What do you do to not feel alone?

I'm alone but my grown daughter and her family live with me. To not feel lonely I keep business with stuff that I enjoy doing. Such as writing, reading, watching movies, making candles, baking and playing with my granddaughter. You need to find something that interest you. I think being busy will keep you from feeling sorry for yourself. Its probably harder during the holidays but you make it a beautiful Christmas for your kids and don't think being alone is so horrible. We are all alone at one time or another in our lives. You have to snap out of this depression and get on your feet and start doing things for yourself that will make you happy. Forget about your ex and what he is up to. Good luck to you and try and think positive and if you pray that will help you inmensely.

Hi Barbie, There are times of crucial situation for everyone. Its not only you who is feeling lonely and crying at times. May be others are not having the same problem of yours. It could be any other reason which relates to loneliness but you know feeling loneliness, crying will not make the problem solve. I know it is difficult to come out from this kind of problem but yes God is there. We should pray to God more often. So that He will grant our prAYER and the problems can be easily. When i have a big problem sometimes i felt that God doesn't love me but its not. Situation lead me to think like that. For me during problem we need to pray more. Praying to God is the best way for me to solve any kind of problem. I pray, i discussed, i cry, i share everything with God it gives me strength for tommorow. The more i pray today, the more happy i will be tomorrow. It takes time to get answer but i keep on having HOPE that God will lead me to a better life. I pray that Your Husband will realize his mistake and come back to you soon. And happily live together.

Hello barbiegirl. I am sorry for the situation you are having at present. But I think that you need to cheer up and be yourself instead of feeling let down by your husband. Why not have a nice chat with him to make him change his attitude towards marriage and family responsibilities? It is not what a pleasant marriage is supposed to be. But anyway, I wish you to be firm and live happily instead of feeling lonesome. Cheer up, friend.

Hello barbiegirl, I can relate with your story dear. I know your situation is really hard and upsetting. And the worst thing is,you can't go out or do some things outside home becoz your son needs much care and attention. Well,i would suggest that,you do some things that can make your time profitable instead of having self pity. You can sew dresses or anything that you know you can sell,or if you know how to make crochet or knit things,then it would be fine also. I am also alone with 3 kids,and,it gives me hard time to make myself out from this boredom and self pity. Now i am trying to keep myself busy with small business,i do some crochet and sell to my friends.

Try to listen a music and do anything that you feel you are busy and read any notes and specially the bible.

well. im only 16 so i dont have any kids or anything yet. but i live with my grandmom and when she goes to work im home alone all night and it can get really boring most the time when im alone i have the problem of getting scared so most the time i go on the computer and play games on pogo.com its only 30 dollars a year and its actually really really fun. or i start to watch a good movie. im sorry to hear about your baby. and for your ex i wouldnt worry about him. maybe you should sign up for a dating site or something and meet new people? sorry if im not much help.. im only 16 lol. i tried though. hope things get better for you :]

I feel alone in my life all of the time because I feel like such a loner most of the time. I try to stay busy by working online every day of the week and trying to sleep at other times when I am not working online ro around the house. It keeps my mind calm and occupied.

Im wonder why your feeling alone when your with somebody 24 hrs a day??? Make the most of your time when you are at home with your children. Quality time. Family time. There is so much they need to learn. Check into some classes for job training or something. I think most colleges have daycare too. If you are lonely for adult friends maybe you can meet people there.

For me I'm contended to be alone but to have someone is a big factor. To beat my loneliness I am always in front of my computer to express my loneliness. Watch and listen music then write here in mylot...Sometimes I please myself...have a nice day!

Yours is a tough situation but it is temporary. Things will change, but you have to find a way to carve out some sort of life for yourself. It is difficult with such a young child who is ill, but you have to make the effort because your children need you. Maybe you can plan to move to someplace that is not so isolated.

dear barbiegirl, i have been reading thru the responses to your discussion. seems that many didnt see that you cannot leave the house because of the baby's illness. and that you are hard up having no transportation money. if there is a church nearby that you could go to, ask the parish priest and tell him your problem. maybe he can send out someone to talk with you. also you can ask help so someone can teach you to do some craft which you can sell later on when finished so you will have money. be active in mylot. you have your computer then find friends online so you can have an outlet. it is difficult i know but you should not let depression get into your head. talk to your husband, dont blame, dont shout... just talk and release your pain. i know he is depressed as well. maybe something good may come out if you have a real heart to heart. am not religious but at times when i feel very low, i talk to Him. believe and everything will fall into their right place gradually. have faith.. i send you my love, ann

I keep myself busy with work and hobbies so that I won't feel lonely.

well, i think you should cheer up your life! and change the way you think and keep the positive thingkings. by the way wheres your parents and relatives?? maybe you could find some good/positive activities with your childs, your neighbours, or wider society. or you could just browse the internet to get rid those lonely feelings.. or maybe you can try to find a mate.. or even more a new father for your child...hehe enjoy! have a nice day!

