Just Tell Me!
By AaronYLeung
@AaronYLeung (182)
United States
December 8, 2009 5:51pm CST
Have you ever had a situation where someone keeps talking and never stops but as soon as you ask them what they are talking about they don't tell you anything? If you had, am I wrong that they should at least tell me something? I mean...I know they have the right not to tell me, BUT if it's such a big secret then it's their fault they started it in the first place. Right?
2 responses
@maezee (41988)
• United States
9 Dec 09
I sorta know what you're talking about here. Sometimes with a co-worker or associate (someone who's not quite a friend), they'll ask me for advice on a situation, but don't go into details as to WHO it is or WHAT exact kind of trouble they're in. It's like, I really can't help them if they don't give me more information. *shrugs*. Oh well.
@Rose_Ellen (50)
• United States
9 Dec 09
Yeah, that can be hard. Though not exactly the situation described above, I often find myself in these situations. I usually remind them that the advice I give is only as good as the information I have. Usually I can get more details out by giving only as much advice as I can reliably give.
@AaronYLeung (182)
• United States
10 Dec 09
Yea. Exactly. It's not like we are trying to be nosy but if if they are asking for advice...they gotta give you SOMETHING to go on. If not, then you really can't help them.
Thanks! for responding! =]
@Rose_Ellen (50)
• United States
9 Dec 09
I think it has to do with your approach. If they are talking and you haven't been listening then you hold some of the blame. If you are confused then you should start with that. If you say "What are you talking about?" that is a passive aggressive way of saying that you do not find their perspective important.
@AaronYLeung (182)
• United States
10 Dec 09
Yea I see what you mean. But the situation I am talking about is that I AM listening to them. They keep talking on and on and on and when I get curious, I ask them if they can tell me more info so I can help them. But as soon as I ask them they either get offended or don't want to tell me. If they are the one asking for help or advice, they have to give me SOMETHING to work with, or else they shouldn't be blabbing for so long. Not that I don't find their perspective important, but there is a difference between just talking and just rambling on and taking up so much of someone's personal space. If they didn't want to tell us in the first place, I hate to be blunt or harsh, but they shouldn't be talking for so long.
Thanks for the response! =]
