When did you become perfect?

United States
December 3, 2009 11:02pm CST
I say this because I have come across some people who love to over critize my discussions! To me I am trying my best and I believe some of my discussions are better then when I first joined! I'm not a very good writer but I try! Some people think they are perfect writers here on Mylot! So when did some of you become perfect?
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25 responses
• India
4 Dec 09
Nobody is perfect in anything and there is no end to knowledge either. Mylot is not a training school for writing skills so I don’t think anybody can be criticized on that front. However, there are many veterans here you can give you some tips on how to frame your discussions better or to choose your topics wisely or how to highlight your first sentence so that it draws the maximum attention. If the criticism is constructive, you’d learn quite a few things from them.
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• United States
5 Dec 09
If I was not so sensitive and had prpblems with low self-esteema dn confidence I wouldn't be acting the way I do!
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@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
6 Dec 09
Which I believe is crying about it and saying people are evil. I rather expect Bluepacket that you are also going round pressing the negative button for those who do not agree with you, which you'll find is against guidelines. Please don't make out you are so sensitive when you were extremely rude to Grandpa_Lash and many others, it seems to me you like to dish it out in plenty. You cannot scream at people that they are giving the wrong sort of response or to demand they keep away from your discussions. What you could do is learn some manners and stop playing the victim.
• India
7 Dec 09
Bluepacker, It you are overtly sensitive and low in self esteem, its only for you to lift yourself up...there are many ways of doing it, the choice is yours how you shape yourself up.
• United States
5 Dec 09
Non of us are perfect... We all make mistakes. Mylot is for discussion not to judge others spelling or topics and such. We all have different opinions on matters. We all have different thoughts. Some of us start discussions because a matter is on our minds and are looking for advice and suggestions or just want to learn what others feel to make educated choices. Don't sweat it let those that think they are perfect make comments. One day someone will point out their mistakes to them. In the meantime stay imperfect and enjoy. Chin up and the heck with the others.
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• United States
5 Dec 09
There are alot of people on mylot and in the real world who think they are so perfect their **it doesn't stink! Enough said!
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
You said, no one is perfect, and you also said that we have different point of views, what if, in the points of view of others they are perfect? Perfect have a lot of meanings, depending upon the person who will perceive it. We have different points of views that is why i cannot blame you, for your beliefs, such as, no one is perfect. Try reading my response here. Have a nice day.
@WOL330 (13)
• United States
5 Dec 09
None of us are perfect and the people thinking they are , Are only fooling themselves into beleaving that they are but I hate to tell them all nope not by a long shot are they
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@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
When you are born in this world, don't you think your parents use the word "perfect"?. We people have different points of views, and for the word perfect, it seems that, it really does exist, depending on the person who will perceive it. Haven't you use the word perfect even in a bit? I am sure you also used that word. Even now, you are using the word perfect, so it means, "perfect" exist. Try reading my response here. I cannot explain it in whole, cause this will be a long comment to your response for sure. Just try to read my response here. Have a nice day...
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
4 Dec 09
Hi bluepacket, everything you write is negative and when people answer your discussions you only respond to the ones who agree with you and ignore the others, or you take offence at anyting you don't agree with. You cannot expect that everyone who responds to you agrees with you, but it is not criticsim if someone disagrees with you. You posted a discussion wanting advice on your pimples and were very rude to those who advised you it was down to bad diet, you posted a discussion on your obesity and are rude to those who try to advise you. Your discussions once posted are open to everyone, and everyone has the right to criticise your use of repeating your own discussions as it is against guidelines but you take that as personal criticism. Your 'All men are pigs' discussion was deleted and replaced with 'some men are pigs', you've put up repeat discussions about leaving here as you can't make money for your quality discussions but you've been advised over and over that by not responding to people you aren't going to make any money, and a lot of your discussions are repititions of your complaints. Here's a few to give thought to even though it is only a small example: This annoys me, I'm a complainer, I don't like, I never liked. If people don't like your quality discussions then they don't need to respond, but once you've posted them it is up to you to to guide those discussions and by spurning well meaning advice, shouting at people, and ignoring people, then inevitably you will enhance your reputation for negativity. Personally I thought your discussion 'Stop picking at your wart' could have been a fun discussion but you seem to take any form of frivolity as criticism.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
4 Dec 09
I agree that the homophobic people one was good, I said so at the time. I've also said some of the other discussions have been interesting but that gets taken as criticism too. I still maintain though that one misses the point if one refers to posting a topic as creating an 'quality discussion' as the responses and comments and interactions are the part which make a quality discussion, not just a question posed by a poster who then tend to ignore all the responders unless they agree totally.
