice as we walk outside (because they're excited to go to school, etc.) but he is worse with what he is doing in calling me this racially charged slurs. He is white too but I don't think it is ok to call someone this, especially when they are minding their own business.
Actually, I just want him to stop doing this to me. I don't deserve this. I try to act like he doesn't exist to honest with you. But it is difficult when he keeps calling me names like this and watching me from his unit. This behavior is just uncalled for.
If any of you live in an association please tell me, should I complain to the Association's President here (she is friends with him and his father and she is an annoying busybody), or should I complain to the Property Management Company? I tell you one thing - the landlord will be sad because she will have a hard time again finding someone else to rent this place.
Please help me with your advice.
Thanks and happy myLotting!!!
I cannot tell you how glad it will be the day I can move from here. Good riddens!4 people like this
19 responses
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
2 Dec 09
We moved out of a very strict condominium association. A person could barely fart without someone complaining about it!
I would send a letter to the president of the association if I were you. I'd send it anonymously, but name the neighbor who is shouting these defamatory words. I'd put in the letter that I will be contacting a lawyer about a Defamation of Character lawsuit against this man unless he stops immediately.
Of course, they will contact him to see what he has to say about it and, if he names you as the person who wrote the letter, he'll be showing his guilt because only he would know who he's yelling at. At that point, you would actually have enough evidence to file a lawsuit against him for defamation of character because you'd have witnesses to him admitting that it's you.
Other than that, if you could record him saying this to you, you'd also have proof that he's doing it. It would not be his word against yours.
Good luck! I know what it's like to have horrible neighbors like this man. I had one neighbor who was always spying on me and gossiping. If there was nothing juicy for her to gossip about, she'd make it up. She was telling people how often I had pizza delivered to my house! This is a gal who liked to brag that she had two master's degrees and was working on her PhDs, in philosophy and psychology, no less! Anyone who has so much time to be spying on someone else like that has no life of their own. They are sad, pathetic people.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
3 Dec 09
Be careful about recording anyone. Some states absolutely forbid it or you have to notify the person you are recording them. Otherwise, you can end up in jail or with a nice hefty fine to pay.
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Definitely tell someone with authority. You should not have to put up with this.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
9 Dec 09
If I were you I'd go to the cops and have him charged with intimidation and stalking. He seems to be watching your every move, not just you but your children too. He's probably just a bully but there's no excuse for this sort of behaviour. Bite the bullet and have the guy charge. That should make him wake up to himself and he'll keep his nasty comments to himself. Good luck sweety...be strong.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I would complain to the people that are not his ASSociates. Its too bad people have to harrass others like that and make it impossible to live in peace in their own home. If that doesnt help you might try yelling back at him "F*#K OFF MORON!!!" That is after your kids are gone on the bus.
@tcup345 (358)
• United States
4 Dec 09
You certainly do not need this harrassment and your children do not need to hear this either. Go to whomever runs your establishment and complain, if nothing is done to stifle this jacka**, see an attorney. Your attorney will send a letter to whomever is in charge and to the jerk. You are paying rent and are entitled to live peacefully in your home environment, that includes the outside property. I would assume there are other children in the complex, your children are not the only ones who make noise there and it's common sense that children are not naturally quiet. Why is this man picking you for his target? If he doesn't like the noise, he can close his door. I think he is just an unhappy mean-spirited man and he found his whipping post-you. Judging by your letter, you must be a single parent, which makes you a better target for cowards who like to intimidate those who they think are lesser beings, namely women. If you had a man along with you the coward would be silent. His life is so small and inconsequential that he has to pick on someone weaker than himself in order to feel important. Complain to everyone who is in charge of the complex, if that doesn't work, go to a lawyer, it won't cost much for a consultation and a couple of letters. This is and will affect your health and is not good for your children, take a stand and be a good example for your children and you will feel better about yourself also. By the way, he is violating the "no noise" policy and he is also violating your rights as a tenant, and as a human being. Imagine the charges that could be brought up from that sentence alone!
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
3 Dec 09
First, I would report him to your landlord. She should then contact the association since she is the owner and paying the Condo fees. She should be very interested in keeping her tenants happy. The next move,if she doesn't contact the association, you try to do it and contact the management company, too. If that fails, confront the fool. Go up to him and ask what you did to make him act in such a nasty manner. Let him know if it continues, you will be contacting legal help to stop his continuing harrassment. Then do it. Go to the police. Check with an attorney. See what your options are, short of moving. There is no reason for anyone to be as rude as this man is being, no matter where he's living.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I would first contact the police and ask what can be done. I would then contact all, landlord and all the rest. You should not have to put up with this. He is violating the rules just by doing this and is also watching your moves. That would scare me a bit. Get on the phone and contact these people. Better yet, go in person and talk with them.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I think you've already got some great answers here.....I would get a recorder of some type...that cell phone you have, does it have video or voice recording on it? That would be a good start!
I'd go to the police and start filing reports and get a restraint order, he can't approach you or speak to you after that without the possibility of going to jail.
I'd keep my cell phone handy, charged and keep 9-1-1 on speed dial.
Someone mentioned 'sticks and stones'
While names will never physically hurt you, they will mentally stress you out, along with other verbal abuse that you shouldn't have to be dealing with.
Something you and your kids don't need to hear.
