having relationships is really important?

For one you are going at it all wrong. First you want a friend and then if feelings turn into more then the friendship is there for the relationship to work. First and foremost is honesty. If you can not tell your friend/lover anything without them understanding then they are not for you in the lover department. Me and my hubby have been together 21 1/2 years now and we tell each other everything and I do mean everything. If we see someone we think is cute we say so for if you hold things like this in it can cause many problems for one might think the other is secretly wanting or looking at this other person and wanting them this could even broke the two of you up in the end which it sounds like you have had some of this go on in your relationships. Just because you think someone is nice looking does not mean you want to take it for a test drive. Just means you are human and can spot nice looks and nice ways people act and look as. After all you can be the nicest looking person on the Earth and have the nastiest way about you making you ugly. Friendship comes first then love even if you are love at first sight it still can work this way to make it last. I would talk to your ex's and make thing understood about what all is said and maybe why and if you do not know they look into why you did say and act the way you did with them. Maybe friendships can come back and love blossom. After all honesty can help you in many ways use it.

For me it's better to have a lover and a friend so that your life became inspired and to have a long relationship you need to have a communication even ones a day or every week for doing that they noticed that they are precious to you.

For me all relationships are important no matter if the are friendship or a romantic one. Relationships are an important aspect of life to have people who care about you and you care about. I cannot imagine my life without my friends and family, even my boyfriend.

Hi tatu! I feel that you should have worked harder for establishing a relationship. We all are different and we all have different traits, it is unlikely that we find the 'friend' of our choice, we need to make do with the available persons, in the sense we need to adjust with others in the given circumstances. It is easier to break a relationship than to build a long lasting one. All the best to you.

hi,tatutino,i'm sorry you are said.but for me ,if cannot be lover,i will try my best to makes friends with him,in fact ,now i do it.when you find someone,make friends with her frist,don't think so much,if you love each other one day,can get together,it's easy.if cannot fit each other,they are still friends.

hello.maybe you are right when something haven't go bad to be friens rather than lover . three years ago ,i also have this feeling ,too.at that time ,one of my friend(male) ,my best friend ,i can say anything to him ,what i am thinking whati will going to do ,anything .but ,when the time is goingbyi find i cannot miss him .he became the one who is very important tome.at last ,i find he have falled in love with me at the begainning. he say love to me .and like this ,we hand together . and now,we have keep this love relationship three years.sure ,have the sad time,but totally,everything is going well .so what i want to say is ,it depends on . the feeling is so improtant .i think it is good for you start the love relationship when you find the love feeling ,but not friend feeling,or not,you will hurt someone.it is so sad for one who was disappointed in love.

Hi, I know how you feel, really. here is my story about my ex-boyfriend and me. When I was at 8 grade, this guy loved me more than anything. He tried just about anything to have me talked to him.Not long enough, we became a boyfriend and girlfriend. we were so in love and always hung out. Then when another girl got involve then it made us fall a part, but I never gave up on him... I always gave him chances to change thing around. But seem like he didn't pay much attention on me anymore... so we fought almost everyday over the same thing over and over again. Until, that girl moved away and then it came to my best friend that I knew at 9 grade. I didn't know they bother were so close to each other... until they both have a secret love behind my back. When I found out, I let him go. I felt so bad and I never want to have boyfriend again... I felt hurt, and not even that my best friend who was someone that I always share thing with. It was just a hammer hit me on the chest. when I got to 10 grade my ex was still in the same class as mine. I still talked to him as normal friend, but he didn't want to talk to me at all... even he was the one wrong in the relationship. He told all his friend not to talk to me or made friend with me... he said I am a BAD person. I still talked as friend to anyone... and I didn't care who like me or not. For myself, I never fall in love with someone before, only when the guy like me first. Then it might let me think about it and see if he is the right guy for me or not. well, sometimes i feel like having a relationship is hard.... even right now I have one and it is totally hard for me. If I have a chance to change thing, I rather stay at friendship better than real relationship. I dont know why I think like that but may be a lot of problem taught me a hard way or something

..hi.. I find this topic interesting.. I had once a best friend who became my lover.. however, we didn't end up too good.. we actually end up for just a week because we just found out that we have many conflicts in interest and many more.. But I also had a boyfriend whom I didn't spend so much time for our friendship.. but our relationship last long.. we were just forced to end our relationship because of some factors.. this is why it came to my mind that there are really best friends or friends who not meant to be lovers.. sometimes, the one whom you have known for a little time is actually the one for you.. but after all my experiences and break up, i ended up being friends with my past boyfriends.. we smile when we see each other.. we send messages sometimes.. With your post, I was reminded of my past and I smile.. With your question if finding someone to love isn't important, I would say that sometimes, you need not to find because the one destined for you just comes in due time.. maybe not now, not tomorrow.. maybe the following days.. I believe in the saying that, if you love someone, set him free, then if he comes back, he's yours forever.. for me, loving someone doesn't need to be reciprocated in the same way as you feel.. if you love someone, you're happy if the one you love is happy.. when loving, don't expect something in return.. I believe that the right person for you will come at the right time, in the right place.. It's very nice spending your time and meaningful moment to someone you love..:)

Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is a great feeling especially when your relationships are not just purely lovers but are good friends also. It is the greatest feeling of all when you know someone take care and love you. But sometimes some relationships gone wrong and end up suffering so later on you will realize that it is much better to be single again than having someone at your side who hurts you most of the time. I belive that the right girl will come to you soon just be patient in waiting because it will all be worth it.

In life it is very important to have relationships, especially close relationships. In my life God is very important to me and my best friend. He is there when no one else is there. It is important to be friends first before you get into any type of relationship. Take time out to really get the know the person first and then decide if this is what you want to deal with for a long time. Most relationships are designed to last forever, but do not end up that way. It is also important no to share too much with anyone, but God, because people can fail you. They can hurt you with words and actions, if you allow them to have that affect on you. I seperate friendship from the person I am trying to be in a relationship with. This person is my friend in the begining until we both agree that it is time to move foward. I do not have feelings for my friends. Most of my friends catch feelings for me, eventually. I would not try to date my friend I knew for years, because if it do not work out the friendship will never be the same. We all know that. A bad relationship with a friend, ends everything. Normally you just end up seperating when things do not work out in the relationship, mainly because if you were intimate with that person the feelings are still there, jealously is present, and you could end up hurting the next person you meet, by cheating on them with your ex (which is your friend). That is not fair to the next girl at all. There is a whole lot to take into considerations.

girlfriend should be develop from a very good and close friendship. first thing you have to know your friend well before going deeper in the relationship. its at this stage(friendship stage) where you will notice some of their character. Yes i know they will surely hide some of their bad character. but first you are a good friend than you will be able to see their true character. the you start to see whether she can tolerate you and you tolerate her. after this is solve then going for a deeper relationship would not have so many problem (there will still be problems but less). this is my view. the ultimate goal of dating is to get married. so if that is not the goal of BOTH parties then i think it is a waste of time,energy and your youth.