sibling rivalry

I can completely understand how someone might resent their siblings. Without getting really detailed here I'll just say that my younger sister was clearly the favorite growing up and there were many times I felt cheated. We're now adults and both married. She just found out she's pregnant and that news has caused me to relive a lot of those old feelings from childhood. I have children and our parents adore them, but we're a military family and live in Asia. My sister still lives in the same town as my parents. I know a lot of it has to do with the choices we make, but I think she'll always be the "baby" in our family and treated differently.

It's diffent with my brother and sister. When we were small, we often get to a lot of fighting. Jealousy over the other would be the usual cause, him having that and not me, or what she wants she always gets, that type of jealousy. Then we were made to understand why and over the years, I might say we've grown a little mature and the fighting occurs much less, if it occurs at all. And though were not all married yet, I hope that there wouldn't be a gap in our relationship it we decided to marry and got into the same situation.

In childhood only we alone move with our siblings. But after marriage, we represent our spouse and children. It is natural that you can talk 1000 things about your family members but on the contrary, if someone say one thing about our spouse or children, we cannot tolerate. We will think, as if their family members are good that they came to comment on my family member. Apart from this material problems also will creep up in many ways. But ultimately blood is thicker than water. Except a few, many siblings do love and keep affection on each other.

hi no wish I was but I grew up pretty much an only child. I am sorry things changed so for you. maybe this Christmas season you can get together and sort of work out things and get some real caring going agAin. money should not have to enter into thingsat all . really Christmas is the celebration of Christs birth so look at it like that and love one another as he taught us all to do.

hello allknowing... in my experience, i can say that with the love and care that my brother and i have with each other never changed even after i get married... the only difference is that we have now less time to spend together, coz i already moved out in our parent's house together with my husband... i think, the time i get married, my relationship to my brother becomes stronger and good thing is that he gets along with my husband as well... when i was younger, we don't actually have much sibling rivalry coz we have different traits and characteristics, we both have our strong and weak points...although there are times that i also feel bad & a little jealous specially when my parents always defend and favors him...but i learn to overcome that feelings as time pass by and learn to understand the situation as well...and i think it also has got something to do with our age gap... i am 10 years older than my brother... so now, no more sibling rivalry between us, e are just supporting each other...

things changes as well as the relationship when sibling get marriage as they have now different priorities with a family of their own. The main focus is on to give a comfortable life to their family and their is competition between sibling when they fight for approval and attention from the people around them to praise them for their latest achievements. I do not engage in longer sibling rivalry it mainly involves petty quarrels but they are forgotten after the reconciliation.

No, I am not in the same boat but what you are experiencing is the same with so many people around us. Actually, once we get married, our own family i.e. our spouse and children become more important to us than our extended family or even our parents and siblings. Its but understandable and we must accept the reality of relations…our parents and siblings are important to us no doubt but our spouse and own children will always come first.