Husband leaving for #2

You know, I just have it like it is, and say that your friend is an a sshole,,,,anyone that cheats on their wife, regardless of the fact that they haven't had children, is a selfish jerk, anyone that cheats is a selfish jerk. He needs to tell his wife, admit that he is a jerk, and I hope that she gets most of his money, because your friend is a low life scum. And more than likely, he will do this to the new woman in due time after he has lost interest in her, tell him he is a piece of crap and that his wife is much better off without him.

Well men are like that but theres nothing we can do about it eventually karma will return not always as fast as we want it too but it will. I know the feeling though but I as not married and well gave birth to his child but yeah I know he was cheating and in the end he left me... Its never your fault its the man who has the problem and broke the vow to god but not to many believe in god anyhow anymore.

That is a really hard one. He is just going to have to come out and tell her. There is no easy way to tell someone something like this. He needs to be as gentle as possible and he needs to be sure not to make this her fault in any way when he tells her. Does she have any clue he has been cheating on her all this time? He was the one who did wrong by his wife and has been cheating on her for a long time. He needs to just man up and do right by her and tell her the truth.

I would advise him to first think twice and decide if indeed he truly wants to leave his wife and for what reason. is it because they cant have children? If so, is having children the only reason for staying together? Isn't love the one most binding tie and if he loves his wife would he still decide to leave her just to go to another woman who can give him children? They could always adopt a child. But if indeed he no longer loves his wife then the kindest thing he can do is to be very honest and frank with her and tell her the truth instead of making a fool of her by his betrayal. Then she can move on and maybe find someone who will not be as selfish as he is. He has betrayed her and had been doing so for a long time. He owes it to her to be honest and tell her what he intends to do if he is not a coward.

yeah he's a jerk.. i know its hard but he's just a jerk. i would tell her to move on from him. knowing its hard and sad. but its his lost not her's keeping his vow he must have forgotten, even though the whole thing about not having kids. but you still work it out and work through

..hi.. the situation for me seems real hard.. because I for one is not favorable with the husband leaving his wife just because they have no child.. there are so many remedies for that.. if the husband wants a child, then he should talk to his wife heart to heart and make a compromise that he will bore a child to another woman and when the child comes out, they will adopt the child to be their legitimate child.. Of course I would understand that at first, the wife may become hesitant to make a compromise but I believe the wife will realize later and accept the suggestion.. I have witnessed couples who stayed with their husbands and wives despite the fact that they did not have a child.. For me, this is a shallow reason to get married.. As if they just get married to have a child and not because they were in love.. In the first place, they have made their vows when they got married that in sickness and in pain, in whatever situation they will face, they will stay together as long as they live.. but if the husband insist on leaving his wife, then I would say that he should be fair with his wife and tell her the real situation..

It is pretty straight forward. You tell him his obligation is to his wife on matter what other messes he has created. He is in up to his neck now, and either way he goes a woman is going to get her heart crushed. What a mess!

It is quite painful to the wife. It seems the man loves his wife of seven years. At the same time you have to look at life in his angle, he wants a child. The wife of seven years is not able to bear him one. You cannot mistake him, if he leaves her for the second one on this reason. Yes, I know this parting will be very painful, of course any parting is painful, but atleast one will be happy in this parting. Let us think of life like that.

this is a difficult issue to solve. To begin with, I am disappointed that he cheated on her for two years...I understand that his current wife may have problems on fertility but I think he should have been honest with her. There's not alot of method to deal with this but to tell his wife the truth. I think that no matter how he will explain, it will hurt her. A wedding is not for the weak. This shows how the husband isn't strong. I though that when you get married, it's a promise you make that both will have to support and help each other no matter what. When you are single, you can have as many relationship you want. But when you are married, it has to stop. I think they should divorce. I hope the wife which is friend will find someone else who can take care of her and not abandon someone who needs supports the most.

Hi, I guess the answers have come to you.You say that guy was happily married for seven years and just because he was not been blessed with a baby he left his wife.What would happen if his girlfriend also has the same situation and ....so is he going to leave her also? Regards Seetha

hello drake, NO offense, but i think this is one reason why MEN are hated and imited by women when it comes to cheating simply because of this reason. for a man who is obsessed with a child, he starts loving his wife less. why can he just get a surrogate mom to do the work, and not to the point of having a number two. i don't agree to this no matter how he tries to rationalize it. soon, he will regret it someday. Oh, yeah, He's a Selfish Jerk alright

I honestly feel for the wife, firstly because I am a woman. Being in the same country as you are where divorce is not allowed, he should think it over a hundred or a million times. I think he needs to see a marriage counselor and an expert in order to get professional advice. If he comes to me and asks my advice, I will say: amend your ways, confess to wife but never leave her; honor your promise to God and the legal laws and do remorse and not do it again. End of advice.

well, try to tell him to work out his married life. beside 7 years is quite a long way already.

oh well nice question, and the funny thing is that your friend is making a mistake and you are finding the reason for him. well its totally not fair with his wife, he can't leave his wife this way,its a selfishness. a person fall in love with the girl and make her pregnant and now he is finding the reasons.well the advice from me is if he has courage to cheat his wife then he must have courage to tell his wife. afraid of what now? he done already many things so then its not a big thing to tell. you know making is mistake is always Easy....

This is not right..... Trust and loyalty is the meaning of a marriage.... if there is no child then it doesnt mean u can fall in love with another woman... you should support her morally only at such times... thats important.... be it friendship or be it ur life partner you sholuld give a lot of love to receive the same ...

Well I see this topic was started over a month ago however to cheat is really wrong. But I know we all want to be fruitful and muitlply and see this man maybe feels he can do this with the other women and not his wife. I know that is sad but that sounds like how the story is going.

actually, the responses you would get would depend on the culture of the one answering. i'm asian so you're bound to hear something that somehow affirms the marriage as something to be saved no matter what. so, i'd say, if a loser wants to leave a person he so chose to swear infront of his loved ones to love with all his heart then it is might as well expected that he doesn't have enough balls, vocabulary and wits to tell his wife that he made a fool of himself when he spent time and put on that face when asking for her hand in marriage. peace .

I have a real problem with such scummy awful people. You tell this unfaithful, worthless worm, that a real man keeps his commitments. He said he was going to be with this one person, his wife that pledge her life to him, for the rest of his life. For him to do this means he has no honor, no integrity, no will, no value, and is a pathetic slob of a human. If he can't be faithful, can't be a decent human being, can not keep his word to do as he said he'd do, then he should at least go and tell his wife that he's a worthless scum bag, himself. What a worm, that after throwing his morals in the trash, and being an unfaithful dirty pig, he now can't even face his own wife to tell her what he's already done to screw up their marriage?! Pathetic wimp. You should have nothing to do with this man. Nothing at all. I would not let him in my house, around my friends, at my parties, or anything. He's rotten to the core, and you should avoid getting any of his filth on your clothing. Next time he asks advice, tell him to go clean up his own mess.

I would like to ask the male friend of your if he knew that she is not capale of givign birth to a child y he waitied for 7 years and now think of leaving her? You can 7 years is a life time. I bet he would say as he was in love with her. So where and y all this love has vanished from their life and new love creep in unannounced? Its really bad for the relationship

well, as a true friend, i'll advice him to tell the truth. if he really dont want to work out the marriage tell straight to his wife. rather than hiding this sin in his whole life. or ask him, maybe he just carried away because of not having baby to his wife.