Do you hate admitting when you are wrong?
By minx267
@minx267 (15527)
Hartford, Connecticut
December 2, 2009 11:35pm CST
I think most people are like me and don't like to admit they are wrong.
I like learning new things and learning from my mistakes, But I don't like it
when people point out that I have done something that is not so right - lol (I don't even want to say wrong)
A for instance, Today I started a discussion here. and then I read it to my roommate. He listened to it all and then told me I was long winded. And that I could've made 3 posts out of what I wrote..
But I wanted to get it all out.. to show all the points..
Anyway, I spent all day checking my emails and I only got 2 responses.
So now I have to admit to myself and to him that I MAY have been wrong.. lol- oops still cant do it.. (Hey, there are always other factor and extenuating circumstances, right?) hehe
It would really help me out if you could check out my other discussion- it's titled
I'm Amazed and either comment on it (if I am not wrong, or come back here and tell me if he is right.. he he(I don't want him to see) and maybe give me some advice, that is if you also agree I was a bit too long winded.
But enough about me.
So do you hate admitting your wrong? Do you have any examples of situations where it has just about killed you to have to do it?
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@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
not really hating it. sometimes i felt bad for myself why i did such thing, knowing that its not really good or knowing whats the outcome. but sometimes also temptation is very tempting. LOL
its hard to resist some stuff of not doing even its wrong. whew
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
3 Dec 09
yes- I forgot that we can learn from others mistakes if we are observant. I often gave my friend advice that she never took and i was disheartened. I had learned from my mistakes and was trying to share the benefit of experience so she wouldn't make the same mistake I had.. BUt apparently she had to learn it for herself.. Oh well.
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@dodo19 (47268)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
3 Dec 09
I have absolutely no problem realizing that I have made mistakes and admitting to my mistakes. It's only normal that I would make mistakes. It's a part of being human. I think that so long as you can realize that you've made a mistake and learned from it, then that's really the important thing.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
3 Dec 09
yes, I agree. but sometimes I don't like to admit them to other people - to myself is fine- to learn a lesson is fine. I don't like people accusing me- it just rubs me the wrong way.. and yes it is the human thing to learn from mistakes and to grow.
@earnwidfun (93)
• India
3 Dec 09
i agree we should get realised of wat we hav done no need to tell everybody and get humiliated over n over again.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Dec 09
If I am wrong, I will suck it up and admit it. It is only fair. I would want someone else to do the same.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I am and if they are that way, I will return the favor when they are wrong. I treat others the way they treat me.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
3 Dec 09
i can admit when i am wrong but like you i do not appreciate when people bring up past transgressions and kind of rub it in your face. it is ok for me to be self-critical but i really do not like it when others are especially when i do not ask for their opinion. i am wrong alot but i refer back to those times in times of stress and unease and remember that my instincts and feelings can be wrong and i need to rely on that as well as when they are right.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
3 Dec 09
it is nice to know others feel the way you do. you are not alone.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
3 Dec 09
Hi Minx, if I am I've no problem conceding but don't like being told I'm wrong by someone who is themselves wrong and has no idea what they are talking about.
I especially like people to point out when I am using Greek wrong otherwise I'll think I've got it right and that will do nothing but reinforce my mistake and I'll carry on doing it. I also find an outright correction to my use of a word will make it stick more as I remember the correction next time.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
3 Dec 09
that's great.. You know my mother was not so gracious as you. She lived in the US since she was 9 but came here from Germany and many times she would say words wrong and I would correct her. Not because I was trying to be mean and say that's wrong- but so that she would not be embarrassed if out in public and continued to use the wrong word. But After pointing out the wrong pronunciation of the same word for the 3rd time or so.. she would start getting made at me.
Some people apparently, not only don't want to be told they are wrong, but don't want to learn from their mistakes.
And The fact that my roommate is a genius and so often probably is right- he gets away with a lot..- But when he is not the one doing the discussing - how can he tell me I am wrong.. he should have just said in my opinion this would have been better if... But that is not how people who think they are superior behave do they?
