What will you do if you are in this situation?

Hi my friend, i can't process your problems to my mind, but do not worry, cause i am here to try guide you on your problem. I will try to enlighten you about your problem and i will try to make you think, what will be the possible solutions to your problem. OK, so, you said that, you love the guy for almost 5 years? And He is your good friends boyfriend, i think you are strong enough to endure the pain that you feel, every time you see them both walking, holding hands and etc. You have handled that years long, you endured the feelings that you feel for him, you are so selfless, and now you are asking us questions, on what you can do? I think you are strong enough to handle the situation. Anyway, we all know, that you are the only one, who can solve and find answers to your problems, you are the only one who can decide, what you think is the best for you. First of all, i would like to ask you, do you love your self? If you love your self, then, what do you think is the decision that can make you happy? Sometimes, it is not bad to be selfish, i mean, you are not selfish at all, in fact you endured that 5 years, that is a proof, that you become selfless. Loving yourself means you know how to love others also, cause if others saw you, that you know how to love yourself, they will also do the same for you, meaning, they will love you too the way you are loving yourself. Another question, what do you think is the feeling of the guy for you? If you think that the guy, also like you the same way you do, don't you think it's best to fight for it? But, if the guy, do not feel anything for you differently, but only see you as a friend, what do you think is the right thing to do? Would you tell him? or just ignore endure another year of keeping that feelings, that is making you melt, every time it plays to your mind? Does your friend love you, as a true and real friend? if your friend really treats you as a real one, i think, there will be no problem to it, besides, they are done, and i think, it is about 3 years. If your friend love you both, i am sure she will give way. Knowing that it will make you both happy. Don't you think your friend will let you be with him? What do you think, will happen to you if you still keep that feelings inside of you? Do you think, it will do anything good to you? Remember, before loving someone, you need to learn how to love your self, and before making someone happy, do it first to your self. I am sure, this scenario is bringing you already too much pain, stress and depression. Will you just let yourself drive out of sanity because of those feelings? We people all know the effect of stress, depression and pains that is kept in our hearts. Something bad really happens to people, who just cannot express their feelings. Do you think it is best, if, you will just express your feelings? I think it is a much more better decision than doing nothing, but still it is up to you to decide. Let us say, you open that feelings to him, and he said, he only think of you as friend, what will you feel? Will you feel hurt? or, Will you feel much better? Look at the scenario, at least you let him know, what you feel, and that problem that keeps bothering your mind, will be gone. And it is for sure, you will feel relieve, maybe you will feel hurt a bit, but still, you have expressed your feelings. Second scenario, what if you tell him that, and he told you that, he also have feelings for you? Will you believe him? What if the feelings is true? Will you just let is pass by? or You will fight for it? We do not know, if the people we are meeting is already the one, sometimes they are not, but sometimes they are really the one, what if he is already the one? Will you just let him pass by and loose the right person for you? i see here, how you love your friend so much, that is why, i am also hoping your friend loves you the same you love her. If your love of friendship is true with each other, then i think, she will let you both live happy, and i also think that she will be happy for you. Some people are right, it is a disrespect, but, is it really disrespect? There are no right or wrong in this world, it depends on the person who will perceive it. In love, all things are right, specially if you will let yourself to be happy just for a bit. Anyway in love, your are not the only ones happy but also the one that is loving you back. Now, the real problem is, how can you say you love him? Why don't you ask your own? After reading my previous notes? Do you have mouth? Lips? Tongue? Voice? Do you know how to say the word " I LOVE YOU" loudly? It is easy right? Now, what do you think is the best thing to do? Knowing you know, how to speak. Do you love your self? DO YOU REALLY LOVE HIM? Is your feeling true for him? is it love? or is it just LIKE? Love is worthy to fight for. What do you think is the right thing to do? Do you know how to decide for your self? What decision do you think, is the best that will make you all happy sooner or later? If all people will think of the boundaries and the walls that is blocking to their heart and mind, do you think something good will happen? Do you think, people can meet all of their goals in life. Anyway, you will still be the one to decide on the end. i just hope you decide for things that will make you happy, cause i am sure that happiness will make you become a good person that will help the society. Just do the right things right, and decide for the right and for the truth. Remember that only truth can set you free. Ok, that is all for now, that is all i can say to you, and i hope my guidance will give you good future. Anyway, don't push yourself, but do not also make it too long. You are the only one who can decide for yourself, always remember that. No one can control you and no one can tell you, what to do. I hope this really help and sorry for the short share, i do not have enough knowledge about the situation. You only give few. Have a nice day and Good LUCK!

Since your good friend was already borken up with him, I think it's your chance to say love to him now. I believe people should chase the love and happy life they want first, rathan than just waiting and wondering what to do...

nicolelkj, Relationship is called relationship because all problems are worked out between two parties - doing it alone is called compromising. If you decide that you wanna be 'nice' now, knowing that this will be an issue that will affect your future with him - then consider if your sacrificing short term gains for long term growth is practical and feasible. In today's world, there's nothing wrong for a girl to take the initiative. You need to talk about it - tell him honestly whatever that is affecting you. Don't hint to him; a strong, obvious, blatant hint is still a hint. If you are hinting, then don't expect a real reply. Also, joking is not real communication. If you joke about it, then your conversation will always be cast off as a joke. Learn to talk. Learn to speak. Learn to communicate REAL feelings. Fix a date, tell him that you want to consider this relationship. Tell him to that you want to know his ideas and feelings about this relationship, as well as yours. Let him know that there is a potential issue from the way you see it. Put items on the table - make it conscious, not unconscious. Have a nice day, all the best and compliments of the season!

i think, as many people, your friend's ex's are off limits. there are many fish in the ocean. let us not be consumed by emotions that we know, with all scores gathered the world over with regards to a woman expressing her feelings to a man, wouldn't pan out. if you're meant to have a relationship with the guy he'd tell you of his feelings whether you had been a friend of his ex or not. men are meant to always go for what they want. they don't rule the world for no reason at all. besides you'd feel it if he likes you. if you're just going to start a fire from scratch then scratch is what you might only end up with. peace .

hey nicolelkj.. does he talk to you often?? ask you out?? or any sign that says "hey i like you but im shy to tell you" anything like that??

Does he likes you too? If not,then I suggest don't tell it to your friend. first, that can only wound your friendship as you have to know. Boyfriend/s of your friend should really be off limit. 2nd,that can only add up to her pain as well as yours if you'd lose each other. And since you and the guy is not in-love then you should just forget him. there's nothing to fight for coz nothing is going between you and the ex boyfriend. Both of you have to move on now