@jb78000 (15139)
4 Dec 09
i agree. the interaction is important
@jb78000 (15139)
4 Dec 09
i think this is excellent advice thea and just about spot on, although i don't think all bluepacket's discussions are negative, i have seen some good ones (there was a very brave one about homophobia recently) but some certainly are and getting touchy about criticism is a bit off really.
@jb78000 (15139)
4 Dec 09
some people do start consistently excellent discussions. some start a mixture - i have started a few horrors myself and had to put up with some teasing. some horrors i started deliberately to annoy those said teasers. now i have seen a lot of your discussions and some are really good (i think i have usually said so) and some are not. i think you should just accept criticism when it occurs and not feel hurt by it.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
4 Dec 09
Hey jb, great idea for your next chrismas tat discussion, you could put up some of your worst horrors and let us vote to see which really took the cake. I know which one you'd vote for ....... brocoli.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
4 Dec 09
Well just shout if you get bogged down in brocoli and need a hand, I can come along with my 'perfect' responses. I'm in the mood for a bit of quality now so will have to see if I can find a single discussion which isn't about christmas, or the non existence of climate change. There were four yesterday about cheating men so you could do one about cheating women as part of your ongoing christmas tat series, why do some women cheat at christmas?
@jb78000 (15139)
4 Dec 09
it seemed a good idea at the time. well actually it didn't but i'd been spending some time that day answering pointless discussions and thought i should start one of my own. to be regretted ever since. in fact i think somebody has been in there a couple of hours ago so i'd better grit my teeth and go in to answer them.
• China
5 Dec 09
There is a chinese proverb."the brightest of all things,the sun,has spots."No body is perfect,so don't care others'criticize excessively,just try your best to write.Then you are the number one.
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• United States
5 Dec 09
i'm emotional and senseitive! i can't help it! if my self-esteem and confidence wouldn't suck i wouldn't mind the criticism!
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
I think the word perfect really depends on the person who will perceive it. The word perfect will not even exist, if there is no such thing as perfect. It is like, using the word perfect, when we see our love ones, or when we saw our first born child, we will use the word perfect unnoticeable. You, I, and Them can use the word perfect, as much as we want, and we can believe that there is such word as much as we want, we have different points of views and belief right? Criticisms can make us a much better person or writer in the future, why do we need to avoid it? IF we will avoid it, then we cannot see our mistakes, and as a human, we need to accept mistakes. What is the point and sense of putting up discussions, if we are not ready to accept nor receive criticisms? What is the purpose of starting a discussion, if all people will agree in one point of view? Articles and writing articles will be useless, if we will also ignore criticisms. I am not against anyone here, but, i just want all of people here to be enlightened, that, if we started a discussion or even articles, be ready to receive criticisms and even much harsh criticisms, anyway, we can defend ourselves right? Criticisms, positive or negative, can result in one thing, and that is success, do not take it as negative and will have negative effects on us people, instead we take it as a challenge and as a bridge for us to be a better person and for us to reach our goal and become successful. Writers needed to be strong, even the famous writers receives criticisms, and much negative criticisms, but where are they now? And who are the one who gained the fame because of that criticisms? Who become the successful ones, because of criticisms? We do not need to be emotional. We need to be strong and take things challenges or ways for us to become a much better person in the near future. Have a nice day
• India
4 Dec 09
Well, no body is perfect anywhere in this world . People pretend to be ...but they are not ...believe me . In great books ...it get called that there are only one perfect being and that's called GOD .. So you know ....no body is here who can pretend to be GOD ... so how can he pretend to be perfect ... Thanks
• India
4 Dec 09
Well, I also don't believe in god ....but it has been said ...and so i wrote that ... Thanks :)
• India
4 Dec 09
hey no one can understand god. What is God?- no one can answer. stories about God are created by human. you can't say that God is perfect or not
• India
4 Dec 09
hey hiii hey u know what god were also not perfect they also used to do mistakes... and so do we..
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
14 Dec 09
I think all of your discussions are fine too. There are just some people who think they run Mylot. They think they own part of it or something and claim to know alot about it. I have been here a very long time and know how it all goes. don't worry about what they say.
