please help me.. what does this mean?
By april_02
@april_02 (82)
Philippines
December 3, 2009 10:22am CST
I am confused with what this guy is trying to show me.. he sometimes asks me out, like playing badminton (although he has other badminton playmates), going to the mall to buy something for himself or his family.. he doesn't text me and I can't feel that he is concerned about me.. but I can feel that he is comfortable with me.. he shows his real attitude and worst sides to me.. I can see and feel that he is happy when I am around and he plays jokes with me.. he sometimes shares his deepest sentiments with me.. he alwayws teases me, and sometimes he is a little bit sweet.. but sometimes he's rude.. i am confused.. what does his actions mean? is this just friendship or does it mean that he likes me?? i am confused...
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15 responses
@ameng328 (66)
• China
4 Dec 09
Be patient and just wait and see.Don't always try to figure out the boy's feeling and if you really want to know,ask him at a proper time (text him or else).But be careful your question had better not be so sensitive.Best of luck.
@glazedonuts (52)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
I think one suitable action to that kind of situation would be to ask the guy if something bothers him or if he is having some kind of a problem. Present yourself to him as a caring and concerned friend and tell him in a lightly way or, if possible, in a funny way, that you are slowly noticing changes in his behavior. It will depend on his answer whether we can get a hint if he has feelings for you or is just being too friendly towards you.
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hello April! I think that guy likes you as a friend for this time. He just wanted to you more but maybe that friendship will grow into a more intimate relationship. But for now don't expect too much about his actions because you might get disappointed that his closeness to you is just for being a friend. You might just misjudge his actions towards you. Maybe one you could ask him if he has already a relationship so he can open up what's in his mind.
@letssstalk (285)
• India
4 Dec 09
HI april
its possible he will be fall in love with you in time but all detail what you given above shows that he takes you as his friends only! sorry! if i am rude/wrong but i felt this. becasue all this usually so many friends do with friends probably close friend but just friend not feel love yet.
Dont Be sad MY friend !you do one thing in order to solve your confusion you should notice one thing that is he takes your extra care , think most about you and doing all this activities with you only or with every one. if he is reserve for others and just feel comfort with you,then it is good news for YOU, may be he is on way of Love and hopefully in time he starts to show it. but if he is same with every one then ...I am too confuse what it is? .
But I am sure for one thing it i.e God knows about BOY's heart but you definetly like him [feel something from heart for him} and litle bit serious for him, if its not true then why you thought much about him? why notice his activites ?
think about this Once
All the best! cheers
take care
@guizoo (74)
• China
4 Dec 09
Oh my god! take it is easy my dear buddy,you are just in the good friendship ,do not think too much about that,just engjoy your friendly relation.
Ahm..but..I guess you are very like he,If you really fell in love with he,just take the initiative to tell him frankly.
take care...God bless you!
@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
4 Dec 09
Well, its really very difficult to say that some body likes you then only he does like this ....but he is your nice friend now ...that we can tell from your story ...
@missweety (626)
• Latvia
3 Dec 09
Hello!
I think this guy is a real stranger and probably he doesn't know yet what he really wants!!! So don't expect anything serious from him till he will gets clear with himself at first!!!
You can try to speak with him about other guys and look for the reaction if you don't want to ask him straight for if he is interested in you like in woman/girl or just a friend.:)
Good luck and I hope this guy will understand what kind of girl he has met and stop his silly attitude!!!
Have a Great day!!!
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
3 Dec 09
I think for right now he wants friendship a buddy ,kind of a buddy but with a more softer sentimental side than could not be had from a male.I think he may find you attractive and he is not quite sure yet if he wants to take it further .I think he must have thought about it but he may not be sure if he should take the chance and risk loosing this great friendship.i think he too may be confused so just continue but find some way to ask him what he wants form you
@musikaLorA (115)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
enjoy first what you have for now,,,let us just wait and see and don't rush on anything ok?,guys are really unpredictable, and most of them are not wordy type of person,so it is better for you to enjoy his company and to know each other more..friendship for me is far more better than rushing into relationship,but if you are really meant for each other chances are you will be a great couple for you have started a good friendship,right? but i admit,that most of his actions may lead to more deeper and maybe meaningful relationship,,but know him more first,ok?(",)
@midnightbliss (541)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
if you are already comfortable with each other, you can ask him about his feelings towards you. but if you're too embarrassed, be patient for the meantime, maybe he's still thinking about his next actions. But of course be ready to accept his answer.
It happened to me 3 years ago, it's really difficult to just assume on things, so I asked, despite of all the sweetness and the attention that he's showing me, he said no, still we decided to keep the friendship. Now we are still together and doing great, sometimes, there are just reasons why people can't commit and it depends on your patience on how long can you wait.
@annshie143 (53)
• India
3 Dec 09
first in life note one thing dont get confused nd do everything patience and comfortably. guy with which u r presently engaged give him time and leave him as he is on his own. and u think about urself. may be he is busy these days. thats y he is good sometimes and confusing sometimes. so dont get tense wait and watch. or try to ask him about Is he any kind of problem?dont think much about ur relationship. more u think , more u confused urself.
@gx7001lm (63)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 09
in my opinion he is just a friend who does not want to be alone. playing badminton, going out with you to buy something for himself and his family is one of the signs that he does not want to be alone.
he may also feel that you are a responsible person that can keep all his secrets. or maybe he does not have someone to share with about his feelings. i think you should feel great about yourself as being a listener and maybe you can help him if you are able to.
why not share with him how you felt cause he is open to you ( he shared his deepest sentiments with you )
personally i think he just want to be friend with you but you could always take the courage and ask him if he had other motives.
@sirnose (2436)
• United States
3 Dec 09
The only way to know for show is to ask what you want to know even if he doesn't want a love relationship with you.It's better to know for show than to assume that your friend might want a romantic relationship with you. Don't be afraid to let your friend know how you feel,it's best to get it out in the opening than to stay in limbo not really knowing for sure if its just plain old friendship or do he wants a love relationship with you, so just ask...clear the air let him know what your feelings are about you all's relationship.