Have you been In Love to a Two person at the Same Time?

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Philippines
December 4, 2009 3:58pm CST
Have you experienced to be in love with a two person at the same time?... For the situation that you are single but in a relationship, then you suddenly felt that you are also in love with the other guy who is not your current partner. One more thing, you've found out that that other guy is also in love with you. How do you handle this feelings?... What is the best thing to do about it?... I believed that you cannot love two different person at the same time, it is unfair to love and have them both. You must set the other one free.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Nope I havent. You can love 2 people at the same time but there is always one that you are IN love with!
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Sure do!
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
and that is all true... you may think you love two people at the same time but there is really a difference in the feeling you have to each of them. You just need to figure out which one is really love.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I don't believe you can be really in love with 2 people..Generally speaking I think that when those things go on it's when there are some issues or problems in the main relationship. When that is the case it isn't love..It is the grass is greener on the other side thing going on.
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Oh I see... probably you're right jewels49. I should think about it a thousand times... maybe me and my heart, we got issues... and it is better to figure it out than to hurt two people.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
5 Dec 09
There ya go..now you're thinking.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
They say you cannot serve two masters at the same time. And so, this is the same with your question, that you cannot love two person at the same time. Nevertheless, I was. Yes, I did it before but, I try to figure it out who should I retain. When I try to compare them, its incomparable. The other one is different to the other. One does have the characteristics of this but the other one does not have. What I did, I pray a lot. For I know and believe that this is the best thing to do in order for me not to hurt the other.
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
Through prayers there is no impossible things in the world. I believed that you've make the right decision which of them should be let go and which one should be the one to be with. It is really all true that you cannot serve two masters at the same time, and same with loving... each people is entirely different and unique from each other... so it is so hard to choose which is which, but considering their interest and their personality that fits yours... it's a great help. The best is to seek God's guidance to lead you to the right person. A happy day to you.
• China
5 Dec 09
hi,krystalheart! I have never been in love with two men at the same time. once,however,I nearly did so. at that time,I had already met my boyfriend and we had got along very well.but another guy I knew newly,attracted my attention.he was very different from my boyfriend.we had pleasure conversations and I found his voice was very charming. However,I was aware of the danger.I never thought of breaking up with my boyfriend and I knew that I had to get rid of such a fantasy.so I left for a tour with my boyfriend.we had a good time and I forgot all about that guy.when i came back I found I wasn't bothered by him any more.I knew I made a correct thing.and I have never mentioned it to my boyfriend because I don't think it is necessary to do so. Do you think so? have a nice day!
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
Hi there Cathylee... at least you made a right decision that you never regret off. Love is really what you feel about your boyfriend, while for the another guy it could be an infatuation. It is a good thing that you were able to get your self out of that fantasy before any unwanted things that might happened and you'll regret in the end. A blessed day to you.
@azazel87 (97)
• Bulgaria
5 Dec 09
nothing is impossible. I have been in love in two difference men. In the beginning I was sure that I love both of them and I was so confused because I felt so strong love and I thought I could not live without one of them. But then I slowly began to realized that one of the man mean more for me than another one. And in the end I love him more than another one. I think loving tow people is not impossible, why should that be? Because somebody say that? We have so much love in ourselves, just in the end you always have to choose only one person - because that is the rule of our society.
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• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Hi azazel87, thanks for sharing... it is true that even if you think you're in love in two different people, still at the end you'll realized that one is more than the other. You just need time to realized who is more important and who means a lot to you. Thanks for sharing.
• Indonesia
5 Dec 09
lol, it is a very very very difficult situation. and i DO experienced it. :D and to make things more complicated, three of us were best friends for each other. not going to tell the details, it's an old wounds :p but it is complicated, and it is hurt anyone involved. the results of my case is three of us just become friends now, nobody from the two became my wife, lol. if they doesn't know each other, i simply suggest that you choose which one most fit for you. playing with hearts only make it broke...
