thinking several times
By spoiled311
@spoiled311 (5500)
Philippines
December 3, 2009 12:38am CST
we have always heard old people say that marriage should not be jumped into without thinking much about it. because even with much preparation, we still do not know what lies ahead of us.
my husband and i are already middle aged when we got married. we love each other very much and agree most of the time. but in areas where we disagree, we can fight really violently. not really physically, but verbally. and it is emotional draining.
take for instance our disagreement in the way we should feed our baby. our baby does not eat well. we have tried everything. something went awry in our conversation and we fought and our baby was around. we shouted at each other.
our baby cried. i feel bad for our baby. but more so, i feel bad why we cannot seem to communicate.
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@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Dec 09
As far as I am concerned, I think you have some common with me. My girl friend usually sometimes may quarrel with me,which I think they are some little things in daily life.Maybe it just should we think several times. For me, I think I just need to calm down ,which may contribute a lot to our relationship between my girl friend and I. Happy mylot.
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@babyblue82289 (7)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I am not married and nor do i plan to be in the near future at all. I have however been the child in a family that is not happy. My mother has been devorced twice and in each situation it was a long road before she walked away.I watched relationships go from happy to sad to angry to violent. My parents would try to hide it from me at certain times but the tension was always felt. I also have 5 siblings and as I grew up my main concentration was shielding them from the fighting and tears. People say that its the little things that count and it is true. But in a family that argues the little things are usually the things that go wrong; family dinners, movie night, game night. Things that should be fun for the family become a dreaded event for everyone. Luckily your baby is still young and probably wont remember these things going on know. However you and your husband need to learn to communicate and compromise. That is the one thing I have learned from my childhood if you cant compromise you will never make it. Good Luck
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