Is Christmas going to be happy this year?
By kafueenu
@kafueenu (1073)
Philippines
December 4, 2009 11:12am CST
I know that Christmas is celebrated because it is the birth of Christ our savior. but it has been a tradition that the family should celebrate, exchange gifts, have fun, merry making and stuff. But last week my mother said, in Filipino of course, "We'll pass on Christmas this year, we do not have any money to spend this time".
That statement really made me feel down, eventhough I am older now, Christmas has always been a special event for me. The family Christmas shopping really makes me happy, our Christmas activities are those memories I treasure forever. And now, we'll pass on Christmas? I almost broke down in tears, that is how bad out financial status is now, cannot afford to have Christmas. I really feel sad.
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16 responses
@nefritite (13)
• Tanzania
5 Dec 09
I feel exactly as your mother does and I don't even have kids! What I have, is younger siblings whom I would like to please with Christmas gifts.However, I do not have the money because I have been out of my job since May this year.It's a sort of unspoken tradition in these parts that you should take some gifts with you every time you go visiting your folks.So, I do feel a lot of financial pressure this year and I hope the festive season passes really fast!By the way, Christmas cheer for me is not a reality anymore.
@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
I have a great dysfunctional family and for the last three years I would be spending my Christmas alone or if there is someone with me I still feel alone. I guess it would be the same this year. With or without money my Christmas is not that merry. Still I'm a happy person so I try to make some of my friends happy after the celebration
Try to be happy this Christmas even though you wont be celebrating it, it doesn't mean you don't have to be happy or you could also try to make someone happy then build your happiness from there. The true spirit of Christmas is not the gift giving and bountiful feast, it's making someone happy.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I'm hoping to have a happy Christmas. It will depend on two things. 1) That my stupid cousins don't get wasted. 2) Me not blowing out my knee again. Needing to spend three weeks in bed, when I'm perfectly healthy.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Oh no...you need to get your family to change their minds about skipping on Christmas. Our family doesn't have much money either. We are keeping the gift giving part of it to a real minimum. We still are gathering together and enjoying each other's company. We are all making a dish and bringing it. We'll have some drinks and hangout. It's always a good time. I'm sure that a lot of people can't really afford to give gifts this year.
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hi kafueenu!
I'm sorry to hear that you may not celebrate your Christmas this year.
We have been celebrating Christmas since we we're kids and missing that event now could be very painful and worst,unbearable for somebody like you. But hey, you can still be happy without those gifts and noche buena.
For me its not with the purely the material things such as gifts that you have for that day,nor with the food you will eat in your table. Though we celebrate Christmas each year, I am not really looking forward to those. I think the real meaning of Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Christ our savior, as what you've said.
You should be thankful that you can celebrate it with your family is what I can advice for you to be happy this Christmas season.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
I try to be happy, but the fact that my mother said that is enough to make me feel down. I am not a child anymore, but being a child at heart, that statement made quite an impact. I've always been used to a happy and plentiful Christmas, and I can't forget that easily.
@dreamhome (558)
• India
22 Dec 09
you are right..This year has been a real bad one with a heavy financial crisis..But I'm planning to celebrtae christmas in the same way I did in the last year..We have kids at home and so we have decided not to shatter their happiness. They are too small to understand the financial part of having fun and enjoyment..
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
6 Dec 09
It is really a sad state of affairs when you have to pass on celebrating the birth of the Christ child. It's not about spending money but we are bombarded with commercials making us think ti is. Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus and family. You will be eating that day so get together to eat. I once read a story about a family that didn't have any money to spand for Christmas presents and they took catalogs and cut out what they would give to their family if they did have the money put those gifts on a tree. If you can still do the Christmas tunes, attend the Christmas Mass, watch the "Panunuluyan", attend Midnight Mass, gather with friends and family afterwards, Just skip the gift giving.
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I really feel sad for you kafueenu. Maybe, you can at least do some Christmas caroling. Just walk around and sing Christmas carols at the doors of your neighbors. If not with the family, perhaps with your church or a group of friends in your own neighborhood.
It seems things are tight for everyone this year. They were for me last year as well, but not as much as this year. I just try to keep thinking positive, and know that things will turn around for me. They always do. I just need to get my own place again, and things will keep flowing positive from there. Right now I am not living in very positive surroundings so that makes it a little difficult.
@nautilus33 (1827)
•
5 Dec 09
Hi! for me it will be happy like every year! I love this holiday very much and I am waiting for it with a big impatience
@billi65 (29)
•
5 Dec 09
If Christmas is about money then the spirit has gone. I just enjoy being with my partner, having the extra time off work and relaxing. We agree that we do not need any gifts to show our love for each other, we know it already. I am sure it can be difficult for families with kids but we have brought the greed upon ourselves. Children can be made happy with the simplest of things that dont have to cost the earth. I can not believe it when i see adverts for gifts that cost hundreds of pounds. Making someone happy is a gift, even if it means an extra chair at a dinner table. Try it!
@xTricia (50)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
I believe the Christmas has always been fun for its spirit comes from the heart. Christmas preparations are a part of enjoying Christmas (and a tradition too that completes the day), but it is not just the mere essence of it; for Christmas should be a day to celebrate the birth of Christ. You'll sure be happy at Christmas Day as long as you have your faith in God; that is more than enough, my friend.
@TierrasMommy (125)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Christmas Is a great time to get with family members you dont see often but it can be very stressful and with the way the economy has been it might not be easy for some people to afford to travel or even afford gifts for everyone in the family and that is alittle hard. I just hope every kid will get a present at least no need to waste money on a big screen tv people take alot of things for granted these days
@liduo_wang (25)
• China
5 Dec 09
i dont know what the other's christmas will be like. but for this chritsmas will gonna be very hard for me. no job, so no money.i even hard when i gonna to stay at christmas eve. because in china, chiristmas is quite differnent from western christmas. chinese only care about the chritmas eve and chritmas night. unlike westerner take chritmas a period of time. so i am thinking where am i gonna to do this two special night. hard!!!!
@pipayst (140)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Christmas is all about spending time with your family isn't it? I remember last Christmas that we were forced to stay at home because I was applying for a job and my sister doesn't want to go to Manila alone. We were also hideously low on funds during that time and my aunt didn't want to contribute. So here both of us are feeling crappy on Christmas.
Then we got over it and decided to run an anime marathon on DVD and ordered the KFC Xmas bucket feast.
Christmas isn't something that needs money. Even if you're short on funds and you can't have a big feast even some spaghetti and coke will do. You can still go to church with your folks you can still sing Merry Christmas. What matters is that you still have each other. Thinking you need all the money in the world just to enjoy Christmas defeats the spirit of what its supposed to mean. It's the season of giving and being with your family.
It's feeling like crap because your aunt is too cheap to send you anything but having all the pain melt away just because your sister wrapped you a tiny gift of chips for Christmas.
@blackflorinel (475)
• Romania
4 Dec 09
christmas it is olways a grate time tuo spend whit my famaly its super al the present's and al the joy since i vaz little i remember every christmas and i loved every single one except one when my girlfriend dompt me a well that's life but anyway it was a novice christmas :P i belive that this christmas is going to be super super hope that al of you have a grate christmas !!!!