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• Philippines
6 Dec 09
Hi there, really true that playing with hearts only make it broke... It is really wise to choose which one is best by knowing within yourself whom you share the same interest, and the one whom you think you can be with for the rest of your life. It is also best to decide carefully and wisely that in the end you'll not regret anything from your own decision. Good thing that even though you're not able to marry one of those two girls at least you are friends with them now.
• India
5 Dec 09
Being in love with two people at the same time mans that you are interested in both of them, but not in love with them. You can never be in love with two people, but yes, you can find two people interesting and may like both. Well, the best thing is to take a test and stop being in contact with both of them, the one you miss the most would be the right one.
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Oh that could be an effective way to know whom your heart really desires. I guess it is not actually love but an infatuation. It may seems that they both got your interest, but not necessarily love.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
5 Dec 09
It is unfair to be in love with two persons. But it is possible to be in love with more than one person, it depends on the attraction and situations. The definition for love also differs from one person to another. ( It is difficult for me to get one person to love, how you all get more partners? can you pass on the secret? hehe)
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
oh I see... yes it is quite true that if you think you are in love with the person at the same time. That feeling could have a difference in some extend. It is also unfair to have them both... you must set the one free... and set your self free from that feeling.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
6 Dec 09
I think there may be a fine line between exciting attraction with lust and real love. I do believe that certainly you can be ‘in lust’ with more than one person at a time but I would not call it all consuming love because my belief is that there is usually only room for one very special person in someone’s heart. If an individual is married and he or she has not had major relationship issues and all of a sudden this person finds him or herself attracted to another I would consider very carefully what is at stake. I can’t say I have ever experienced loving more than one person at a time...
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@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
You can only love one person at a time. Those who thought that they are in love with two persons at the same time is not in love at all. What they could be feeling is lust and it's plain cheating. When you say love, it is more deep. Others say it's a commitment, how can you say you are committed when you are being unfair to both persons? Personally, those claiming to have fallen in love with two different persons are not feeling real love they are just feeling a very strong attraction to that person. Just like when you're younger, you just have a crush and you can say that you're in love. People are just being selfish and blame love for their feelings hoping that others will forgive them for it. But sooner or later, they will suffer the consequences. Cheers!
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Hi there, maybe you are right in some point... but not totally... Maybe it is not exactly love.. maybe it could just be an infatuation... meaning... falling in love in the concept of love. But it doesn't mean that the person who thinks he/she loves two persons at the same time is a real selfish one. He/she must have issues in his/her heart trying to figure out what it is. It is sometimes hard for someone to search what is really the desire of his/her heart. Let us not be judgmental because we sometimes don't know the life journey of that person. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Dec 09
As far as I am concerned, I think I will not fall in love with two persons at the same time. If I love my firl friend present so much, I think I will not have the chance to love the other person. So if you love, please love so deeply. Hope you get a comfortable life.
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Hi thanks for sharing monkeylong. I am happy for you that you have a wonderful realtionship now with your girlfriend. Your girlfriend must be blessed to have a man like you. But sometimes it is unavoidable to some people to experience heart issues like this one. There could be a lot of reasons behind it.
@IamSamm (74)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 09
I could not imagine hows that possible to love two person at the same time when i love a person he is the only one and its not really easy for me to fall in love once not to mention twice for me personally that's impossible plus is soooooo not fair to the once you love and yourself. from the situation you mention it might been just a crush altho i don't think its possible to have another crush except your love one listen to your heart and choose the one you can't live without,the one who his negative side wont effect how you feel about him. But if your not ready to be committed than enjoy your "friendship" live with both and find out which one is right along the way
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Hi Sam, very well said. I agree to you. It is better to choose wisely... choosing someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life. That you accept him whoever he is... that his negative side would not affect how you feel about him. Thank you for that wonderful thought.
