Should I add my mom and dad and my uncles as friends on Facebook?
By aperez
@aperez (13)
United States
December 10, 2009 2:49pm CST
My mom and dad, and some of my uncles have gotten the Facebook itch. they want me to add them as friends. I dont think its a bad idea, but then again, i get tagged on some pictures im not so sure i want my family to see. or what if they start snooping around to see who im talking to and stuff? weird? in this world of technology, can we no longer hide anything from our parents?
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Yes, I added my family members on my Facebook page.
@slaveofsensation (348)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I have my parents on there but my Grandma keeps trying to add me and I just keep ignoring them. I am torn becase she did so much for us as kids but she would really not like some of my status updates. So no I cant add her she would be heart broken
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@bbk_shrestha (78)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Well it is not a bad idea to add your relatives on facebook but if u have got some weired and private stuffs and all that due to which your relatives may oppose you it is better not to add them. However, you make a second alternative id and use both of them simultaneously side by side/.
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@snafushe (791)
• Canada
11 Dec 09
My personal advice, don't do it!!! Especially if you get tagged in lots of partying/lewd pictures.. you do not want your relatives seeing that side of you. I stupidly added my Aunt awhile ago and I got tagged in these terrible drunken Halloween pictures, where I was dressed in a really trashy costume, and so drunk I couldn't stand up. She then proceeded to tell all of my family and show the photos at a family reunion.. bad bad idea! Take my word for it.
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@fatih02 (39)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 09
i don`t think so, because your parent will know everything yo do on facebook, if you done good something on facebook, no proble, but if it reverse. Maybe there is your friend swear to you or etc, it is going to worse if your parent know. I think not.
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@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
18 Jan 10
I would suggest having 2 face-book accounts. One for family, games and tame friends, and the other for things that you want to keep private.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
For me, my friend I though that is weird that is why my sister and my brother I did not add them on my facebook. I feel no privacy if I add them because they can monitor all my activities in there...That's me I don't know about the others
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Dec 09
hi aperez,
i think it's okay that you include your parents and cousins to be in your facebook friends list. when you decide to invite and include them that means you are exposing somethings that before you don't want them to know. so be prepared for any reactions from them. yes this technology makes it different for people to hide something--it will be at risk of being exposed!
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Well, it depends on how far can you reveal yourself to them. Me, my friends in my facebook are all my relatives, i removed members who are outside the family even friends because i trust my relatives more than some of my friends and the friends of my relatives. Meaning i don't accept invitations from the friends of my relatives and i maintain only a small number of friends all of them are relatives.
@olisaur (1922)
• United States
10 Dec 09
If you do accept their adds, you are going to have to be really careful about everything on your profile- not only your wall posts, but also all the posts/comments your friends put up on there- your family will be able to see everything.
If you choose not to add them, you can always tell them you like to keep your facebook for friends only.
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@speedlover1994 (217)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I would never friend my family on facebook. There's just too many weird things that they could see that I really don't want them to see. Also, they would almost definitely do something embarrassing sooner rather than later lol. Cheers!
@winterman (1)
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11 Dec 09
That is always a risk you take on showing them things you shouldn't and them doing something embarassing - hehe..
I have two profiles on FB one for general life where anything goes and another which is work and family friendly.
Personally I find FB to be great for bringing the family together. Ours is spread not only across the UK but America and Australia and since my parents, uncles, cousins and so on have joined FB I don't think we have ever been closer!
@emilioehs (55)
• Ecuador
10 Dec 09
well, it depends in what situations you think they will put you through, my mom and dad also have facebook accounts but they dont use them too much so i have nothing to worry about :)
@AmberRain (59)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I have added family as friends. I am not concerned about my family seeing anyting. But I have many inlaws as friends and when I need to rant and rave about how much I hate my husband, I can't. It can be very stressful.
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@topflame (43)
• Sri Lanka
11 Dec 09
if u have not added them yet dont, trust me 'dont'. Bolck them and then say u quit Fbook. i let my aunt into my friend list, now i am not free at all. i cant openly carry out a relationship becuz i dont want her to know, she see's pics i dont want her to see. U think thats just one aunt, well she will tell my mother what she sees and KAPEISH. so my openion is that it is a bad idea.
@nrn2003 (661)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I think you should add them. You shouldn't hide who you are from your family. If you are ashamed of the pictures that you are in, then you probably shouldn't be doing those things anyway. Your family knows more about you then you probably think. You shouldn't hide your life from the most important people in your life.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Hi aperez,Well,it depends on you if you will add them as your friend in facebook.Any way,it's not bad.For me my husband, and 4 kids have their facebook accounnt,and they were also my friends and we were open minded about using face book.It is just always have limitations.Thanks,Have a nice day!
@thebest1988 (603)
• China
11 Dec 09
of course ,my friend, I think this is really a good idea, I also invite my mom to join the earn sites, this can enhance the exchange of feelings between us,so my mom can know the thing what I am doing ,and she would support me. good luck.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi Aperez,Welcome to mylot.if you have nothing to hide from them then there is nothing wrong in adding them as your friends but if they want keep a tab on what you are doing with your freinds then it wouldnt be a good idea to add them.gud day.
