Would you tell a person the truth,

hi jugsjugs I think that depends on what this truth is,if it would jeopardize their lives or income or something really serious let them be upset as they may need this information. if its something that maybe even just in your own mind,unless you know this person closely and know they will not be angry at you, just keep this to yourself. why hurt some one for silly things.

It depends on the circumstance. Would someone be in serious physical or financial danger if the truth were not told? If not, I'd try to keep quiet. I would never lie, though.

It depends on what that truth is all about. In normal circumstances though I would usually tell them straightaway as long as I know that telling them will bring out a positive result. There are truth that will make a person upset, but still, I will say it and tell him/her if I believe that it is the right thing to do. It really depends on the issue or topic involved.

I think it depend upon the truth that should be reveal or tell. You don't make any definite articles here. please give us more clearer details to expand this conversation in more conceptualize figure..have a nice day!

I would always be truthful and tell them the truth. I always use the anology that if it was me would I rather be lied too, or told the truth. And I would rather be told the truth no matter what.

As Somerset Maugham said in one of his writings that one need not be unnecessarily frank and I follow this to the tee. Unless the person concerned is close to you and benefits immensely by your revealing the truth I would advise you not to do it.

If you dont tell the the truth and they find you knew it , it would be worse when they found that out!

You seem to be in quite a bit of trouble here, but hence you decided to tell the truth after Christmas, guess the question is no longer if you should tell, but when to tell. Its good you decided to say it, as its more common to lose friends if found hiding stuff. You should also be worried about yourself in this case, as it seems you won't have a great Chrismas, cuz it really upsets you to stay silent. So i think the sooner you tell, the better, for everybody. Plus there could still be enough time to bring the bad news and not ruin the season. Of course it all depends on what is there to be told. And sure enough there are things wich are better left unsaid, especially those you are not 100% sure or can't be proven. But do note any Christmas that is saved, by telling lies or hiding truth, could prove more horrid in the end, and might become even more bitterly remembered then those ruined by truth.

I'm too honest. I would say something regardless. Once years ago I was working as a cocktail waitress and I saw something that unnerved me and I wanted to tell the person who needed to know. There was a couple that I knew and the guy was having an affair. I thought about but couldn't bring myself to say anything to her until one night the opportunity arised that I couldn't step away from. She cornered me in the bathroom and asked me outright if I knew anything. I told her the truth. I remember several of the other cocktail waitress got mad at me because I told her. They wouldn't have. I did and I am glad I did.

Hey jugs! If I knew that telling someone the truth about something was going to hurt them then no I wouldn't tell them. I had that happen to me the other day. My girlfriend has a problem with her eye. It is a complicated situation to explain. She asked me how I thought it looked and I didn't want to tell her how bad it really looked so I just lied and said it looked fine. What purpose would it have done for me to tell her the truth, but to hurt her and make her feel worse. There just are times when you have to make that decision to hold back the truth if it isn't for the best~

If I felt that not telling them would cause more pain or danger then I would tell, it wouldn't matter how they felt about me. If they asked a question and I knew the truth would be painful I would want to make sure they really wanted me to answer. No matter what kindness must always be the rule, and you must make sure of your motives, often we have hidden motives, hidden even from ourselves.

I will be telling the truth none the less, because it often happens if they find out the truth, the fact you have been lying to them, makes it less likely they will trust you in the future and that may destroy your friendship, is it worth sacrifying?

Well, now? that depends on the situation. Mostly, I believe in always telling the truth, but there are those people who no matter what you tried to explain to them, would come unglued and then you'd be the bad guy. In other words: DON'T SHOOT THE MESSENGER It's all a matter of knowing who and what and how bad the truth could hurt them or you.

Hi Jugs, I will assess the advantage for telling the person about "the truth". If i find it helpful for the person to know it by all means i will tell her/him the truth. It may upset her/him but i know it will help her/him become a better person. Being upset is temporary, but the positive thing it will bring her/him will be a porcess and can be lasting.

I would speak the truth if a close friend really needed to hear it because it was important to his/her quality of life. I would not use the truth as a cosh though, just to upset someone. Some things are better off never being said, even if they are the truth, and something just need to be said if withholding them would be dangerous in any way to a friend or loved one . It's down to a case of assessment I guess.. As a therapist, it is my job to help other seek the truth for themselves. At the end of the day we cannot really judge what effect truth has on another's life. It has to be up to them. - Derek

It depends on what matter it is. It is something related to him a lot. Then I think that I will let him know about it. Otherwise I will just keep silent about it. Minor things can be neglected anyhow.

Im not sure about that.Anyway,I will try a nice way to tell them and try not to make them feel bad.I think a liar is more forgivable if he tells truth eventually.

Truth sometimes hurts.If there is the need for it to be told then, there's no reason why you shouldn't even if it'll upset the receiver. Also, by not being told of the truth, the person is deprived of his chance to move on the right way and to decide for himself what to do next. knowing that you were lied upon can be more upsetting than being told the truth. It is not fair, whatever good intention you have, to not to tell the truth.

No, I would say that, all things considered, I would lie to a person if it meant that their feelings would not be hurt. In the end, I would not give the whole truth, and then things would be left at that. I wouldn't want to make the person upset, so I would probably not say anything at all.

For me, it would have to depend on what the "truth" was, how upset it could potentially make that person, and whether or not it would jeopardize the relationship between us. Too many times in the past have I spoken my genuine mind when confronted with a question, and too many times it has caused more hassle than what it has been worth, resulting in arguments and petty disputes simply because I decided to be honest and not hold back on the truth. Now, I always take the time to think about my response carefully when posed with such a dangerous question. I still try to be as honest as I possibly can, yet if my answer will end in unnessecary drama and conflict, then I will simply give a response based on what the person wants to hear, not what I want them to hear. Although, such people can really grate on my nerves and irritate me. It just makes me wonder why the hell they are asking for my opinion to begin with if they know they will just take a bad reaction to my honest and genuine reply.