shoud i give all my money to her?

I agree with Orea. Get a black and white about the loan so that if the other party is trying to cheat or something, they can't get away with it.

Ah, now i understand. No, I don't believe in lending money. I learned the hard way. I trusted someone and never got the money back. They were not who they appeared to be. As Shakespeare so wisely said, "Neither a borrower nor a lender be. For loan oft loses both itself and friend..." I lost my money, I lost the person I thought was a friend with integrity, I lost my naivete. If you do decide to loan some money, get a legal contract signed. Don't do it with a handshake or nice words. They aren't binding. And consider that if this causes a delay in purchasing your own place, it is costing you the equity you would have built up and any increase in price and/or value that occurs in the meantime. By the way, congratulations on saving so much at such a young age. You should be proud of yourself. We haven't met, but I am proud of you!

hi orea15.i am sorry maybe i didnt describe the situation clearly.here they just want to borrow all the money.but i just want lend part of them.what will you do in this situation.would you like to borrow?

I agree completely. People who put down their own money are much more likely to make the payments and safeguard it by being responsible. And I still don't get why she should benefit from someone else's hard work and wisdom while they put their plans and dreams on the back burner. This may be a cultural difference. I don't know.

Ah, that is a different matter entirely. One is about who gets to buy a house with his money, the other is about possibly saving a life. But once again, the sister is not a relative really, until you marry. What about her other, true relatives? Can they help? They are more obligated than her sister's boyfriend is. And to me it also depends on how your relationship is with this person and whether she is good and kind and trustworthy or overbearing, selfish, unpleasant. I am much more inclined to help someone whom I like. I guess that's just human nature.

hi laglen!here her sister was in trouble,and she need the money at once.and now inmage this, her sister was in hospital,and she need 50,000 immediately for saving her life.in this situation i think i will lend allmy money.what is your opinion?

hi allen0817 i am a newer here and i really like to discuss with you here.i can get many suggestion here and thx for your response. for me love and even marriage is not the combination of two people but two familise,as least it is the situation here in china.we should try our best to here the others family,cuz we became a big family.but just as yousay a young man may has better use of the money,i should make my girlfriend and me be happy firstly.right?

Hi, xiaozuo! I may only loan her 5k, but not the entire amount because my savings are for my future undertakings and not to pay his husband's debt. If you give all the money to them, your effort will be wasted and gone just like that and who knows you will need the money for emergency or something urgent in future, do you think you can get back the money from them easily and in just a short while? I know your intention is to help them, but just imagine you if you are in need of cash with the same amount, and you know they have the money, do you think they will lend you the money? If you think they will do the same for you, you know what to do. Good luck!

hi corrycrystal!image this,here her sister was in trouble,her sisters husband loaned 50,000 with high rate without telling her siter,and now they need to pay off the debt as soon as possible.while in this situation,would you borrow all your money to her? waiting for your response,thx.

yeah i konw what to do now.thx for your response.and i am grateful that you can give me the suggestion.thx

Why would you give the money you earn for 3 years! It's your money and not even 50% by chance you will gave her, but you can offer her to stay with you, but by division of a room for privacy. Thank You.

i just want to found a family with my girlfriend.when her sister is in trouble,maybe i should do her a favor.and i agree with you my own future is the first task.

i think the meaning of family is that we could help each other when some of them were in trouble.i can accept the latter choice,but i will reject the former one,just as you say ,we twos happiness is more important