How to recognise the real love to end in marriage

hi lekshmic, there is no way to recognize real love (if there is any..lol..)..we cannot predict the future..so we can't tell the love will end in marriage or not..for me, there is no true love..there is only love..just do our best in love even if we don't know how it will end.. p/s: there will be no fun if we already know the end of the story.. :)

Hi lekshmic. Welcome to myLot. I hope you will enjoy many happy hours here. One definite answer to your question is that there is NO instant recognition. While we could make a list of qualities we would like to see in our life partner, we cannot instantly see these. I think the biggest problem - and the most common fault of NOT recognising real love - is the way young people seem to RUSH INTO a relationship. Love is NOT instant. While there can be an instant mutual attraction and even a desire, love takes TIME and develops from many things. I have counselled many teens and young adults. They often declare, after one date, "I am in love" - and the following week, they are "in love" with someone else! My counsel is ALWAYS to get to know someone; to get to know their likes and dislikes; their idiosyncrasies and habits; their hopes and ideals; their ethics and mannerisms: their entire personality under many and varied circumstances. This takes time and that time should NOT be clouded by emotions brought about by intimate relationships. When two people get to know each other like this, their relationship will change and love will develop. That love will grow, and will culminate as each commits to the other in a lifelong commitment on the wedding night. Friendship - genuine, bonding friendship - should always come before love, because in an ideal marriage, your partner will be your very best friend. I have been VERY happily married to my husband (my very best friend) for almost 50 years.