Its Official: Im going through a midlife crisis
By Leo
@d_e_v81 (360)
Singapore
December 5, 2009 11:55am CST
I am 28. The top of my crown is losing a few hair everyday. My knees are not what they used to be. Keeping my stomach in and not losing my abs is a daily battle. And Im single. It doesnt help when in family gatherings people keep asking me why are you not married? you should be attending these functions with a partner. Where is your partner? How come you are still single. Bla bla bla...Im investing more time with work and earning money both petty cash through PTC and my investments in funds and forex. Not to mention my job commitments and National service commitments. The only holif\days I have I spend it with guy friends doing guy stuff. I am surrounded by beautiful girls...just check my facebook profile, unfortunately they all have a partner. Feelin very depressed and lonely. Sometimes it feeels like no one understands me except my cats and my Betta fighting fish. Haizzz...can anyone else relate?
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@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
5 Dec 09
28? Mid life crisis? You are way too young for that! When they ask you at family gatherings why you aren't married, tell them that you are more selective than most people! My advice to you would be to look for girls (beautiful or not) that can be your friends. I had a male friend 40 years ago and we enjoyed a lot of the same things so we spent a lot of time together. Somewhere along the way, the whole friend thing changed and my friend and I have been married for 37 years. Get involved in clubs and organizations that are meaningful to you and you will meet someone with the same interests. If you do get involved, I'll bet that the lonliness thing will go away too. I once was exactly where you are now and the drepression and lonliness went away when I stopped focusing on myself and got involved helping others. Best of luck to you and drop me an email when you find that special girl. I know that you will.
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Please don't set the average life span at 60-70. I'm 62 so I would only have a couple of years left and I have way too much that I still want to do in that short a period of time. LOL! I approved your friend request. I would love to be updated on your search. Settle? Absolutely not! Don't settle for anything other than 100% I can't live without you another day you're my reason to breathe kind of love. If you do, you will be miserable. Sometimes, that special girl isn't the one that you have in your head. I was always attracted to men who were blonde with blue eyes. What did I marry? Brown hair and green eyes. The physical attraction was there but the emotional attraction was what sealed the deal. Have some friends that are girls. Go out for coffee. Take a walk on the beach with them. Do some volunteer work with them. If something is meant to happen, it will. If not, she probably has a number of girl friends that might be right for you. In the meantime have as much fun as you possibly can.
@d_e_v81 (360)
• Singapore
5 Dec 09
Thanks Lauren! And yes I do hope you live up to a hundred at least. I will need your advice until you are at least 80. HAHA! So you live in LA? nothing to do with my discussion I know but saw it in your nick so thought of asking. does your husband mylot as well?
@d_e_v81 (360)
• Singapore
5 Dec 09
Considering the average life span of a human is 60 or 70 years, isnt 28 about the right time to be goin through a midlife crisis? lol. Your comment somehow made me smile and Id love to keep you posted. Im gonna add yea to my friend list for more tips and advice....if you dont mid that is...hehe...and yea,...you are right...I am pretty selective....I just have this ideal image in my mind and somehow I cant seem to give in to second best. Is that wrong? I mean...i dnt wanna spend my whole life waitin for that special someone but in the meantime just get married to anyone...what if I bump into her along the way? Itz these what ifs that are drivin me crazy....
@d_e_v81 (360)
• Singapore
5 Dec 09
But it is hard when I attend family functions. It is like the derive pleasure in reminding me that I am the only one not attached. Even the younger cousins are growing up fast and seeing people. Itz true and easy to say it is their opinion i should just leave my life but people's words do have an emotional impact on you. just try putting yourself in my shoes... :(
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
6 Dec 09
I am 76, and feeling Great. I do yoga every day for 45 minutes and it keeps me young and flexible. I am still working because I love my work. MY knees are very strong, and I can stand on one foot. I am particular about my diet. I seldom buy prepared food because its laced with salt, sugar, and fat. I enjoy cooking and only buy the best ingredients. My stomach is flat and I haven't gained any weight in 40 years.
I've been married for 54 years and its been a happy relationship. If you are in a midlife crises its of your own making. Get over it and get your life back on track!
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
I am sorry I cannot relate. . . ..You are only 28 and you are very young to go through that midlife crises. That midlife crises is only in your mind. Your being single is a matter of choice. Why not stay happy instead? When I was 28 I was also single and unemployed! I was not sad. .. I would keep on thinking that you are not happy, for sure you will not be happy even if you become married and millionaire. 
@smartjack (520)
• India
6 Dec 09
hey why are bothered what others tell you. Why dont you forget all their comments and live your life the way you wanna be. Let them keep saying what they want. You turn your deaf ear towards them. You will find your partner soon. Just be patience. And stop worrying about it.
@allknowing (137553)
• India
6 Dec 09
The ones who single you out as being unattached do not have their statistics right. There are countless like you who are single and happy and in fact may be happier than those who are committed. Search for the positive aspects of your life and you will find quite a few which others will envy.
