How To Manage .....?

Acceptance and Support is the answer my dear. And also calmness and understanding, nothing will happen if we will allow anger to conquer our minds and heart. Be patient and try to wait, for at least. For me that is my way of doing things. It depends upon you on how you will cope up with this, it is you are the only one who can answer your problem. I know, that, you know, why your husband are doing those things. Is it because of the future? Is it because of the family? Is it because of survival because of the present world economic condition? What do you think if he will be laid off the job? Do you think it will be better for the family? Are you working? If your working well i can say it is alright, but if not? Try to understand. Is he the only one working and doing things just for the family to survive? It doesn't mean he didn't love your family, because of those things. Do you think that time that you are fearing will come? Well, it all depends upon you. If you really fear that situation and if your really love the family, i am sure you will not do it. Why get stress, you can think of so many ways to cope up with things, do you think stress will give you a better result for your problems? You are with your children. Don't you think it is better to explain things to them? You are with your husband, do you think it is better to ask your husband and talk with him in a peaceful manner relating on that situation? Work pressure is not the real situation there, but, it is the security of the family and your children in the future. Why is there a work pressure? Because he doesn't want to commit mistakes at work and he doesn't want to get fired at work? Why he doesn't want that things to happen? I guess you already know. I know you are just trying to protect your family from being a sad family in the future. Do you think your husband is not doing that? Do you think that sometimes we need to accept the fact that, families have the chance of not being with each other all the time, just to survive in this planet. Do you think if you slap him, things will get better or just get worsen? Why be angry if you know that, he is only doing things for good? Why be angry if you can understand and talk peacefully with each other? Try talking to him in a nice way, and peaceful way. Do you think it is forever that he will not have time for the family? Anyway, i hope it helps, have a nice day, decide freely and know how to do the right things right!

Talk to your husband and understand him because I think he also think about it. Don't put so much pressure on him at least he gets home everyday and he is a good provider. Although he lacks time to you and to your kid he going to make it up to you soon I'm sure.

yeah my wife had to deal as well. when i started to work for a securty firm making good money at it. i would go to work from 3 pm to 6 am monday through thursday and friday go in at 3 pm but work all weekend until 6 am monday. we would se each other when i was on the way home as she was going to work, or i was going to work and she was coming home. so i spent most of the time sleeping when i was at home. but i made sure to spend time with my kids, and even after i lost that job and drove tractor tailor at night i would come home by 6 am, stay up until the kids went to school and then i lay down and be up before they got home. but yeah he need to make sure to at least spend time with the family here or there. but one thing be glad you got a man that works.

As a student,I don't know more about marital,but I know a litter from reading. now,this situations are more and more.As a wife ,you should understand your husband,and share his ail,and often communicate with him to make him to your cark! I hope you can live hanppily!

oh it is not os complecated problem you know that he is doing the job only for you and for childeran so compromise with each other it is the fight of time not not of for water not for wapons not for terrist so shear your problem it is slutionable if still it exist then discuse it again.

You need to be happy because your husband hawe work and hi thinks how to make money its normal. Try to drink green tea it can help you to take off your stress and dont vory be happy :)

Am sorry for that!!! but still i have something to say... just tell your husband to practice to take leaves atleast two days in a week and make him to understand that the child life is very important and you too feel good when he get around with his child in your sweet home!!!

Hi priya, THis is a classical situation faced in may households in India. I think you must be thankful that you are a home-maker. There has been many instances where both the husband and wife go to jobs unable to spend some quality time with children. Coming to the point of he not being able to spend much time with the family, I believe that both of you should talk this out, heart to heart. And this discussion will be successful if and only if both of you can put each other in the opposite person's shoes. You must be sensitive to pressures of your husband. He being the sole breadwinner of the family and I do know how it is in the Indian IT Companies. THe recession has only added fear and exploitation by the employers. And moreover most of the companies are located far off from the city and hence travel time of around 3 hrs a day. Don feel like slapping your hubby, poor soul, put yourself in his shoes. I think he must also be missing some time to watch his son growing. HE would also love to spend some time with you and your son, but in the end, he's doing all this for you guys. TO give you a better quality of life. Talk out with him, tell him both you and the child miss him. Ask him to spend Saturdays and Sundays fully with you. Mebbe Company and role shift. Try to work out the economics together and see where it takes. ANd most importantly, don keep your feelings to yourself. We guys will not be able to guess what you are thinking, if you don say it. Say it out, listen patiently and make him think. I think it will work out. Hope my suggestion was useful

priya don't slap him, everything can be accomplished with nice talking. instead of stressing so much on him, spend it with your kids, what is important is he still goes home to you and your kids still able to see him. just a tight timing maybe. and you are there for the kids, take that as an opportunity to fill when your husband lacks his attention to them. god luck!