whose problem is it anyway?

The way that I think of problems, are challenges in which we feel like it's going to take more than just a small effort to get rid of and overcome. Problems to me, are challenges that we have to solve in order to move on otherwise we'll always be stuck on it. Yes, I agree that we tend to blame others for the problems that we face. I think a lot of the times, we don't like to admit that it really is our fault for these problems that come up and so we feel better by saying that someone else caused for it to happen. We tend to have a lot of pride, and in the process of blaming others, we do hurt not only them but also ourselves. I agree that we don't always mean what we say when we are in heated situations. In that moment of time, we can't always contain ourselves and we don't always think before we say so we just say whatever comes to us because everything is happening so fast. It definitely does make things worse a lot of times. Just like you said, I also think that problems are just like tests that we need to pass in order to become a stronger person, but it's not the tests that make us stronger, it's how we handle the different situations that arise. Two people can get the same exact challenge and they can both solve it in the end, but the key thing to them becoming a better person overall, is how they solved the problem and if they learned from it or not. If they didn't learn, then they didn't grow properly. I definitely agree with what you said about the environment. Just like you, I think that it influences in so many ways unimaginable, from how we think to how we act. We're taking in new information each day and we unconsciously use this information in our daily lives. It's up to us to recognize what will help us in life, and what will not, and use the right information and tools that we have in order to help ourselves grow to become a better person. I think that it's everyones problem/challenge. In some cases, we can say that another person caused this and that, but not in every case, especially not the wrong actions that we did because we were influenced by them unless we honestly didn't know better. I think it's a good mix of many different factors when you consider who starts the problems because there's a lot to consider.

Hi. I believe that most problems are personal in nature and have little, if not nothing, to do with the outside forces. Problems normally arise because of our own mistakes or shortcomings. Or sometimes, we do attract the problems into our lives. Whenever we have problem, we should accept its presence, determine its root cause/s, plan for the proper course of action, and most importantly - act and implement that plan of action/s. Blaming others for our problems would not help us at all. It will just worsen or prolong the situation. Problems are unnecessary evils to our lives. These are life tests which could make or break us depending on the way we respond (NOT react) to the situations. Below is my favorite quote about problems: "See yourself not as a person who has problems, but as a person who creates value out of difficult situation. See the challenges and limitations not as permanent parts of you, but as stepping stones on the path to the fulfillment of your greatest dreams."