• United States
17 Dec 09
Thanks for the response! I will try hard in 2010 not to let Mylot get to me! I can way to sensitive sometimes!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
5 Dec 09
You say you are a negative person and from what little I've read on other postings, I understand that you have had some very negative things in your life. Negative outlook attracts negative experiences. What I see here is some advice that if you were to look at it in a positive way, it could help you look at your experience here in a more positive way and you may find yourself enjoying your time here. Your insecurity is also due probably to negative experiences and negative feelings about yourself. I get it that you are a negative person but I find it hard to believe that you are okay with that. Because you've got such a deep negative outlook on yourself and your world, it would be almost impossible for you to have a good time or to feel happy. Maybe talking to a therapist would help? People here are not trying put you down or make you feel worse. They are offering up advice and thoughts that could maybe help you out. You may not agree with all of them but you could respect their thoughts and know they were just trying to help and maybe even nicely explain why you don't agree.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
7 Dec 09
To be honest, I have seen plenty of your discussions that are really good and they are NOT all negative. You seem to be negative mostly toward yourself and that's really too bad. Anyway, how about this. When someone gives you a response that makes you feel this way rather than to lash out, how about assume that they mean it in a helpful way and thank them for their help. It might help reduce the negative comments towards you because they are not meaning to hurt you and are just getting frustrated and defensive in return. I don't know. I'm just trying to help. Don't take it all so much to heart. I do remember the conversations you had about earning from discussions and some got frustrated with you on that as I guess it was the 2nd one but it looks as if you took the advice. Other discussions that I came across were pretty interesting and you interacted in them.
• United States
7 Dec 09
I doubt a therapist would help! I have spent alot of time over the years seeing them! Alot of it has been good and helpful! I don't go anymore because I got burned out! When it comes to being negative it is a paet of me and I am happy in alot of ways! I know that is hard to believe but I am! If people don't like me being so negative and it hurts my earnings,I can't stop it! It is just the way it is! When it comes to being critized and getting advice I don't take it well because I feel I am not being helped,I'm being insulted,that I'm stupid,I'm not being understood,I am being blamed for something I didn't do and i'm not as good as you! This is some of the reasons I feel everyone is perfect! That everyone one is after me! I get paronoid! I also feel this only happens to me even though I know it doesn't! It takes me forever to except things alot of times and this is one of those times! Life sucks and I probaly will never understand this thing called life!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 09
oh dear hi blue65packer shame on them, we should work on our own discussions first before opening our big mouths to criticize anyone else. I think most of us are trying our best and like I say we should all check our own grammar and typing first. I know I am far from prefect and even with spelling checker I do manage a few real gems of typos. then I have to comment to explain what the heck I really meant. I have never seen anything wrong with your discussions. I always enjoy them and try to respond.
• United States
4 Dec 09
Thanks Hatley! I always appreciate your nice comments! You are great!
5 Dec 09
Some people may think whatever they are, but in the real life it's not always as the same as the thought they were. I really appreciate diversity in writings, as for me that is why MyLot exists. Regardless perfect or not, we can always speak out our mind as writings, can't we ? I always keep this in mind : Nobody's perfect, and nobody will be.
• United States
5 Dec 09
Unfortunetly there are people on mylot that really do think they are perfect! Thanks for the response!
• India
4 Dec 09
Hi, Well i m not perfect.So i don't know how to become perfect person.Some people like to criticize good thing in discussions.Just ignore them .
• India
4 Dec 09
hi angelin don't ignore all the person who critize you. learn from them, try to create or response better at your next discussion. criticisms is like a coin has both positive and negative sides, take the positive but don't feel for the negative side. spirit up your soul, be happy always.
• Mexico
5 Dec 09
Hi blue packer: Don't worry about this, it's obvious that some people don't like what we write but that's simple part of our life. We can not make that everybody loves us but at the same time it's important to keep making mylot a great site that we respect each other and i think that this person don't make this. Simply don't pay attention to this comments. Have a nice day. Alvaro.
• United States
5 Dec 09
I wish I could not let this bother me! if I wasn't so darn sensitive,still battleing low self esteem and confidence,I could let things run off my back!
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Haha, I just don't think there are people who are "perfect." Not even our Pope in the Catholic church I guess. Nobody is omnipotent because we are just human beings. We could always make mistakes. For as long as you still have good personal reasons for myLotting - say, you enjoy writing and sharing your ideas - you can hold your nose and do your best to ignore them. Continue improving your craft for the better. I do hope that you'll continue myLotting. Have a blessed day.
• United States
4 Dec 09
Yes no one is perfect but there alot of people out in this world think they are! thanks for the response!
