Which is more important to you? Relationship? or family?

hmm... interesting perspective you have, because I always thought it was more the case in India that people are often forced to choose between 'love' and their family's wishes. many times the person they would love to marry, is not the person that their family has chosen for them. so they have to choose. marrying a person that the family disapproves of because the latter is from a different caste might then mean that they get disowned from the family. that means that they actually had to choose their spouse over their family. some who choose to obey their family, then have to abandon the relationship. which is a tough decision, since you may never meet one person that you love as much again. or the arranged spouse might be someone you never truly grow to love in the same way.

Hello dear brother, This is not a matter of choices...no one wants to choose between family in change of any relationship.(nor i,even how stubborn and hard headed i am when it comes to principle,i would never exchange my family from any kind of relationship) Your culture and tradition is what you believe to be the best,becoz you were born from that kind of culture and tradition.Just like how other races claims their cultures to be the best for them too. In my country and in my opinion,we had our own freewill...free to choose who to love to,our family can make suggestion or even objects,but in the end...it is still the concern who will make the final decision. A family will always be a family,no matter how they object with the relationship,still,after sometime,the family will accept about it. It is the LOVE that bonds the family.. no relationship,no anger or hatred, no one and nothing else's can ever break that ties.

It is really a tough decision. Of course now since I don't have a relationship, I will choose my family over it. When I am ready and have a relationship I will choose relationship. Of course when there is a right man and I am now getting old, I feel my parents will allow me to have a family of my own. I guess there will be no problem with them, but I feel the problem is within me. I am so attached with my family, and I am not thinking of my future. I never see myself having a family of my own, like I am now 30 years old and some of my colleague have there own family and I am left still single, but I am having any problems with that. I still enjoy me being a single.

Hi vijayanths,Yes,i agree with you,family and relationship will go together.We will be happy in our relationship with the blessings and approval of our family.Both are very important factor in having good and peaceful life.Thanks,Good luck!

I have always been close to family for a long time. But I know when I find the significant other that I love, then I would choose them over family, because usually I can always fall back on family if something goes wrong, but I think it would be harder vice versa.

That's a really tough one, but I would have to say family. I'm really glad I don't have to choose!!

firstly i would have to see how i was brought up. if i was brought up in a close-knit family, where sticking together was given emphasis, then i would lean towards my family. and then it would also depend on the kind of relationship we are talking about. if i was in love and i felt this was something i could give up everything for, then i would. but personally, i m family-oriented and my parents have given me so much love and care that if i had to choose between them and a relationship, they would have more chance of being chosen than the other person.

Hi Vijay. While I think that as the Bible says, when two people marry, they leave their parents and cleave to one another and begin their own core family. But...our other family, our birth families, they are always that...we cannot separate blood from blood. Most of the times, even if there are some kind of problems, they can be worked out. So family just keeps growing in size and love grows with it to embrace all. karen

Hi vijayanth This is a tough question. If anybody asks me which eye do you want? how can i select? In this way, both are equally important to me like my both eyes. I can't sacrifice my relationship for my family at the same time i can't sacrifice my family for the sake of any relation. I am sorry I think I am of no use to you in this subject.

Family has to be the most important thing in our lives. Relationships will come and go. Family is forever.

Hello!Oh,is indeed a dilemma.I think that,according to what their own develpment and changes in a timely manner,making adjustments,choose.Of course,this will be a standard inside and see how you set the standard of and then act in accordance with the standard.

I am more on the side of not choosing, both sides have different importance i people's lives and both sides have different meaning on someone. I am married right now, with 2 kids, I am the only son, my father and mother are still alive. But if i where to choose, between my own family (wife and 2 kids) and my parents. I will choose my own family without thinking and second thoughts. But i think it will not happen. Have a nice day.

Hi. I'm lucky to have a very understanding husband. He understands that I still have to support and care for my family. It is a common norm here in the Philippines. In rare cases that I have to choose between the welfare of my family against relationship, I believe I would prioritize my current relationship (husband and future children).

do not know if you have afavorite girl in europe ?if there go do the courageous pursuit of the other are false

In western countries, we don't often have to choose because we like to take relationship more important. We rarely have a family whose more than two generations live under the same roof. When a person become adult, he is independent and has the right to choose the girl he likes, his parents may not like this girl, but they can't intefere that relationship. So as usual, the decision is not very tough.

Definitely the family. Relationships come and go, but family is forever! Even as someone from a "Western" country or region, I still wouldn't choose between my boyfriend (assuming I had one) and my family. No thank you, I will not upset either side! A few years back, my boyfriend at the time - and his family celebrated Christmas on Dec 25th, the day OF Christmas, and my family celebrated it the day before (Christmas Eve - what we usually do), and so it all ended up working out just fine. If both of the celebrations landed on the same day, though, I would probably go to about 1/2 of each celebration just so that neither side would be upset with me! This is what my sister does with her current boyfriend. It seems to work out OK. Luckily this year I don't have to worry about any of that..That's the plus-side to being boyfriendless!

we are responsible in any decisions that we make, and no matter happens, the important thing is to maintain GOOD RELATIONSHIP, both for the FAMILY and for your PARTNER... it may look as if you have to choose between them but the real thing is that you have to choose the risk of being the bridge between them, the most mistake of a person in that situation is that the couples decide to be stubborn in the idea that all things can be fixed and they instead eloperather than fix the main problem,right? if you are willing to sacrifice and not be selfish.. you will all be happy.. and again myLotters, relationship is about happiness... and you would not be happy if your family is against your relationship fOrEveR...

In my unique case, (I am unmarried), so I can say my family - which is my father, is more important to me. :)

I'm like you, Vijay. I don't think you should have to choose. I have a fantastic marriage and a fantastic relationship with my family. You should be able to have both. I think that some people feel the need to choose because maybe they want a relationship with a person that they're family doesn't approve of so that makes the person feel the need to choose. If you have a supportive and loving family they'll stand next to you and be there for you regardless of whether or not they approve of who you've chosen to spend the rest of your life with. But that's just my opinion...

Family. A good relationship will eventually become family anyways ;)