If you were in my situation???I need help!!!

Sorry to say this but your husband is 7 years older than you yet he is acting like an irresponsible spoiled brat... Why would he questions you think where in fact you are working and buying all the things needed in your home. He should be the one providing that in the first place!!! I know how hard to live with a man like that… he must grow up and know his priorities… He is more concern on what others might think about him that is why he is always generous to his friends… He is so conceited!!! You must talk to him regarding this issue. Don’t allow him to continuously do this to you and your kids… This must end. What he is doing is completely wrong! He is destroying your marriage slowly and surely. I hope that your husband will be man enough to talk to you and fix this problem…

Wow... Your husband questions you about money when you are the one putting food on the table? I hope I am not that harsh and I don't mean anything bad about your husband but he has no right to question you about money. Does he have a job? If not then the more reason he has no right to question you. I am the type of person who likes to set things straight the fast way with ultimatum. I don't like looking as if I'm begging just to be heard. If I am in your situation I would have to leave my husband for a while to let him feel and realize what he lacks when you I'm not around especially that I am the one working to feed the family. If you can talk about it then please do so cause marriage is still important. And hopefully he will change. Hope that helps. Ciao!

Sounds like you need to have a talk and work out a budget. If each of you has money, then it seems that each of you should contribute to the household needs according to what you earn. Allow for the bills and divide what is left over so both of you can enjoy something extra. That way, if he wants to enjoy something with his friends you will not resent his doing so. You will also be able to do some things for yourself and you will not have to explain every penny you spend. For major purchases, then the two of you should decide together on whether or not you will get it and how you will pay for it. You may even decide on what constitutes a major purchase. It may be as little as $100 or it may be more, depending on how much money you earn and what you can afford. I suggest you prepare a list of all expenditures along with both your incomes before you have the discussion with him. That way you will be prepared for any arguments he presents. Good luck and God Bless.

I can't believe you as a woman, have been the bread winner for as long as 3 years. What's your husband doing? It's more natural that husbands should be the bread winner in families instead of wives. It seems your husband contributes nothing. If it is, then how can he behave so generously to his friends? He is using your money to entertain his friends. That's something unforgivable. As you are the one supporting your family, you have every right to dispose the money the way you like. I suggest you to talk with your husband and tell him honestly about what you think of him. If he refuses to do something useful to the family, then I think you should consider about divorce.

i dont think making a budget would do it, you need to realise one thing, that something is very wrong in this relationship here. your husband needs to realise that he cannot live on his wife's money, where is his integrity? is he physically disabled? mentally challenged? if not, nothing gives him the excuse to sit at home or party with friends when you are rushing to make ends meet. ok the situation might not be that bad, but come on, why are you tolerating this? tell him to help around the house, find a job, earn some money too... or give him a pocket money, no excuses, and never give any extra money for anything... if he insists, ask him the same lots of questions that he asks you when you ask for money... and why are you giving your salary in his hands, may i ask? keep it with you. a wife handles the budget of a household, does the shopping, etc... best of luck in anything you decide to do...

hi happy2512, i understand your problem. first of all i want to know that, is your husband question you all time in all other activities or only questioning when you ask money. you have to find reason from your husband that why is doing like this? reply me and i will next advice to you. bye

Well, I read you and came to think about your situation . You need help ... but which type of help you are asking from us ? This un-satisfaction of yours can be solved from personal talk of yours or some person related to yours in your real life ... virtually we can't help you ... In this situation you can talk to your husband and that's all everybody will say to you ...and you know better what you have talk and how ...because he is your husband ...and you can't express of your understanding through some words ... So take a deep breath and decide to talk seriously ... think what are the things are bothering you ...and short that out with talk with him ... Thanks ... :)

Thius is not good. As it is a warning that your husbanmd is self centred, and doesnt value you as a partner with whom he can share everything. I say this, as I recently separated from my husband of 6 years. One of our issues as well was money. Perhaps you can ask your husband to have a proper talk where you can share your feelings about how he is treating you regarding money. If that doesnt work, can you try marriage counselling? Im sorry to hear this, but if his behaviour continues I would be looking at different options.