• India
5 Dec 09
yes This is diffcult condition.Your question is strong!!!nobody is been able to handle two love partner and this is unfare,,,,,yes........ In this kind of condition we need to judge both them and find it out that who right and in good manner. think if your 1st love is beleive in GOD,Peacefull,and have good virtue and your 2nd love is not having good virtue,like go in parties,like smoking-Drinking- then you first immediately choose you 1st love.
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
It could be a tough one... to some. Yes I believe in God. Believing in Him and entrusting to Him everything is the best one to make. Seek His guidance, and you will never get lost.
• United States
5 Dec 09
yes, and i makes sense because the heart wants what it wants, however, you must choose at some point what road to follow because if you were either of the ppl you'd want the person to choose you. yet still, i'm sry because i understand to have the butterflies and sappy romance feelings for more than one person. in some cases its a different type the more comfortable i'm happy to be with you and then the more passionate live life in every moment type of love....NOT LUST that is different cuz in lust you could care less about the person as long as you got what you wanted in the end. furthermore if its lust you wouldn't care about the person being gone, you'd think well "happy time" but love is different because you honestly feel i want them around regardless....again sappy but it can happen. i hope you find what road to follow i believe it take, thought, prayer and good'ol sanity to do because one you don't want to lose out and you want to be happy. best advice i can say. which one do you wake up thinking of first who do you forgive first not matter what and lastly, who are you vulnerable with and not afraid to stay like that with
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• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Hi there logoseeker, thanks for sharing... It is quite difficult to feel that way... especially if you are somewhat guilty that you are being unfair. It is really wise to choose whom your heart desires. Even if you always want both of them to be around you... you must set the one free.. listen to your heart and seek God's guidance. God will help you choose the right path if you believe in Him and entrust everything to Him.
@mjweed21 (693)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
I never been in love to a two person and I don't want that to happen. I just to want to be put in a situation that I'll be hurting other people.
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
But sometimes... feeling like this is unavoidable. I guess others are just lucky for not encountering this kind of feeling.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
I wish I could but I never been in love with the two person a time. I've been in love before but sad to say the guy don't have a feelings for me. That time he also have a girlfriend I don't want to destroy their relationship. Right now we are seeing each other but we only friends and I don't want to pursue my feeling to him even if he has no relationship right now. You should choose between the two and don't hurt other feeling because in the end you going to realize who do you love the most.
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@billi65 (29)
5 Dec 09
Yes it is possible. I am a gay man and I was lived with my two lovers for over fifteen years. The initial start was a bit rocky but when we realised we all wanted to be together it worked out great. I eventually left the relationship as i fell for someone else but the other two are still happy together. I am not sure if it would be so easy in a straight relationship though.
• Italy
5 Dec 09
No but happened that 2 o more girl were in love for me. XD
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
oh I see... so how do you handle that kind of situation?...
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Oh I see... so that's a lot of story... but at least you were able to end with the one you really love. Thanks for sharing.
• Italy
7 Dec 09
Ih ih, it was a problem,in a first time during a travel i attend a girl who was fall in love for me for 3 years, then i don't like more her and attend anothter girl who was the girlfriend of my friend, and so there were a lot of disruption between me and her ex boyfriend, between she and first girl that i attended,but finally we overcame all barriers and now we are engaged since 8 months :)
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• Romania
5 Dec 09
it hapened to my to, to fall in love once whit a very beautiful girl but she did noth wanted to be whit me, so i got over it and i found another beautiful girl and very smart, after 2 months hte firs girl that i like'd very much wanted to be whit me but i refuzed although i still loved hear, and now im very happy whit my choice i love very much my actual girlfriend
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Hi there thanks for sharing... good for you that you were able to choose whom you want the most.
• China
5 Dec 09
it has happened usually.Don't get up anyone.until the day you get married.One of both must leave you .
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Have you experienced to have this situation?.. were you able to give up on them or you don't until the day of your wedding?... How can you say so?...