Is it taboo to date a friends ex?
By lynkshadow
@lynkshadow (299)
Canada
December 4, 2009 1:49am CST
Personally I have never done this because its one of my rules like don't date at work. Then again your friends ex could end up being the love of your life. Is this a taboo area? What do you fellow mylotters think?
4 responses
@MrBusinessman (7)
• Romania
4 Dec 09
There is something I dont understand:
Why people after they break up start hateing each other?
My point is different... no matter how bad the relationship was before, there must be some sort of respect for that person that you have loved, that have made you to feel special and new feeling, that changed you, made you more mature... more adult.
I have never seen cases like this and never understood why. Also my parents when divorced have done a bad choice... becomming enemys.
Me, for example I still meet my ex-girlfriend (my first love) even if when we was together hell camed out between us and of course also bad words. But even if this happend I still dont see a reason why I shouldnt still meet her. There are 5 years we meet, we are probably best friends, but nothing more.
If you're going into such a situation I suggest you to tell her/him before everything your ideea, to just remain great friends but everyone on it's own.
@MrBusinessman (7)
• Romania
4 Dec 09
Oh, yeah... sorry, my fault, maybe I have to get to sleep (havent for 2 days...)
Well... now it's more complicated... it's easy to say it's ok but more difficult to feel that it's ok.
If a stranger meets my ex it's ok, but if he is a friend of mine... kinda bother me a lil. Dunno why, but that's how honestly I would feel.
Yep, this is kinda taboo.
@SeoulBoy_Art (193)
• Japan
6 Dec 09
That`s a no no. That`s the way you loose friend. When i was in college my friends and I had a saying Bros before Hoes!! We do not date each other`s ex. The other part of the rule was id you did you had to get permission first.
@lynkshadow (299)
• Canada
6 Dec 09
I totally agree with you, and I'm a chick so we get even more upset about it usually. lol.
@votenoonpineapple (235)
• Canada
4 Dec 09
It depends on how long they were together, how long ago it was, and how the friend thinks about it.
But, in all reality, there could still be feelings there, which could make it hard for the friend to hear about the two of you, or to spend time with you two as a couple. If that's going to be the case, you may need to be prepared to say goodbye to your friend for the sake of dating the ex.
There are people from my past that I'm not going to spend time with socially anymore, and that's not going to change just because my friend starts dating them.
@etongong (164)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
If they are no longer together, then I don't find a reason why its not okay. Your friend got his/her chance and it didn't work out for the two of them. So why not try your luck? But before doing it, give your friends some fillers and how your feelings towards his/her ex, so it won't come a big shot to your friend.
