Is being simple a disadvantage?
By mistlady
@mistlady (114)
India
December 9, 2009 8:41am CST
Sometimes I think that being simple is a disadvantage. I am the kind of person who cannot put on a mask or be shrewd due to which people think that I am too naive. I hate to be treated as if I'm a fool. For example, Yesterday, I was talking to a relative of mine, and casually mentioned to him that I had been to 'Barista' on my own and had a coffee and a sandwich. He took it upon himself to advise me and replied that I should have gone with a friend or my mother. Now, I am certainly not so young that I cannot go on my own and this person is senior to me. Throughout the conversation he made it a point to advise me on one thing or other. I was polite enough not to point it out to him although I made up my mind to avoid talking to him in future.My simplicity had cost me my time and peace of mind for I kept the phone down feeling dumb although I know that I'm not!!Has it ever happened with you that someone has made you feel that being simple is a disadvantage?
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7 responses
@letssstalk (285)
• India
10 Dec 09
Yeah some time this happen for being simple other may underestiamte Us.
MY Fiance is very simple boy, think simple and live simple like to wear simple outfits,he talk less case of shyness but most people thought he is full of attitude and hates him lot ,
he dont care about any one of them Beacuse he know very well his close friends love him lot n the way what he is and understood him completly . Same i love him so much.
so its not important what other think about you , importnat is that who are very close to you understant your simplycity or not.
take care
@mistlady (114)
• India
10 Dec 09
Your fiance is very lucky to have close friends like you and people near to him who understand him and care for him. However not everyone is lucky enough to have their own people to love and understand them. In such situations and even otherwise I think it is very important that we understand ourselves and not let others around us get the better of us!!
@Angelindisguise (378)
• India
10 Dec 09
Good Morning!!
Yes it does has many disadvantage.
People can easily ride roughshod over you and
Take You for granted.
So it is wise,even we may having certain vulnerability ,
We should play safe and be a little skeptical .
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
10 Dec 09
is it really you being simple or just that they assume you are? The things you mentioned of your relative reminds me of my dad always advising and telling me things that I already know as if I was only born yesterday. Maybe they think they know it all and we know nothing because they are older.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
9 Dec 09
Welcome to my world! I have been taken advantage of all my life because I am simple! I try not to act that way but it happens anyway! I come across to other people I am native and gullible! It must be writen all over me and I can't see it! If not I act that way when I think I don't! Anyway it is a curse and I am so sick of it! I can't trust men because of it! So unless a Mr.Perfect comes around I won't be dating or looking for a man to be in my life ever again! It is extremmly frustrating and can be so hurtful! My parents have taken advantage of me,other relatives,friends,so-call friends and boyfriends! I better end this reply before I get more frustrated on just thinking about this!
@mistlady (114)
• India
10 Dec 09
I understand how it is!! It is not a nice feeling to be taken as naive and gullible. Some people consider it their right to coach and tutor the younger ones. But the worse part is when even those younger to you act smart with you as if you are dumb. It is very irritating and gets on one's nerves. It is very difficut for me to watch my words and actions at all times and be thick skinned. I guess the only way out is to be comfortable with onself and know what is good for yourself instead of letting others decide it for you!!
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
the only disadvantages I see are not getting the best service since these people judge you based on your appearance and men will not be gentlemanly enough for you.other than that,simplicity is still the best.yesterday,a friend and I went to a waxing salon,but the security guard told us that it is already closed.as we went on our way to hail a cab,a group of girls went down.some of them are wearing short dresses with make-up,while my friend and I were wearing simple jeans and top.the security guard was kind enough to hail a cab for them,and they left the place before us.ah well,there goes the neighborhood.men will really worship and kiss the ground of girls who are pretty and dresses enough,but I have already accepted that.
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
It does have some disadvantage. Like when you go to the mall or the bank all dressed up, the salespeople and tellers are willing to serve you with a smile, but when you go there looking rather plain and sloppy even though you're having a big transaction, their faces are looking grumpy. I believe that it's not the simple people who are naive, but those shallow-minded ones around. Simplicity may be a choice if you are truly comfortable in your own skin.
@mistlady (114)
• India
10 Dec 09
I agree with you that we must be comfortable with ourselves. However simplicity must not be confused with sloppiness because we may not be sloppy and yet have a simple personality that is apparent from our manner and behaviour. For example we could be very trusting in the other person's goodwill for us or we could be outspoken with the wrong people who tend to catch us in words inspite of us being polite.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
25 Dec 09
Hi Mist
You are very very correct. of course I too experienced similar situations not once but several times. You see i am 54 now but still people think that I am a simpleton and out dated and takes the advantage of how to tuck up my sari and comb my hair. Is it not sounds ridiculous? Even my children advice me how to smile while conversing with the friends and how to talk to the guests. of course they belong to this generation and want me to behave according to the current generation but still it feels childish
