Why do we have to sacrifice a lot of our personal wants because of our family?

Hi. I believe that we do that out of love. Sometimes, we love our family so much that we feel obligated to help them. To the point that we sometimes sacrifice our own personal wants or dreams. Based on personal experience, however, helping our family should not go beyond "sharing." As responsible and loving individuals, we should share our blessings with our families. But "sharing" is very different with "sacrificing." Sharing is voluntary in nature and does not hurt us in any way. Sacrificing is more of feeling obligated, involuntary giving, and could happen beyond our means or resources to help.

Yes ofcourse, think of the time when your family had sacrificed for you. You might not be able to recollect everything, but do you know how your parents have sacarificed their sleep when you were young and ill, they must have spent spleeless night because of you (not in particular you, but this implies for everyone) and you were not having that much understanding what they are going through. Then similarly there will be such times when your family members must be thinking for your and sacrificing in some way or the other so that you get what you want. So its our time now to think and sacrifice for them when we are capable of doing so. I learnt this when I became father and my son was in hospital, I use to wake up whole night for him, and was sleeping hardly for couple of hours and again waking up early in the morning to be with him. This is just an example, there are many such instances with everyone to share. Just my views.

"Family" can mean a number of things. Firstly, if you are talking about a father providing for his own children, it is the responsibility of the father to do so - and doing it is a privilege which brings rich rewards. If you are talking about sacrificing your own wants for your parents, this would depend to a large degree on the needs of the parents and your definition of your "wants". There is a balance. Speaking as a parent, I would not want my sons to sacrifice for me. If you are talking about sacrificing your own wants for your brothers and sisters, this again depends on their need and your "wants".

If you think it is worth sacrificing...then why not? As long as you are happy with your decision,then,it is worth the sacrifice. But,if you are just doing the sacrifices becoz you need to do it against your will,then i guess,it's worthless.

I think it's not fair. But most of time we're quite traditional, we regard obessing to our parents as piety in our society, so most people should sacrifice their own personal wants, the most outstanding issue is giving birth to a baby, secondary is get married. I'd rather to be myself but I don't want to hurt people who loves me especially my parents. I have to lie to them sometimes, pls forgive me...

depending on what you want ? When your the man of the house you sacrifice a lot and trust me women know when we have a good man. You will get whats coming to you , I know it may feel like your not being appreciated but if you are the man of the house and have put your needs and wants to the side for your family you will be blessed just give it time.