Ladies - Is it Necessary To get Married once You Get Pregnant?

For me it depends on both of person. Most of the young parents love each other and lead to immediate wedding. But for those who just making fun doing it and accidentally got pregnant, its not necessary for her to get married because she is pregnant. In my own opinion if the girl was brave enough to face the consequences of what she did then its her decision wether to get married or not. But if they both love each other and they both willing to accept the obligation then go for it.

Many couples who have a child together no longer marry because of that. Unless they are in love, that is perhaps a wise decision. Better to raise a child on your own than in a household where love does not exist. The problem with marrying simply because a baby has been born is that one or the other partner, if they didn't really want to marry, will end up bitter and resentful and behave accordingly. Karen

krystalheart it depends on the age and circumstances of each woman who is pregnant. a kid who goofed and got pregnant might opt not to marry the father and live with her parents and keep the baby or if she is older and loves the man she should marry him if the feelings are mutual.If both know they want to marry for goodness sakes do it now before its apparent she is pregnant. no one answer for this complex question.

That is a good question. It would really depend upon the situation. If the girl is a young girl and she has only been dating the guy for a little while then maybe it is not a good choice to get married. If You are living with guy and have been for awhile and the marriage has been a topic before you got pregnant then maybe it just might be the right time. I don't think that you should get married just because you became pregnant. Have a nice day and keep smiling.

necessary for me if your both in love and financially ready to build a family, marriage is a major decision, so if for example you are still a student and you got pregnant well for me immediate wedding is not the only solution,cuz for some people it might be a big problem,anyone doesn't want to tie the knot unless they are willing to take full responsibility,right?

Hi krystalheart, i'm nOt a lady but i just want tO cOmment. PardOn me fOr my sarcasm, i just wOnder why lOts Of girls nOw are getting pregnant when they knOw they haven't tied the knOt. Pregnancy is nOt a reasOn fOr getting married althOugh sOme girls think that getting pregnant wOuld preempt a wedding. It's always the girl at the lOsing end when the guy wOuld run away and tells her he is nOt ready tO have a family. FOr me, it's best and necessary fOr a girl to have first her marriage vOws before getting pregnant....and NOT to get pregnant in Order tO have that wedding gOwn.

There is no way a pregnancy need lead to a wedding. In our society it very often doesnt.Usually these pregnancies are unplanned. The women doesnt necessarily want to marry the Father, nor do fathers here feel obliged to marry a pregnant woman. Naturally though, the Father is obliged to contribute to the childs welfare, once it is born.

No, not unless it is what the couple really wants. Pregnancy is no reason to enter into an emotional/legal contract with someone you would not otherwise be in such a contract with.

This is an old ploy that women have been using since time began, If you can't get your man to commit, get pregnant and use that as leverage. It used to work nine times out of ten, but lately people have been slower to get hitched. Perhaps they are getting smarter as they see the Statistics on marriage. (51% of all marriages fail.) Would you buy a car if the stats on cars were no better than those on marriage? I doubt very much that cars would be a big seller! Lets face it - marriage has outlived its usefulness. Just ask Tiger Woods!

If you are pregnancy with a man you are dating exclusively I would consider getting married. Try not to move in with him, don't give away all the benefits you have to offer as a girlfriend its sooo not worth it. It is better to either date and not marry b/c the relationship is not serious and not live together. Please do not move in with him, and put yourself fin a situation where you end up having to depend on him financially if he is not your husband. He may then claim he does not want to marry you, after you have lived with him through the pregnancy and birth of the baby. If you are talking about getting married do it. Set a date, go to the courthouse if you have to, and plan a ceremony at a later date.

Nope , it is not the basis to be married it is a wrong notion and its is a old tradition. As long as the guy guarantee t support the baby it is alright for me as i do not like to get caught up in marriage it very expensive to get annulment after finding out in a couple of years you are not really compatible. being pregnant is not an excuse to get marriage as i myself like to maintain my freedom. i like to postpone marriage unless i am very sure of my feeling at least i think many times which would hope not end up in a lots of regrets. Though, in other country being pregnant is not a big deal and so is getting married as anyone could divorce quickly.

No just because a lady is pregnant is no reason to rush into a wedding. Sometimes a lady and the father of the baby rush into a wedding and then later on start blaming each other for things going wrong in their life and the baby sometimes suffer from all the arguing and fighting going on. The couple needs to be their for their baby but do not necessary have to be married.

Nope. In today's world it is better if both are financially stable before getting married. Pregnancy is no longer a valid reason for getting married. If both couple were not emotionally prepared for a married life, then it would be better if the marriage to be postponed.

Dear Krystalheart, With reference to your question, I dont think that immediate wedding is the remedy for the unwanted pregnancy. There are times, unwanted pregnancy is only the result of abrupt decision. That the previous abrupt decision cannot be corrected by another quick decision. Getting married should be think about a 100 times because marriage life is quite complicated. You must embrace all the do's and dont's that you will going to see to each other.

If the women is very religious and if her parents doesn't allow this things to happen without marriage i guess it will lead to marriage. But on our modern world today, some of them are living in one house or the guy is living in the house of the girl because he is the father but they are not married. I saw it here in my neighborhood. For them marriage is not necessary as long as they are together while the child is growing. It never happen to me and I hope it will not, for me the right thing is to lead to marriage. Because they will be having a future family growing, it has to lead to marriage. they have to do the right thing over the mistake they had done. However some of the women today do not just accept marriage. For them although they are having a baby, they are not ready for much deeper responsibility of having a family. It might takes time for them and there are things much more important than getting married. I guess the decision is for the girl or women.Because me if I am not ready to get married I will not get married, but that is not the right way.

Certianly not. Those olden days are gone. Stay single. Give the baby your last name. If the dad wants to be involved fine. But your probably better off never getting entangled ina marriage.

Well, you've actually hit on a subject that is near and dear to my heart here. Today is my daughter's seventh birthday and she was born before I was married. So my answer to this question should be fairly clear. I don't think that it is necessary to get married just because you find out that you are pregnant. I did end up getting married to her father, eventually, but we decided after Kathryn was born that we were going to wait to get married until she was old enough to participate in our wedding as well. We waited until she was almost 20 months old to get married and she was our flower girl.

In my view point it is necessary if ladies dont have the guts to face the society and prove that she can look after the child. Forget about the society. Their first battle begins at home. The girl can be like that but what about her family. They have to answer to the society. The girl has to earn her living to fend for herself and the child. Medication, school fees, clothes etc has become very expensive.

Sorry for answering this because i am not a lady but i still want to say somethings.When a women becomes pregnant she can start taking birth control pills.But these pills wont have great effect on you.So you will get pregnant even before marriage.It will be a real shame for you.To avoid this you should have to make an immediate wedding....

I am still in singlehood stage of life. but I insist on once get pregnant I will hv the baby.. as you know, the first baby is the best one in women's life. But it is too early for me talk about it. But I would like to get married when get pregnant if I love the man.