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
3 Dec 09
Well I quite enjoy popping in on the superior types on here, usually found in politics, and correcting them, and they really don't appreciate that at all as would prefer to perpetate their mistakes or hide them in embarrasment.
The language thing is pretty vital though and not enough people do correct me as they know what I've meant to say but a correction once is better than trying to master the complexity of Greek grammar from a book. I also correct myself when I speak but most tell me not to bother, it didn't matter. I really appreciate the ones who straight up correct me though.
@letssstalk (285)
• India
3 Dec 09
No I am not , in fact i feel lite after accepting my fault, Infact so many time i dont hasitate to say sorry to my partner for the sake of love/ realtion with out thinking who is on fault. we just love to stop it and go head
thanks
@letssstalk (285)
• India
5 Dec 09
Sorry Is very nice word to won heart of someone.Sometime Our Some minor mistake, are responsible to hurt Our loveonce deeply and after some if we say sorry to them with this promise I dont DO this again ,it works like magic.
So dear friend dont hate it.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 09
Hi minx, I will feel easy and relaxed 
after admitting the error I have made. For me, it’s really a burden to carry the fault we have made all the time. It’s meaningless to seek to be the number one among others. So I don’t mind to admit my fault if I really make mistake. People around, our loved ones or close friends will feel fed up 
to get together with us anymore if we always try to hide our mistake which actually is revealed clearly. I will admit my mistake straight away if I have discovered it. I will beg for apology at the same time as well
Though I haven't had a look at the discussions you mentioned above. I know there are still many discussions with lengthy contents did engage lots of responses. I'm not good in creating discussion, but I guess may be those topics in real life situation are more interesting. For most of us have experience to share with the writer. Therefore such topic will receive more responses I suppose!
Have a nice day and happy posting
after admitting the error I have made. For me, it’s really a burden to carry the fault we have made all the time. It’s meaningless to seek to be the number one among others. So I don’t mind to admit my fault if I really make mistake. People around, our loved ones or close friends will feel fed up to get together with us anymore if we always try to hide our mistake which actually is revealed clearly. I will admit my mistake straight away if I have discovered it. I will beg for apology at the same time as well
Though I haven't had a look at the discussions you mentioned above. I know there are still many discussions with lengthy contents did engage lots of responses. I'm not good in creating discussion, but I guess may be those topics in real life situation are more interesting. For most of us have experience to share with the writer. Therefore such topic will receive more responses I suppose!
Have a nice day and happy posting @minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
5 Dec 09
Thanks for responding.. I will admit when I am wrong to. but in this case he was just supposing that I was going to be wrong and I did get a few responses to the other discussion so that was enough to show that I was not necessarily wrong. Just maybe a little.. :) maybe I would have gotten more if it was shorter.. I guess I will never know.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I really do not have a problem with admitting that I am wrong on most occasions. I hate it only when people rub it in that I was wrong about something. Now, that gets on my last nerve.
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Usually I have no problems with admitting that I'm wrong, but, when people go out of their way to point out a wrong that I've done, well, to me that is meanspiritedness and they also suffer from low self esteem. Those people I do my best to stay away from.
Purrs,
Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
5 Dec 09
LOL. You may have hit the nail on the head with that one. He is very paranoid at times. always thinking that a conspiracy is about to happen to him. So he probably does have some low self esteem issues..
Unfortunately he is still one of my best friends for like 21 years now. So... I guess I just have to deal with it and let most of it roll off my back..
Thanks :)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Everyone is wrong sometimes and it shouldn't be a hard thing to accept, but it is for everyone that I know. Everytime that you are wrong about something there is some sort of consequence for it and it is the consequences that we really don't want to accept, not just the fact that we were wrong.
One specific example of where I was wrong in my life was when I was in my early twenties and I was too trusting of people. Because of that trust I had everything that I had stolen from me, including my college tuition and all the other money that I had to my name. Well, the consequences for that are that I am still paying back money to people 10 years later.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
7 Dec 09
wow. That sucks big time.. And the other consequence is probably that your don't trust people so easily anymore huh?- Of course nowadays it is good to be cautious but my roommate takes it to another level.. some paranoia and it seems everything is some kind of conspiracy to ruin his day or life. lol
Sorry to hear about your bad luck.
