When is the right time to tell your adopted child that he is not your own?

Telling a child that they are adopted is a really hard part if adoption. My mom has cutudy of my niece and my mom is not going to tell her till she thinks my sister is ready. I think the child is ready for her parents to tell her just do it really lovingly and make sure they tell her that they really love her like she is biological and it dose not change a thing she is there daughter and will always be ther for her. They just need to0 make sure they tell her becouse if they dont and she finds out later on in life she might get really mad that they did not tell her. I hope this helps you out. Happy Mylotting

This is very difficult you know, i think it would be very painful to the child as well as to the couple, but the child has to know. I think the right time would be during puberty stage, that is from ten to twelve years old. The child should be assured that even though he is adopted, he is loved like their real child.

It's hard what to say - knowing the child's real parents probably would even complicate it further. I think it's important for kids to know they are adopted, simply for medical background/history information - and to get that info from the biological parents would definitely be a good idea if they are still in contact with them. I think at 12 years old, it would be a major shock, probably pretty upsetting and difficult. The kid would feel betrayed, confused, unsettled - so it's really all about how it is explained. I would probably advise talking to the people who know the child the best and maybe even talking with a counselor to see how they suggest to tell them. Basically, the child needs to know - but the HOW they find out is the most important. And what details you decide to give the child is another option - I don't think I'd go into the whole drama story of the biological parents, but instead focus on how they wanted what was best for the kid, and how the adoptive parents really wanted them. But like I said, I am no expert :) Best of luck to them :)

I would NEVER tell a child he is not their own. However, I would tell him that he is not their biological child, but an adopted one. An adopted child is legally and hopefully emotionally, their child just as much as a biological child.

I think the child should be told as early as possible. The right age depends on each child. Other children mature earlier than others. It is important for the child to know about his being an adopted one. He shouldn't be denied of this truth. Then, it will helpful to state the reason why he was adopted. I really don't know the proper or legal way but this is just my point of view.

I think that everyone has the right to know the truth about his or her origins, so the kid should be told about it as soon as he or she's old enough to comprehend it. We can't be overprotective with kids, as it can end up damaging them. Also, the more someone waits to tell his or her kid about this kind of matter, the more difficult will be for the kid to accept it.

I think telling a child he or she is adopted would be best when he or she is emotionally ready to get that knowledge. Some adopted children would be able to find out at four or five years old. Another child might not be ready until the teenage years. Your cousin's child is almost a teenager. I hope that he will receive the new happily. Good luck to your cousin. It is right that your cousin tells her son. She could say that she chose him to be her child.

Yes, any child should be told from the beginning that he/she was adopted. This prevents any hurt feelings when he does find out. As old as the child is now,I would tell him or her immediately. I would also tell him that they were unable to have biological children but wanted a child badly. He will probably ask why his biological mother didn't want to keep him. I believe that it would be safe to tell him that she was not married to his father and let it go at that. A child who knows from the beginning that he was adopted will grow up feeling safe and secure as long as his adoptive parents emphasize that he was truly wanted.

one of problem the adoption of a child is tell the child about her status as child of adoptive. This is an obligation that must be done by foster parents. This is in accordance with the law and the rights child of adoptive. He was entitled to know its origins. Only, it takes time. Could be explained since the early or vote if he was growing up. Each choice brings different consequences. Obviously, the adoptive parents and the foster child must be ready mentally. Not easy to do. Many foster parents who open secret at the time child will enter the stage marriage. The reason, he's an adult. Harbored a secret just is not easy. Moreover plus anxiety, it will make the inner pressure. Very probably it will affect mental. As a result, maybe someday you'll cousins would like thunderstruck at noon when she heard his adopted son asked, ''Mom, she said I'm not your child ?'' Much better if your cousin can be honest from start. Of course your cousin will feel happier because she not have feel a sense of anxiety. In fact, if necessary, introduce him closer to his family and his brothers. Although officially has become a child your cousin, he right to know who's brother and his biological parents. Also do not forget, explain the reason why he had to be adopted. That way, your cousin was not a loss for the right time to reveal a secret she held for so long.

It is important to inform the child that he is adopted its better if the parents are the one who inform him so that they can explain well why h is adopted. He should be inform at the right age where he can understand why it happen to him. They should be the first to do it than anybody else.