hi, there are several things you can do here... First you have to talk to your husband about what the income and the expenses you have in the household. Second, you need to save up some for yourself for future need. And the third, you have to have some income to support your family as well, not just depend on your husband. My situations is a little different. My husband used to make a lot of money and all his income will go to me. I take control everything in the house, even his spend period. well, I also work and have two children. I do this cuz he is a big spender... I have to know how much he has, if he has a lot of money then he will spend them all without thinking. Just yesterday he has more than $500 in his pocket... well, I asked him to give $400 back to me and I also told him not to spend too much cuz we need money for future needs. He didn't get mad at me and agreed to me back. I take control on financial as well... but if my husband needs them for a good reason, then I will give with no question ask. as he already knew before he asks for it then he will tell why he needs it for. Like I told you, you should save some for yourself and your baby. just keep some small amount everyday or week and it will add up someday.

I am not married but I suggest you to have a talk with your husband. If I were in your shoes, that what I would exactly do. Maybe he is curious of what you are doing and the reason you need money. So its best to say it to him. :)

well for starters, hes prolly asking all those questions because he doesnt trust you, if you cant communicate with your husband then you need to get a divorce because he obviously doesnt care about you as much as his friends or personal satisfaction. You should come first because youve been supporting his dumb butt, truthfully age doesnt matter maturity and responsiblity are whats important and it seems he lacks it.

Hi. If I were in your situation, I would request for an open discussion with my husband - and it is a must. I am not the martyr type of person. Definitely, I would not tolerate such behavior. As a couple, my husband and I should share on everything - fruits of our labors and all home expenses. If I am the higher earner between the two of us, I would be very willing to give bigger contribution to our expenditures. That's because I love him and our family. All I would want is that we bring our income into a common fund, budget such fund by agreeing on its uses and purposes, and keep track of its actual disbursements against budget. I hope you could resolve your problem soon. Have a blessed day.

I would at least ask why is he being so generous to his friends and not to you. You and your child are his top priority, or it should be.

i believe your father was a love child ,and his gentle good to talk if you talk about his reason for your ex if you take the kids back home a month would be like you ,he should have !!!

You should strictly communicate to him that marriage is a partnership, not a solo song and it is high time he share the household responsibilities along with you. If he is someone who's given to softening down, you may also try some sentiment in your approach and make it clear to him as to how it's getting increasingly tough for you keeping the family boat afloat singlehandedly. Talk it over till you come to a decision that can help you sail with balance.

happy you should not have to ask your husband for money, thats really mean of him. sit down and work out checking accounts for you and for him and one for both of you as a joint account to pay the bills, allthe bills. that is what my husband and I did and it works too, as you both have personal money that does not need to be discussed with each other, then the household money which perhaps one of you will be the primary bookkeeper of this. this way he does not have to account to you what he spends out of his account nor you to him for your own personal account. think about it , this may help.

well i think you should have atalk with him about how what children and basic needs for family comes first. make a list of what and howmuch money on expences and what paycheck you send the money out on. if you have any play money as what i call it. money to do what ever you want. make sure you have money set back for a rainy day fund. or emergncy cash. and if he wants to spend his play money on his friends and his things then so be it. b ut you should have play money as well and if he doesnt liek that idea then since you make the money set boundrys with it if that dont work then make an account with only your name and put his play money in the account that has both or his name . anyone who acts like that really is only out for him self and either needs to go to marraige cousling or personal cause its not heathy for a family or for the children involved. My first marraige i worked hard to pay for what we need and want and we have a beautiful daughter but he want to spend our money even food money for me and baby on anything else but us and he was taken care of but not us and thats not a good husband/ father. now i have a good husband who helps and we talk about anything before we buy even a small items as renting a movie. we talk everything over to make sure we both agree caz its not haft his and haft mine its 100 % of both and we decide on everything and we have our lil play money

All healthy relationships require clear communication. If you are the bread winner then you are the one with the money so I do not understand why you do not have control of the money in the first place. You and your husband need to have a discussion about finances and budgeting. The whole family needs to be on board with the financial plans. Do not get defensive at your husbands questions. Simply answer them. Expect him to answer any questions you have about money as well. Most importantly, keep lines of communication open.