Friend ,don't brood, it will only make us ugly. Busy yourself and find a job for the sake of your children. Don't mind your husband. Find a job, be sociable and make yourself beautiful. You can join organization in the church, make yourself busy, you can have a business in your house, if you are taking care of your sick child. You can have a small store in your home to make you busy. Make yourself creative , the more you brood , the more your husband will be womanizer. You must always look good not only for yourself but for the whole family. And if your husband is a womanizer, you can divorce him and be independent. Stand up and respect yourself, find a work for your self, don't cry for your husband. God bless you....

Oh how can I help you. Since you can use the internet you can watch you tube and be entertain by the uploaded videos there. There are lots from television programs, to musical to movies. Of course you choose those programs that are entertaining and comedy films as wells. Try to chat with your friends, for sure you have even if you are in a remote area. Try to join in a chatting area, or in a forum where there are many friendly people. For sure you will find one. Find another income opportunity online , be busy on earning with it. Don't always feel sorry for yourself, I have been there, work for your happiness. That man you have , you don't deserve him. If you can forget about him, forget him. MOve on and choose happiness. You , yourself can only help you. Trust me you can do it.

I have been where you are. I was with my ex husband since I was sixteen years old and we married when I turned twenty one but four and a half years later we were in very different places and eventually separated. After eleven years with the one person I found myself alone with no friends to speak of and no children. I didn’t know how to rebuild and I was depressed for a long time. I began doing things by myself; I even took myself to a drive in movie once! I ached to have someone to do those things with and I became so lonely. I felt like that for a while until I decided to make a change and forced myself to join in some activities such as bush walking and a social club. I slowly began to meet people and have more of a life. It was hard but worth the effort. Would it be possible for you to move to a less isolated area perhaps? Are there any mothers at your child’s school which you could befriend? I hope things get better for you...Music and uplifiting movies can help...

I do not have a problem being alone, so telling you what I do won't help. I love being alone more than being around people. People drive me nuts. However, since you do have this problem, you need to move on. You must do this hon. You can't sit around waiting for things to improve, you must be proactive. How do you do this? I think the first thing I'd do is call up your family. Stop playing that you can work it, and ask for help. As the phrase goes "if you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting". So its time to change! Will it be easy? No. But life was never supposed to be easy. Call up everyone you know, tell them the situation you are in, and ask for help. Everyone needs help sometimes, and there is nothing wrong with asking for help. Then someday when you get past this, perhaps you can help out some other single mother that's depressed and lonely. But you have to get out of this before you can move on. Yes your hearts been broke, and it feels like someone decked you. All you want to do is sit and cry. There is a time and place for mourning your losses. I think you've done that. Now the time is for getting up and moving on.

Barbie, I felt this way at times too. I live in the desert and raised three sons here, in the middle of nowhere. I have a good husband, but he was a truckdriver and gone for days at a time when the kids were young. So I do understand what you are feeling. I did a couple of things that helped me immensely. On was to get involved with whatever my kids were interested in. If it was sports, I coached or helped the coach. They loved horses; I started a 4-H group so they could ride and learn. One liked sewing; we started a sewing group so he could sew. I love to cook and two boys were interested in that. We grew a garden and put up vegetables, and experimented with recipes all the time. When they were at school I volunteered - which turned into a paying job once they were all in school. My son had asthma; I visited with other kids and their families whenever he was confined to hospital. This produced friends who were going through the same things I was. Another thing I did was get involved at church. Even with no car, someone was always willing to pick us up for church. I volunteered wherever there was a need and met a lot of great, caring folks. Kids programs wee my main genre then, and doing them I didn't need baby-sitters - they came with me. All of these things required time, not money. The third thing I did was to always look for folks who needed help, that I could serve in some way. It is both helpful and humbling to know that there are always folks worse off than yourself, and that you can help them. Nothing treats depression better than getting your mind on someone else's needs instead of your own. I agree with other writers here, in that your best and most trusted friend will always be God. He is always available and will never leave. The trick is to not just sit around waiting to hear from Him, but to seek Him yourself. Prayer and studying His word will reveal Him to you, and the better you know Him the more you will see Him working in your life. Take a step every day, and stick with it. Shame on your man for treating you so shabbily! But ignore him now. If he is treating you badly still, it is probably because he feels guilt. Let him stew in it by ignoring him and making your own way. You can do it, and you will. God bless!

It is very said what you say about being alone all the time. You have good reasons to feel alone. I suggest that if you have no other option to make friends, which is highly indicated, to buy a pet or two to live with you. This way you could talk to them and enjoy playing with them.But I repeat, it's better to make some friends somehow. Don't you have to go out to the doctor or going shopping? Try to get in touch with people! Socializing has an amazing effect on depression.

um mm that's very tough 4 me 2 answer...solitude is something that can't be made up by anything...besides solitude has its own charm..solitude reveals its secrets ehen you feel its essence...but sometimes when i feel lonely i just hold my cell in my hand and start messaging my friends but amazingly the sms i send them are also about solitude...then sometimes i listen to music..but the music are also of to solitude..so no matter how much i try to do staffs..solitude doesn't leave me.