Have you ever been in love with one person and know you love another?
By vanessavh
@vanessavh (4)
United States
December 7, 2009 8:04am CST
Have you ever had a problem like this, Your in a long relationship or even married and you love your spouse with all your heart but know you still have feeling for your ex. Even if you know that ex is wrong for you in everyway and could never relate to your new life. But you just cant get him/or her out of your mind or dreams? what would you do or suggest?
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@Xituwa (21)
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29 Dec 09
hi ,this situation is some same to me .i have a boyfriend but at the sametime i and another boy's(B) relationship are so ambiguous ,but nothing happen .and when i broke up with my boyfriend ,i found i had been in love with another boyB for a long time .isn't that funny ?but what a pity ,we love each other but we can't be with each other. because i'm going study aboard.time flies ,we don't konw what may happen .but i love that guy B Truly .I want to marry with him .
@piatos03 (393)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Yeah, it has happened to me before. Before I was with my current partner. I used to think that my 3rd ex was the one. I just blew it because my family had to move away. Everytime I was in a relationship, I would think of him. He'd always be the reason why I would break up with whoever I was with. I just kept thinking that the ones I was with could never match up to him.
But then, I met this guy. The one I'm with now. And he's perfect, and he encompasses everything I long for and so much more. And I forget about my ex. I guess I just got lucky.
Let me share with you this excerpt I got from a book. It might explain why some people can't get their exes out of their heads.
"They all count. But there are certain people you love who do something else; they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life...but there's still one more tier to all this; THERE IS ALWAYS THAT ONE PERSON YOU LOVE WHO BECOMES THAT DEFINITION. It usually happens retrospectively, but it always happens eventually. THIS IS THE PERSON WHO UNKNOWINGLY SETS THE TEMPLATE FOR WHAT YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE, even if some of those lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable..."
-Chuck Klosterman "Killing Yourself to Live"
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Hi, vanessavh! Yes, this has happened to me.. Sorry myLot.. I used to think about my ex while being married to my husband. But these two guys, I feel that they still love me even though I am married to my husband. I can just feel it. The only thing that you can do is to choose who you want to be with. I had to do this myself. Figure out where your love stands in your relationship. You are not over this ex if you are still thinking about him/her. If you want to stay with your husband do so, but only if you truly love him and want to be with him, only. If you can't possibly do this, I suggest you step out of your marriage, and think about how your truly feel.