Being single is great?.
By ArelSaiten
@ArelSaiten (10)
Singapore
December 6, 2009 3:00am CST
Who think that being a single or alone is much better rather being on a relationship. As to me,there is adv or disadv about this. Being single is great when it comes to freedom,need not to think much about own soulmate, we have all the time in the world to spend. But when the time comes,when we cant do anything, we will start to think that,i am so lonely,who am i suppose to turn to when i am in need?. And so it goes. What do you guys think?.
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20 responses
@shahalashamo (166)
• China
7 Dec 09
There are two different kind of views,one is that being a single have a lot of freedom of what you want to do,another is that being a single means live alonely,when you want somebody to listen to you and look after you,there is nobody in your arrounds.If you can find a good companion,that will bring more good.
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@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
12 Dec 09
a religious institutions, join a particular club or activity, God, social club or activity, events, therapist, counselor, psychologist, etc.
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I enjoy being single because I can do what I want when I want, but it is nice to have companionship in your life. I miss that sometimes.
@elisse27 (181)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
As for my experience, I am better off now being single.
I am a baterred partner, a year ago I decided to leave my partner with our son and now I'm a single working mom and I'm happy now. Although at times, I still need someone who will love me and keep me secured, I will still choose my situation now rather than when I was with my ex-partner
@biqinaibi (17)
• China
13 Dec 09
I think being single is great for a while.when you think about something or reading books,it's enjoying.But it is not a good thing in a long time.Friends and parants are very important and play a role in our life.If leave them ,we can't feel happy even get ill.More often then not,lots of people feel lonely.
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Well, I have been single for the last 17yrs, and I just love it!
Yes, I fell for that old saying,'you have to love somebody, or be with somebody'! That is the biggest mistake I ever made! I tried being married twice, and neither one worked out! I wasted a lot of time, doing that when I could have been single all that time!
It took me years and some mistakes to finally figure out, some people are meant to be in relationships, and some of us are not meant to be in a relationship !
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
7 Dec 09
If you go into a relationship because you feel lonely are you really in it for the right reason? I think I'd rather call up my close friends if Im feeling that way.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
You have a point there it is kind of lonely when you gets old alone. I'm also realize that scenario and it is also my worries. My mother always telling me that if I don't get married no one going to look after me because of my health status I need someone to be there for me. For now I still enjoying being single and I haven't found the right guy for me yet.
• India
7 Dec 09
yes i quite agree with you. being single is good . beacuse when i single we can do anything we can go anywhere and take anything no body disturb us. but when i dont single then we have to face no. of problems
@Emvy548 (387)
• India
7 Dec 09
The advantages of being single are:
Gives you enough freedom to do whatever you want.
You can indulge in dating to your heart's content
It is economical because whatever you spend is only on yourself
You get an status of an eligible bachelor which makes you sought after
Gives you more time for yourself
However, the disadvantages are:
Makes you feel lonely at times
You may yearn for a family life especially if you have been brought up in a secure family environment
Married people may exclude you from socializing since you do not have a partner
You will not be able to enjoy the love and affection of a partner and children
The advantages of being in a relationship are:
You know someone cares for you and that someone waits for you
You can confide in your partner
You have a sense of sharing with your partner
You can plan on having kids
and the disadvantages:
Less time for yourself
More spending
Insecurity fo losing your partner
@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
6 Dec 09
Like you mentioned, I think there are both advantages and disadvantages for both. I think either status is really great, depending on how you personally look at it. Right now, I'm single and I'm loving it =D If I were to be in a relationship right now, I would think it was great too =] It really depends on how you see it since there are both good and bad things for either side. For right now though, I am definitely loving the single life because like you also said, there's so much freedom to it. When you want to do something, you go and do it. No need in asking anyone else because you're not involved with anyone. That's one of the main reasons why I like being single. Being involved with someone though, also has its advantages. For myself, some advantages that I like about when you're involved with someone is that you're not alone on holidays and it's a great time to spend some time with your significant other as well as the families. Also, you always have someone to talk to so you don't have to feel lonely. But yeah,for the most part, I would be happy either way because there are advantages for both, yet there are also disadvantages. It just depends on how you look at it.
@AaronYLeung (182)
• United States
9 Dec 09
Yes there are pros and cons of being single. I agree with you 100% with what you said about the adv and disadv about being single.
But a person can only be single for so long. Yes you get all the freedom of being single and no stress that comes with having your soulmate. However, a person works and functions better with another person. As you grow older, you will understand that having your soulmate can complete you. It's part of life to work together as ONE.
@rleankus (113)
• India
6 Dec 09
I have been a loner from the very beginning,I was distant from my families,my friends and everyone.So I prefer to be alone and single.Because it causes unnecessary pain when we are with a person who doesn't understands us or our feeling.Life becomes a Hell with burning Fire in it.you find no joy in living and soon give up all the things that you like to do.You change,and change into someone who you are not.You won't even realize yourself when you look in the mirror.
But sometimes when its raining outside and you feel the tenderness of the moment in your heart you long for someone who will merge with the tenderness and take you to a place where you will forget all the pains worries of your life and makes you feel like your in heaven.Thats what being in relationship will mean to you if she /he is the right person for you.
@triptibaby (691)
• India
6 Dec 09
Well, I want to speak for the both. Being single is really great as because you do not have much burden for others and live your life care free. But, if you are alone, it means you are isolating yourself from rest of the community. If being single is really comfortable, than probably majority of the population won't think of getting married or to be in a relationship.
Both have positives and negatives, but when we compare both, being single will be kept aside by majority of the population. If one think of living, than it is better to live to the fullest instead of restricting himself or herself of something or other.
@DNMT008 (16)
• China
6 Dec 09
In my mind,when you are still a student,you have many classmates,among them you may have a number of friends.So you always have somebody to talk to,to play with,or to seek help.But when you graduated,the people around you are your boss,your subordinate,or your colleagues.I'm not saying that you cant't cultivate friendship with your colleagues,but I suppose it's not as good as your friendship with your classmates,not to say the emotions with your parents.So it's quite normal for adults,especially single adults,to have the feeling of lonely.
For me,I like stay alone,and I like doing things alone too.But I also have a few close friends.After all,huanmankind is a social animal,one cannot live alone.But you have the right to be alone sometime,and it really feels perfect.It's just like "the world is mine".
@krystalheart (842)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
Hi there, yes being single and available is quite better sometimes. You have a lot of freedom to do what you wan to do, but you must set your limitation to prevent future regrets. Being single is great but not for a lifetime. We need someone who can we spend the rest of our life. Well, we should not rush on things especially in the stage of singlehood instead enjoy every moment on it with limitations of course.
@hapsicordable1 (475)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
I believe so that being single is great for a while, especially if you want to enjoy being alone and when you want to discover who you really are...Singlehood is described as "No Highs and No Lows", same as enjoying the moment when there are no complications to deal with. But sometimes when loneliness comes in, you'll realize that you're missing on someting...and that's sharing a moment with some special someone.
But when you're lonely there is always your family and friends to spend time with. Don't you agree?
@evydabest (197)
• Malta
6 Dec 09
I think that one should have a slice of both. I believe that at first people should remain single/alone until they find a partner and they know in their hearts that he/she is the one. When that idea is covered from single, you can move onto a real relationship. You will be able to reach this stage when you and your partner have complete trust in each other, care for one another, and love each other on a certain level. When you are in a relationship it is quite hard to become lonely, because your partner would be like your new bestest friend.