Do Your In-Laws Annoy You At Times?
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
December 8, 2009 9:50am CST
Don't get me wrong. I love my in-laws...but to a point! In the past they have helped us financially when hubby was made redundant (he has another job now), helped us installing the kitchen, upgraded our yard so our plants look better...allsorts they have helped us with and there is no-one more pleased about this than me but...
They spend money like it is going out of fashion even though they keep telling me they are "less well off than they used to be." They also know that me and hubby are strapped for cash and I can't help thinking they are showing off at times.
I have told people on here that I am extremely bad at selling things. Not so the in-laws. They bought a new three piece leather suite in a strange colour ("because it was reduced") that doesn't go with the decor and sold their old suite to a Polish couple for £100. They will now have to re-decorate (especially the carpet) if they want everything to match...and they will, it's only a matter of time!
The last time we visited them my mother-in-law showed me her new chandalier. It was black, made out of shiny plastic, from Argos. It totally dominates the room! She then told me the old light fitting is upstairs. No doubt she will try to sell that. All she had to do was extend her old light fitting with a chain and it would look like a new one..and it went better with the room too! I have told hubby that - under no circumstances is she to buy us one. I have an idea of what I would like at ours and it does not include a shiny, black plastic chandalier from Argos thank you very much! Don't get me wrong, I have stuff from Argos but I want lighting from a specialist shop..or online. I wouldn't mind, but this light of hers cost £55!! You can buy a decent glass one for not much more than that! And why didn't she buy a clear one, it does exist, I've seen it on the Argos website! :-)
I am dreading Christmas!
Oh, and for a couple that are "skint" they have been on - not one - but TWO cruises this year! Grrrr!!
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4 responses
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Dec 09
Hi Janey,
I don't want to elaborate further my experience with in-laws but really they are so annoying. but of course they mean to as they are already part of my family and me being part of their family too but you can't halep it sometime to be irate and really get annoyed with them.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
10 Dec 09
that was before. but now were fine. there's just some things that need to be discussed and settled. i am happy that i was able to do something to make it work. they love me more now. thanks god for the wisdom!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
10 Dec 09
That's the first time I've seen you get a bit irritable so I can tell you don't like them very much. Thank God for my parents, is all I can say. They bring me down to earth with a big bump lol :-)
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
I believe at one point or the other people have issues with their in-laws. Like me, I do get annoyed with my mother in-law when she complains and complains like a kid that it is super annoying. I grew up where my mom does not complain. Lets put it this way, she does not complain like a kid therefore I do not complain like a kid. My mother in-law shouts like anything my mom does not. So my mother in-law is the opposite of my mom so I get so annoyed with her. Funny but that is life and I have to deal with it.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 Dec 09
Hi!
That is a good point you made about your mother-in-law being the opposite of your Mum. It's the same with me.
My husband hoards stuff like his mother does. I don't and my Mum doesn't either.
We are like our parents it seems!
@claudioangione (127)
• Italy
8 Dec 09
I can definetely say that they are not annoying me, but they give me lots of presents.. I can definetely not complain...
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 Dec 09
Hi!
I get presents too...some good, some not so good. Problem is we all have different tastes in things don't we?
@blestrella (176)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
I think you'll just have to glide or accept them as they are, and what they want to do, so that you won't get much affected. Just do your own thing for your family. It would be difficult to change their ways. If they enjoy what they are doing, just let them. Maybe they want to take the most enjoyment out of their lives while they are still around. My mother in-law was not in agreement with her children and children in-law, too. She wanted to have her way to which her own daughters disagreed but she was a good help to them, in terms of helping take care of her grandchildren. When she was gone, there were no more disagreements but at the same time, she was missed by all. As people get older, I think sometimes they do certain things to get attention or to show that they still have the capacity to do things they want and get some satisfaction out of it.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
8 Dec 09
Well, like I said, I do love my in-laws. It is frustrating for me, though because my own parents are 100 miles away & I don't get to see them as often as I should. I have a completely different relationship to my Mum than to my mother-in-law. My Mum is my best (female) friend, hubby is my best (male) friend and they are similar in many ways. I do know that my mother-in-law "means well" but she does talk to her son like he's 6 years old at times. My Mum has never done that with her son or with me. I suppose I am jealous at the fact I live fairly close to the in-laws but not to my own parents, but there again it was my choice and I should just get on with it. There are people out there in a worse situation than me, that's for sure.
