How Do You Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You

How do we forgive someone who has hurt us so much like you describe? First of all I would have to say it's not going to be easy to do and it will take some time. But it can be done. It will be easier if we have strong faith in God, knowing how much he puts up with. And still the Bible calls Him: 1 Timothy 1:11 (New International Reader's Version) 11 True teaching agrees with the glorious good news of the blessed God. He trusted me with that good news. Another word for "blessed" is happy. So God is happy in spite of all the evil he has to put up with. Is there any silver lining in what you have experienced that you can latch to? Think hard! Are there any benefits or potential benefits that might come your way in the future because of what you went through? Can you use your endurance in this horrible experience to help some one else or be more compassionate with others that have faced a similar experience? Can you make even a little bit of lemonade out of this huge lemon that life has given you? I went through two divorces where I was the victim of spousal infidelity. That was some years ago. I have forgiven them both and still talk to both on occasion. Believe it or not, these negative experiences have somehow made me make decisions so that my life today is a happy one. And I have a good conscience. I can sleep at night and enjoy my sleep. And I know the best is yet to come! So don't play and replay that movie (your sad experiences). Begin to write a new and happy movie. Forgiving those that have hurt you so much can make the new movie even better and happier. I wish you success with rebuilding your life!

well, for me. although you hate everything to the person that hurted you so much you cant force yourself not to forgive him/her. well, that was based on my experience. i have a friend a close friend of mine, i hate him so much time. and it comes to the point that we quarreled. well, in that time i know it was his fault and he hurted me too much. but, he approached me that time and say sorry. i ignore him sorry and keep myself busy with something. well, at first i don't like to forgive him anymore, because i think he will just hurt me forever. but what can i do, i think i can't live life for the rest of my life without him. but, as time passed by, i already forgive him, and we still communicate now a days. well, we communicate but not as close as what we are in the past. well, i regret of ignoring him at first.

This is a hard situation to contemplate unless you have experienced it for yourself. Fortunately I have not had the misfortune of being seriously hurt by someone so this will be purely guesswork on my part! I guess forgiveness is important but I ask the question, how many times can you forgive someone that continues to hurt you over and over? I think this is a very difficult thing to achieve. I think it's important to try and have a lengthy conversation with the person that has caused the hurt and hopefully make them understand that their behaviour is unacceptable. I think that everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt initially until they prove themselves otherwise. I'm a decent forgiving kind of chap though but you can only take so much I guess! Andrew

Forgiving someone who has hurt you is a really difficult thing to do but you have to do it if you want to move on. What I do is take time out, I refuse to see or have anything to do with the person until my anger subsides. I try to get over what happens, see if it is my fault or if I made any mistakes because in most cases, both parties are held responsible. Lastly, I define my relatinship with that person in order to prevent it from happening again.

I have a very hard time forgiving people, I am really stubborn and really strong willed and when I don't think some ones right I'm not going to forgive them no matter how sorry they are. That's why the guys I date don't cheat on me, or else it's bye bye. It can be a burden sometimes to hold such big grudges for so long, but a lot of the time it shows people I am not a door mat and I don't put up with people mistreating me. Once you have blown it with me, you've blown it. What's done is done, the bullet has already been shot, the damage has already been done, as my Papa always says.

hola anyket lets admit to our selves its easy to forget someone who hurt us alot.. ita leaves a pain in our heart.. but sooner or later we must learn how to forgive.

Hi any! It is not easy to forget someone, who has hurt you. You see while travling the journey of our life, we tend to come across many people and all have different conduct. It depends upon us how much we can accomodate others. If it is possible to separate from the person, who is troubling us, then we should go for separation and if it is not feasible to severe the relationship, then we will have make ourselves understand that all cannot be like us. Also, we should convey our displeasure to the person, who hurts us.

Really i dont like people who are negative,hypocritical,phony,lazy,selfish,ill tempered behaviour.i will get so much angry on them, so i will say to them on face to face. i dont like to keep it my mind and giving a smile to them i dont like it that all.

Well, I mean I don't forgive them instantly, but sometimes it just takes time to forgive someone. I certainly forgive them in a week or so but some issues can't be handle straight away, if you know what I mean.

maybe time is the best way to solve anything. sometime it's also the only way.

Hi Forgiving someone who has hurt you badly is difficult, almost everyone could not accomplish it. It needs time. So I advise you to leave it alone and separate from the person hurting you sometime. Maybe after that you will find that you can forgive him!

From my experience, I can suggest three things, knowing fully well that it is probably toughest task in the world. One, train yourself to lower your expectations from others -- ideally expect nothing, either good or bad from others. Two, understand that no one is perfect -- some may less perfect than others. So, they can only be who they actually are and not you would like them to be. Three, being able to forgive is a great virtue worth trying to develop. You can only develop it through your faculty of tolerance; there is no other way. Do not berate yourself, if you have to tolerate others. Try focusing only on the good quality of others -- it helps

Me i dont know..Its really hard to explain how to forgive person. BUt for me i just forgot the ill- feeling i had in that person.. Ignore and make all things normal.. I hate problems and i make my life so easy.. Anger is not good. They can help us to get things better