• India
4 Dec 09
same to you buddy i am also not got at creating discussion but i love mylot very much whether others repond to my discussion or not i will not stop creating discussion. I feel very happy when others respond to my discussion. One of my class girl also join in mylot because of me.
@allknowing (135315)
• India
5 Dec 09
I would never want to be perfect, as perfect people are normally shunned. It is those little blunders that we commit that bind us to each other. Long live imperfect people!!!
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
If you will ask me when did i become perfect, i will answer you, all the time, perfect depends on the person who will perceive the word, i am perfect for my wife's eye, and she is perfect to my eyes. I am perfect according to me, cause i do not have inferiority complex and i will not down myself, but of course that is for me only. I will not boast for it, meaning i am perfect for myself and me only cause i am sure others will have lots of criticism on me, cause for them i am not perfect. I love myself and God told us to do so, therefore i will say that i am perfect, cause we are created by God, perfectly according to his features. We can think, we can decide, we can move, and we have life, that again makes us perfect. Anyway, perfect really depends on the person who will perceive it. If the situation will be about mylot, i can say, i am not perfect for others, but for me what i write is perfect, and again, that is all for me only. People have the right to express their own feelings and points of views, therefore people are also ready to accept criticisms and feedback. Not all the time, the criticisms that we will receive from other person is really good, and sometimes we will receive something that will really hurt us, but it is ok, we started the discussion therefore we know the consequences of it, anyway, the purpose of mylot is discussion and sharing, and expressing, therefore criticisms are allowed. If i think that the feedback or criticism is very offensive or vital, the presence of the markings are there. We cannot have a good discussion if all people will agree in one point of view only, we cannot have something to debate to, and something to talk about and exchange opinions, if all of us will agree to one and all of us have the same thinking. You agree, then it is good, you will not, then it is ok. I can mark those people who are very offensive, and the mark will surely be - or !. That is for their lesson, and i think mylot will surely give them the right kind of disciplinary action. I will not give those markings if the person only wanted to give his own opinion and criticize my work in a nice way. Instead of being angry and affected negatively, i will be much more happier, cause by that, i know that people reads my discussions and i am getting their attention. I will be much more happier cause by that, i am sure that my discussion is interested and can be a quality postings for mylot cause it will start a long discussion. I am not saying that i am good and you are wrong and try to change the way you think, cause it is you and that is what you want. All i want you to understand is that, we create discussions, articles and write anything, to express our feelings and we need to be ready on any kind of criticisms. Even famous writers experience criticisms, not only good but negative and very bad criticisms. The way they ware being criticized means, their book are effective and a good topic to read. I am also trying to be a good writer, that is why i am ready to accept others points of views and criticisms. A good writer will be much more happy when things like that comes to me, i will not be affected negatively, instead, i will be glad by that words and negative criticisms that will be thrown to me, cause by that, i am also learning, and becoming a much better writer. If there are negative criticisms and i think that i am right and i need to defend my beliefs, i will do comment/respond to it in a nice and peaceful manner. Then, i am sure it will be a good and long discussion, then if i see that the discussion will be a really long one and we both will not really agree with each other, then i will immediately end it, again in a peaceful manner. Being a writer is hard, not only because it is hard to write fresh ideas and stories, but also because of the criticisms, but if you will be affected by those, and it will make you down or depressed, therefore it will not make you a good writer and for sure you will be nailed in the position where you are right now. I want to be a famous writer, i want to write books for the world, actually i am already starting the write the books that i want to publish in the near future. I am making myself ready for it, specially when it is already published, i am making myself ready for criticisms, positive or negative, vital or not, and happy or sad. Cause by that, it makes me know that, my writings is becoming famous and read by the people and it is effective and makes sense. And i will use those criticisms for my future books to be much more better, effective and perfect. That is my point of views about writing, criticisms and being perfect. Have a nice day!
• India
4 Dec 09
same YOu, i am fresher here, still i done lots of mistakes, make sentence lack of vocablary/ grammer, when i started to give response to discussions first i feel shy litle bit of nervous but after some time and encouragement of my fiance i used to write here daily .. now i feel litle more confidence in my self.. One most Universal thought is no body is perfect ... and meanwhile i am NObody.. but may be one day by day i become more perfect/confident. thanks a lot
@epikna4o (49)
• Latvia
4 Dec 09
the people cannot be perfect
• India
4 Dec 09
i do my work at correct time no one is very perfect but we have to do our work perfectly to be perfect