When your parents hate the one you love.

it doesn't matter to me if my parents would not like or accept my mate to be. i believe i have my own life to liveand my own future to establish.,

my parents have hated every husband and boyfriend i have had- with good reason, that i refused to see until i went through some s**t. they were all losers and cheaters but then i wouldnt be where i am now. lessons have been learned

In my experience, parents can often make judgements of a loved one based on ignorance. People think its this sixth sense they have and its not. If Im not sure of someone I will use my own judgement or ask my friends for advice becuase they have never been wrong about anyone I dated in the past where my parents have wrongly judged more than once.

hai ck, why people had to make such decision? why can't they just choose both of them?? as a guy, I think we should have the will as well as the balls to defend our love ones...which is our family and lover.. -peace- hehe

First thing to get to know the reason for their disapproval. If you get the reason from them, then you can either prove that your selection is not of that kind/ convince your parents that you selected that person just because you liked that particular part of your partner. Altogether, if you like your parents, and if you really love them and your lover equally, you wont get into trouble. It is only then, when there is some variation in the level of your love, you feel that one person has to be given more priority than the other. Just answer this - For a moment forget about your partner. Take your mother, say she is the one who is opposing this. You love your father, and you are more attracted to your father than your mom, Have you ever seen your mom complaining about that? You may have. See parents just feel that you are trying to give up the love for them for somebody who has come new into your life. Just make them realise, it is not like that, and make them understand that your selection is not wrong, and your partner, is the best in the world.

Parents do seem to have a great difficulty accepting our decisions, the decisions we make for our life.Not only about Love they seem to be against what we want to become and everything.They might be doing this because they love us but they should also understand that my life is my life.All they can do is support me and encourage me for what I am doing because I think I am not doing any crime by choosing being a painter as my profession rather than a doctor. when the time comes when we date,it always happens that they have a say on every person we like,especially the moms.They will point out all the bad points about the person we love.But they don't seem to understand that what I want is not a perfect person,all I want is an imperfect person Perfect for me. There comes a hard time when we are to choose between our parents and the one we love.It doesn't mean that I don't love my parents.It is so hard to choose between the persons who have loved me,cared for me from the very time I came to this world and the Person who I love and care.Its really a hard decision to make. But when it comes to choose between the PAST and FUTURE/PRESENT,its wise to chose the later.I think the parents will be very angry hearing this,but you guys ought to understand that we have done all we could to make you happy and proud, atleast you should give us the chance to be with the person I feel perfect.Try to be with them,they aren't that bad as you guys think.

Hi, there. As a lady, its natural to the parents to dislike the man courting or anyone who got interested in their daughter. I am in a relationship right now and my parents seems having a hard time to accept the choice i made. We've been through to lots of trials before we find peace in our heart. If I'm in love I don't care if they accept us fully as long as I know i am in the right path. Have a great day. Ciao

It happened to me before. At first, I did not follow my parents' advice to stay away. We secretly communicated. But everything is difficult when the world is against on what you believe especially when the family is involved. So one day, I have decided to let go of it so that I won't be able to disappoint my parents whether they know it or not. Somehow, I've felt free for doing that. I could smile now knowing that it truly represents what I feel.

yes it's normal that parents may give their opinions to your suitors or anyone that wants to be close to you that's one parents responsibility. Hmmm i had experience that when my mom don't like my boyfriend, well i don't care if she don't like him as long i love him, she was going to be judgemental at the first place and maybe that's why i don't have boyfriend right now. And if i'll have i don't want him to meet my mother, as long i knew him already.

This situation is very common as also with time parents accepting the situation with a smile. It would be nice if reasons could be found out why parents act the way they do. If their concerns are noteworthy they should be weighed. Sometimes infaturation takes precedence over the practicality of a relationship which only parents can see.

I agree parents are being irritating about this, but they do that because of tradition and they feel it's natural to approve/deny of someone you love. I also agree with Simone, as it's true that parents are more picky when it comes to accepting the right man for your daughter, especially the girl's father. I dont know why, but I feel the same way about it. Your parents just want to keep you safe and away from any danger.