a thin line

My son likes to test his limits with me, especially after he comes home from grandmas where they literally let him do anything. I will tell him and warn him about the rules and that he should know better, he may or may not keep up the "wrongs" and I will sit him down for time out, that don't work I will spank him. When he really gets me going for I will be afraid of really losing my temper I will tell him to go to the other room and let me cool down. After I cool down and after awhile he will try to sneak out and I will ask him why I told him to go to the room (usually his bedroom) and he will know the exact reason. While he is in the room, I will sit, relax, sometimes pray and do some stressbusters, relaxation/calming techniques.

When I could not control my anger,I spanked and shouted but the words that came out of my mouth were those that would make my child know the reasons why I became angry. Afterwards, I would be silent. That would give my child opportunity and time to think over what he had just heard. Things later would be back to normal, like I would talk to him, call him to eat as if nothing happened. The kind of discipline that I practised on my children is not abusive. I did not hurt them terribly. I only spanked them. The ultimate goal of my discipline is for my children to learn well and be good. Today, my children are grown ups and thanks to God, they have good characters.

Hello! I myself never spank to my kids its more on communication. When my kids commit sin i always told them that you made wrong what punishment you want me to do. I always have in mind that they are kids and subject to commit sins. Even us parent can do commit mistakes. And our kids is a gift from God and i believe that we parent are their guidance. I always told my kids that they should be good. But by Gods grace i have good kids, even their teacher told me that i have a good kids they really behave well in school. So, in that comment i really say that my constant communication to them is really effective.

I´m old and I firmly believe that part of being a good parent is to teach children how to behave. I think that this last generation of parents is overprotective to say the least. They teach their children all about their rights but don´t bother to teach them about their duties. And even an infant has certain duties. That´s the only way they will be prepared to live in a complex world later on. I don´t mind giving my grandchildren a small slap on their butts if they don´t behave. And they have a wonderful relation with me and I´m even their confident for some issues. Maybe if parents take care of teaching before the children do things that make your blood boil it would be better. When I was young and my kids were little I confess that I raised my voice quite a lot. As for hurting, a smack on the butt doesn´t hurt anyone. Stay away from head and make sure you are teaching and not giving way to your own bad impulses. And last, but not least: all this is easier said than done.Take care!