How to keep a good relationship with your best friend?
@dengzhifei213 (37)
China
December 3, 2009 12:34am CST
Ling is my best friend during university.We graduated together this year.We are working in different city now.We haven't seen each other for 4 months.The worse is that I found we don't have common topic anymore.We were silence after a short talk.It seems that we now have a different job,different life,many things have changed,but the friendship will also be changed ?
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@GaryJoule (211)
• China
3 Dec 09
As long as no money involved between you and your friend, you could keep the good relationship with him.
what's the best friend?
Best friend is the one who you face without talking, both of you don't feel embarrassed or wrong.
@dengzhifei213 (37)
• China
3 Dec 09
very nice.Best friend is the one who you face without talking,both of you don't feel embarrassed or wrong.
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
communication would be the key to long lasting friendship. Its not hard to communicate with distant friends in todays world. There are lots of technologies to choose from. As long as communication is constant between you two, then your friendship would still grow strong.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Dec 09
As far as I am concerned, I think you may feel the relationship between you and your friend has come some strange. I think the most useful way to have a good relationship is that you can keep in touch with each other as often as possible. Just talk about the old days or some other people , In this way, I think you will get some in common with you two.Then the relation will be better. Happy mylot.
@hotaru_imai26 (152)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
you are Ling's best friend, and being the BEST of all the friends she got, for sure you know the things she likes, dislikes, her interests, or people involved in her life. try talking to her about your past experiences together during your college days and i'm sure you'll be laughing at funny events that happened when you were still together. :)
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
3 Dec 09
Yes, after graduating, some people have to focus totally on their new lives, especially when you have set your goals or are quite ambitious in life. Give your friend some space, but do call or send notes, so she knows that she still has a friend. Change is a process that goes through your whole life. You will change too, especially later when you get married and have children. College and university life are the happiest and most fun season in our life. Try to learn about her new activities and thoughts and plans. Be a good listener. This is one quality that everybody is seeking in a good friendship.
@soledadclickz (1106)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
Hi. I could relate to you. My university friends and I are just seeing each other once a year. We've graduated in 2001 and we have different jobs from different cities in the country. We talk on the phone during especial events like birthdays. We would chat on facebook or YM once in a while. But the chat does not really last longer than five to ten minutes. When we arrange personal meetings, we could no longer chat on common topics except for personal and work updates from the last time we've seen each others. But still, we're happy to see one another.
@dengzhifei213 (37)
• China
3 Dec 09
hehe.We are indeed similar.Thank you so much .I will learn from you.
@deemazing (395)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I've had this happen to me a few times. People change and grow into "new" people. They adapt to their new lifestyles and are not always interested in their old lifestyles. The best way to keep a good relationship is to talk to your friend whenever you can and bring up fond memories that you shared, and also be sure to ask your friend about their new interests.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
it also happen to me when friends transfer other schools or places the relationship between friends changes when their priorities in life also changes. Though, its been a long time you have not seen each other you could still be friends as some because of longer communication becomes shy in making their fist conversation. Thus, if your friend is silent you should do the opposite to makes the conversation even livelier bu asking her life, the things she do and enjoy so that both of you could relate to each other.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
I guess the best way to keep it is through keep an open communication and trust each other to the fact that you feel comfortable saying to each other's secrets.
@dengzhifei213 (37)
• China
3 Dec 09
Yes,you are right.Thank you so much for your suggestion.But sometimes it is not convenient to tell some secrets.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
Try to communicate your best friend by calling,visit even though your have a big part of your life the important is in your heart you love it's other.
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
It's really hard if your best friend for a long time is already far away because maybe she has her own family now. You should accept the reality that she has to meet other friends also but it doesn't mean that she forgets you. All you need to do is to have a constant contact with her so you can exchange thoughts even if you are far from each other.
@DarkMarixx (331)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
TO keep a good relationship with my best friend, I'm just proving that I'm the best for my friend. I also avoid things that can make us fight or anything that can make our relationship in danger. I admit that sometimes, best friends are getting more than friends. It is true as what I've experienced. Just wanna share my thoughts! Good day to all!^^,
@haryosasongko (92)
• Indonesia
4 Dec 09
Yes, it could be. Everyone's dynamic. And it was influenced by their surroundings, whether at home, work, home and family, and so on. I have many close friends when junior. We used very often school, play, walk, ride the bus together. When I entered high school and moved out of town, at first I still had contact with them, either by telephone, or letter (previously there was no mobile phone). But for long, it was like a bland relationship, and in my new town, I was faced with the culture and customs of local people who changed me, and have new friends. And little by little, I began to forget the friendship my friends my junior high school first, even I have to work now, I never connected with my friends are. Once upon a time, when I was in college, I was invited to come to my junior high school homecoming, and I met again with some of my friends. But, well ... not much we can talk about, because they too have changed over time, they are grown up, have their own thoughts, own lifestyle, the subject itself, and so on. But for me, it was disconnected, because they've turned into someone else, not my friends once. At most, just ask the A present in which, the B class in which, only that .... So back to your topic was, it is naturally if friendships can fade, even disappear, due to differences in distance, cultures and habits, lifestyle, rarely to communicate, the presence of new friends , and so on. How to maintain a good friendship? Stay in touch, in any way.
@reddream (11)
• China
3 Dec 09
I do have the sence before. You two must get the same topic you all like. Because your jobs are different and you live in different cities it is easy to have a gap. I think the best way to keep in touch with friend is keeping the same topic. If a topic you do not like you will not want to listen her. Do you think so?
@Nancy23 (36)
• China
3 Dec 09
I think the friendship will change over time ,and I have a very good friend, but also do not know why this year,but did not contact me ,and I could not find her email also did not respond to her,although she felt that our friendship has a different past ,but that she is always busy.
@irelee2006 (71)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
best friends are worth to keep. I also had my best friend since we were in grade school.we separated when we were in college because we enrolled in different courses but we find time to be together whenever possible.we only lost communication when we have our jobs. She works abroad. for so many years i have'nt heard from her until i found her in the internet and we tried to communicate with each other now.Yes people change but the friendship that we have built for years did not change. I guess try to have an open communication.maybe you can send messages through mobile phones, write a letter, send cards during special occasions.these are the ways that will help you keep your friendship.