Feeling alone but I have a mate...
By quisha
@quisha89 (76)
United States
December 9, 2009 12:34pm CST
I have a boyfriend and we live together, we also just had a baby boy together but sometimes I feel alone. It just seems that he doesn't want to spend time with me anymore. Sometimes I feel bad because I think he could be cheating but at the same time, I know he's not like that. Sometimes I feel that he just doesn't want to be with me anymore but he just doesn't want to tell me especially since we've just had a child together. Has anyone else ever felt this way?...alone and empty? What did you do about it?
4 responses
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
9 Dec 09
hi,
You just have a baby right? congratulation!!! well, it is normal for a new mom. how old is your baby? mostly if you have a kid like, is just have someone to love and care... and your boyfriend does the same thing. so, love between you and him are still the same but you just feel something else that is not right for you. You will get use to it someday. So, just relax and be there for your baby... you will how much love you have on him
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
10 Dec 09
hi, thanks for the best respond. I have two children and sometimes I feel like my husband doesn't like me anymore but actually we are too busy loving the kids ... when they get older ... they are so cute and very wonderful people that you can't imagine. dont worry... just keep the same love with him and always try to be sweet with each other cuz he is also busy with work and you are busy with the baby. Nothing to worry about... hope you feel better soon
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
20 May 10
"A new mother can experience wide mood swings between feelings of elation over her baby to feelings of depression and worry, according to nurse Cathy Kohm of the Post-partum Programme in Toronto, Canada. Emotionally, the first six weeks after birth are the most difficult for the new mother. Flexibility and a sense of humor, along with understanding and support from others, will help her to cope. “One of the biggest problems I see,” says Kohm, “is women being so intense about doing everything perfectly.” According to the Toronto Star, her suggestions include: “In the first few weeks a woman should let her housework slide, taking time to nest in bed with the baby. She should eat well, take the phone off the hook while she naps with the baby and try to take things as they come.”" *** g82 12/8 pp. 30-31 Watching the World ***
Hopefully this will help.
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
9 Dec 09
This is the reason that most women want to get married before they have children. It tends to tie the man down to his fatherhood responsibilities. No doubt you had your own reasons for not taking this path.
@deespartan (126)
• India
9 Dec 09
yea..
many times..but the case is different though..
i really feel let down and empty by my freinds..
many time people take pride in personal benefit and look down other people..
i was a grave watcher..anyways i believe that people must realise how hard it is to face such a thing by themselevs..
hey..why dont you give him a dose of his own medicine