At one point I lived in a trailer park, all the kids there basically were the definition of 'trailer trash' because of how they were treated in the community and at school. I told my kids, they didn't need to let someone else define who or what they were....they didn't let anyone do that to them. When we moved to the house in the same community my daughter was told by another kid at school that they would have never guessed we lived in the trailer park because she didn't act like everyone else that lived there.....my advice would be to keep letting your kids know that this man or no one else can define who they are except themselves and I would most definitely make sure that you or someone else is at the bus stop at the end of the day to get the kids so he doesn't have the opportunity to verbally abuse your kids.
Is there another arrangement you could make with the bus driver to maybe pick the kids up before it gets to that area so he could be avoided?
Best of Luck with this situation, hope it gets better for you!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Dec 09
You feel as if you are being harrassed because you are. Its actually kind of creepy to tell you the truth. He calls you these things in front of your kids? It's abusive. I'd report it to property management. You are doing good by not reacting to him but I'm sure it must be hard.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Honestly before saying anything to any proper authority about this piece of trash I would pack what belongings I can and have my kids staying somewhere safe like with family members or really good friend preferrably in another town.
I'm not meaning to scare but the man souds like a sychopathic freak
@maezee (41988)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Well, tell SOMEBODY anyway! Definitely! That's horrible; what a jerk. Yelling out "white trash!" is NEVER acceptable, EVER, no matter who it's coming from or who it's going to - even if the person in question MIGHT actually fall into that category (which you obviously don't.) But that's never OK. Did this man skip kindergarten? When we learned to use manners and social etiquette, or what?
I would definitely alert your property manager or land lord or anyone who overlooks the condos. In fact, the more people you tell, the better it is. In fact, I think confronting him would also be a good idea. I'm sure you've noticed that keeping your nose out of it hasn't done anything yet. I'm not saying go pick a fight with the guy, but you could let him know that he's pissing you off. And let him know just exactly how you feel, maybe with a few profanity words thrown in here or there just to get the point across. So I would say definitely let your property manager or landlord or whoever's in charge know of the situation - and possibly get a little dramatic about it, too, saying, perhaps, that it's making living there unbearable, and if he continues to do this.. You might have to leave once your lease is up. Of course they want you to continue renting from them, so they'll be put in a situation where they'll have to do something about it. Good luck to you! And seriously, I can't imagine being in this position. But it sounds like you're coping pretty well with it.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
3 Dec 09
I would report it first to the Property Management company. I'm not sure what they could do but try them first. If you don't get anywhere with them then go to the Association President. What I would do is totally ignore him and have music playing in my ear so I don't have to hear him. Don't look in his direction and make sure he notices that you are occupied with your music and paying him not a bit of attention. I bet it will stop because he now knows you can't hear him. People like this make me so sick. He probably has serious mental issues. Good luck to you.
@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
3 Dec 09
You should call the property management and report what he is doing. Tell them what he said to you in front of your kids. If they say they can not do anything then call the police and explain to them maybe they can talk to him for you and get him to leave you alone. I would also see about getting a restraining order against this man then if the police have to be call again you can show them the restraining order.
@ziyadahinc212 (552)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Schulzie; First of all, I have lived around jerks like this and he's starting to become fixated on YOU... STOP IT NOW! I'm not trying to scare you but, a FOOL like this ONLY RESPECTS ONE THING...A NIGHT IN JAIL!! Call the police an report this A-hole TODAY! GOD forbid he gets it in his mind that he can take it up a notch or 2.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I would go to the association president and tell her if something isn't done you will go to the property management. Give her 2 days to resolve the situation then make good on your threat. Does he do this to anyone else? I don't remember if you mentioned that before or now. Maybe you have some witnesses you don't know about that could help you or have been harassed by him. Good luck!
@jerzgirl (9291)
• United States
2 Dec 09
You might first check with your landlord about who to contact, but I think his behavior qualifies as harassment legally. You should be able to file a complaint against him with the city. There's nothing more "white trash" to me than someone who stalks their neighbor (waiting by his door for you to come out I think qualifies as a type of stalking) to yell insults at them when they've done nothing to disturb him. This man is a public nuisance and needs to be treated as such. He doesn't own the world and has to abide by the same civil guidelines as everyone else.
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
He's at it again huh? Given the two possible options that you mentioned, I would be more in favor of telling the landlord rather than the Association President. The Landlord might not be as biased as the Association President. It is unfortunate that the landlord will lose another tenant but she can understand that its not safe to bring up children in that kind of environment. It also is not a good environment to live in for anyone. You might also find a way to record his behavior as evidence for your claims. It might be needed.
That's just what I think about it anyways. Goodluck to you. Only 4 months to go and you're homefree.^_^
@spiderweb316 (68)
• Germany
2 Dec 09
Well, seems your in a bit of a bind with all this. If it were me id just shove my fist down his throat, but thats not an answer thats just my solution. I would talk to the property management company, or the owner of the condos. Or you could a restraining order on him, who knows. Have you confronted this guy at all, most of the time it is best to not confront someone like this, but it also sounds like to me he is more or less stalking you which is kinda creepy. He might be just doing this for attention, who knows. If you have a male friend maybe he can confront the guy and talk with him and let him know he needs to stop harrasing you. I would contact the owner, your a renter of the property and you have rights too, so talk with him or her and find out what you can do, maybe she or he will talk with him, and then it will stop..
