Are you friends with any of your ex's on facebook?
By ladym33
@ladym33 (10979)
United States
December 4, 2009 2:57pm CST
I am friends with a couple of my ex's on face book, but they were boyfriends in Junior high and were never really serious boyfriends and we were friends after we broke up for the duration high school so there is no reason for my husband to be jealous. There are a couple of other guys I was a little more serious with and I was a bit older so I do not think friending them would be right. Are you friends with any of your ex's on facebook?
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19 responses
@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
4 Dec 09
i dont have any of my exs on any social network site. i dont think it is right. I would be upset if my husband did so i dont do it.
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@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Hey,
good question. No i am not friends with any of my exs still... if i happen to see one or if one was online and they said hi I'd say hi back if the break up was mutual and a long time ago... but that's it. My husband would freak even if it was my first boyfriend that i have when i was 11 (ten years ago!)
I dont think its a good idea especially if you had strong feelings for one of them because feeling have a way of coming back sometimes.
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@thedaddym (1731)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Not really. There is one girl who I went out with once in high school and we sort of liked each other but nothing ever came of it. I am also friends with my first crush from elementary school, someone I grew up with in my neighborhood. But my wife knows her really well and we are all friends so my wife does not have a problem with it. If we communicate my wife is usually in the conversation too so there are no issues there.
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@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
i can only find one hehehe. yes we're friends. i always treat him as a friend even after we broke up. we still communicate often before outside facebook.
anyway, it's where i saw her wife and baby girl. lovely faces..
• China
10 Dec 09
When we were young,we may fall in love with somebody.But as we growing,the person who we ever considered was perfect may not suit us,we might break up,it does not mean we can not be friends for good.He can be the one to listen to your feelings adout something that can not tell to others
@Gemstar6 (71)
• New Zealand
7 Dec 09
I have a couple fo ex's on Facebook but I don't see it as an issue, we all grow and move on. But it is nice to remember that that person was special as a person to you anyway. My partner doesn't get jealous and I know he has a couple of ex's on his page but it doesn't bother me.
@lillake (1630)
• United States
5 Dec 09
So far none of my ex's are on Facebook. I've looked to see how they are doing now, but none of them are on. There are a few I would be friends with online if they were though.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
5 Dec 09
So far, I've never had that kind of encounter yet. And even if I do, I know that I won't be making the first move, as in sending a friend request. I will just, you know.. see and keep quiet. But if I'm being sent a friend request, I wouldn't reject either. Just a no-brainer there, LOL..
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Exes are exes for a reason, so that is why no, I don't have any of them as friends on Facebook. It is bad enough I am forced to talk to my son's dad on a semi regular basis, lol. Though you do give me an interesting idea - we are constantly arguing over how I have ALL the responsibility and he has NONE, ZERO (he seriously sees the kid for two days a month for three hours at a time and has no idea what I go through with dr appts, school meetings, bedtime, etc. etc. etc.) - and so if I did add him on facebook I could spy on him and see what the heck he is doing that is more important - and he'd realize how much I actually do all the time too.
But, still, I'd rather just forget everybody else I ever dated who didn't end up being as nice as my hubby :)
@Allie_xoxo (1063)
• Canada
5 Dec 09
yep! Simon and I managed to remain not just FB friends but real life friends too. This is not an easy task and still has many rocky parts, but sometimes a person comes into your life and you just know that even tho they arent meant for you in one way they are in another.
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 09
hai ladym,
hmm..can't consider her as ex though...during my secondary school I fell for this girl and waited for 7 years...she's married now with three girls...and wouldn't you believe it after all those years..now we are best friends--thanks to facebook..
last month, I just added my ex in facebook..hmm..its kind of awkward to starts a conversation...and till this point I've practically done nothing apart from adding her in my friends list...we do have great history together--guess that's the one holding me back..
@snafushe (791)
• Canada
5 Dec 09
haha actually I have all of my ex's on facebook.. some of them have even tried to sabotage my past relationships cuz they've wanted me back, by sending messages that were very suggestive towards me and them having something going on secretly. Most of them I regret and like to have a good laugh at what I used to think was attractive..
@lynkshadow (299)
• Canada
5 Dec 09
I am not friends with my ex's on facebook. Actually one of them did ask to add me but I just think that it's better to leave it in the past.
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Yes, I am friends with two of my ex-boyfriends in Facebook. It's nice to keep in touch because I am so over them and just interested in continuing the friendship. But I could not imagine being friends with my other ex-boyfriends because I really want them out of my life (LOL).
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
4 Dec 09
No, I'm friends with a couple of my brothers ex's though. We chat about the fun times we all had together. Its not awkward or anything and it been years since most of the stuff happened.
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
5 Dec 09
I am friends with a few of my ex's on Facebook. They were not really serious relationships as they were when I was in 7th grade. I do not want to be friends with my one serious ex. He still frightens me. Unfortunately, many people I know are still friends with him. This really bothers me... but there is nothing I can really do about it. I have hidden myself from him on Facebook.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
All of my ex's are a friend of mine even after the long years we have not seen each other. But only one is a friend of mine on facebook because the other 2 does not have a facebook for some reason. I made it a point to be friends with them because I want to keep the friendship going no matter what.
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hi lady! Its good that you are still friends with your ex's. As what you have said, they were from highschool ex's and there's no reason that your husband will be jealous.
We're not friends with my ex's so that's exactly the reason and why I don't have them in my facebook