@hotaru_imai26 (152)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
well, sometimes i do, other times i don't. that's why i'm praying to God to remove this hatred i'm getting when i have to admit i'm wrong.. it's such a bothersome feeling, you know? good thing that when i pray, God answers my prayers about admitting my wrong doings. so i suggest we ask God also for forgiveness in not being humble enough to admit our errors. :)
@DarkMarixx (331)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
I always admit my fault because for me, it is the best way to make me feel better. I don't want to hide any sins but not all the time. What I hate is lying to me. That was the most hateful thing for me. Just wanna share!!^^,
@diabass09 (1)
• United States
4 Dec 09
#1 Have you seen the lengths of some of the other posts? You haven't even touched long-winded. And even if you did, you kept it interesting. Not long and boring. When it comes to admitting I'm wrong, I really don't have a problem with it. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong. But if I have the opprtunity to prove myself right after admitting that I was wrong, I will.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
4 Dec 09
Well, I know I have seen the length of the one liner(discussions)posts and vowed not to post any of those. But i know a few that do write long discussions.. and Opal just made me remember that I READ those and I enjoy them.. LOL - I do try to keep it interesting if I post a long on. Inject a little humor, ask a few questions.. And since I don't post often it is usually something that struck me as interesting to begin with.. Gee thanks you last two guys have made me realize that by almost admitting defeat that I was just about to LET him be right..
That can't be good it can have many repercussions...
ok. I am ready to face him and tell him I am not wrong, because... and anyway, bemy friends said so :-p
Thanks for the response it has lifted me up.
@grajesh29 (99)
• India
4 Dec 09
Minx267 what you think is almost correct with almost 95% people in the world..........
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
3 Dec 09
Hi minx27,
I don’t mind to admit my mistakes but I don’t like if somebody blames me. I must do the same with good intention but it went wrong then if somebody blames then I may get angry. Usually if I did any mistake I am realizing the same in the next moment so it is not difficult for me to admit to somebody. I will try to learn from it.
Your friend may be a good criticizer and good criticism can help us in a positive way.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
3 Dec 09
Hey minx! I haven't seen your other discussions, but I wouldn't
be upset! Sometimes it takes people time before they respond!
And as for being long winded, have you seen some of the other
discussions that people write? Never feel bad about writing
as much as you want or saying what you need to say! There are
alot of us who do the very same thing! If someone is interested
in reading a discussion like they are supposed to then they
won't mind reading a "long" discussion! I know that I don't
mind and have alot of friends who do write long discussions and
I tend to write long responses!lol So, your roomate is wrong!
And you can tell him I said so!
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
4 Dec 09
LOL. You made me feel better.. That is true my other friends write long discussions and I READ them... SO how can my long discussion be wrong?
It was probably the subject material.. but I did finally get a few responses. So although I can't rub it in his face too much.. It worked to a point.
Thank you for taking the time to actually read this one.. :)
ps. I love long responses to.. Gabs and I can go back and forth all day and then it looks like we should publish a book. :)
And I will definitely tell him that you said so! Thanks
@smartjack (520)
• India
3 Dec 09
hey even i have faced such a situation many times. It is so embracing sometimes. But it is better to accept your mistake if you have done one. The morale here is that try and avoid to make any mistake. try to be right always. If you do a mistake then you must accept it.
@chriszh22 (432)
• China
3 Dec 09
No I don't. Cause I believe people should be honest to himself. It's not a shameful thing to admit the fault. If there's no fault, there be no success. Try to change your attitude towards the fault is very important.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
3 Dec 09
I don't mind admitting to myself when I am wrong.. But when other people
make a big deal about it (because that means they are right) I get defensive.
But it is very good to remember our mistakes and learn from them- that's what life is about, right?
