...if you discover that your spouse is your kin

I would make sure that my husband was really my halfbrother or relation before ending the marriage. I would talk with my husband and see what he feels about the situation, if it will feel uncomfortable then the best scenario would be to leave. If the children were old enough, definitely let them know the situation. Then I would put this as a scenario for a soap opera or book. Seriously, I would do all the things listed above to make sure he was relation, talk to my husband, and let the children know.

This is so difficult to answer...the chances of separating is high but the biggest problem is how to break the news to the children. I really have no clue on how to handle this kind of situation, may be some can answer this better... (T_T)

hi genmaris if that had happened to me and we were happily married and had kids and living a normal life,I might be shocked but on the other hand as long as the children were physically and mentally health,it would remain our secret forever.we would already be married and happy so why split up at that late date, and furthermore it need not be anyones business but our own. Of course I and my hubby were not in that'situation at all, but my gr grandparents were second cousins and so what,they were intelligent, their children were fine so it was again nobody's business but theirs. So my answer would be to continue as started. also if he or she was a half that would surely dilute any adverse effects too, so no I would go on and not tell anyone. the secret would die with us, however my hubby was not even close to being related in any way to me.

Hi Gemmaris. Wow! I don't know what I'll do if this happens to me. It sounds just awful and I can not imagine what would I do at this moment. Maybe I'll be depressed and confused. I really don't know and I have no idea what will be my reaction. But I think that there is nothing to do, when the fact is fact and we already have children and we are a family What can we do? To divorce? Tell the children that we are brother and sister? And what that can change? Nothing.... I hope that never happens to me and anyone. In general I think he presumption of this happening is very, very small.

I will just continue what we have started because it is the least problematic thing to do. It will not harm anybody. The family is already there and happy.

EWWWWWW! Of course I would break up with them. That's disgusting, and I think you would be able to tell because your kids would turn out really messed up, as inbreds usually are. I don't even want to think about the scenario it sends a shiver right up my spine. Yuck! Plus I wouldn't have kids and marry the person until I knew everything about them including their relatives, blood line, background, mothers maiden name, etc. I would so not chance having messed up kids.

Oh wow, that's really tough. You don't think that something like this can happen in real life but I remember my mom telling me that she knew someone who ended up marrying her brother without knowing it at the time. They were separated when they were really small and ended up meeting years later and falling in love. Before they could marry though, they found out that they were blood siblings. Because of that they broke off their relationship and avoided each other. I don't think they ever talked to each other again after that. It's not exactly the scenario you're talking about but it's similar enough. Just reading about it makes me awkward. I don't know what I'd do if it happened in real life. I'd probably run tests and things to be absolutely sure first. And if so, staying together would be uncomfortable since we were taught that siblings shouldn't have that kind of relationship. I honestly would not know how to break it to my children. Something like this can really tear a family apart after all.

man this would suck. well if we were half nothing wrong with that, but brother and sister hum i think if things were going good i would have to stay together because we didnt really know. and i wouldnt tell my kids at all. i know its wrong for stiplies to be married but by this time it kind of late. but good question

That is a really good question, but I think that it would be too difficult for me to answer that. I would not want to tell my children, but maybe it would depend on their ages, but I also think that it wouldn't be a good idea to tell the children, because you never know how they would react to some news such as that. In cases of telling my friends, it would depend on how good of a friend that person is and then I would maybe consider taking some type of advice and see what they think I should do. In a way, I feel, that since you already have a family together and you didn't know from the start that you were kin, then I think I would still stay in the relationship. I not too sure though on that I would need some advice definitely.

I don't think that it would make a difference to me. My husband and I have already had our children and there aren't going to be anymore, so in that sense the damage would have already been done. The thing is, this seems like something that wouldn't really happen, but I really think that it could. You see, my husband only knows half of his family so I could see where there could be even the slightest possibility of this if my family was not from a totally different part of the country from his family.

Nhaaa, its difficult, I dont even know how to handle it, but in the first place you both agree regarding your marriage because no body knows that he/she was your relatives, all I can say is both of you can continue your relationship as husband and wife, its not the intention of both parties because both of you know nothing that's why they go on marriage, God's law is not to separate those who have ties in marriage, if you break that commandment that means you disregard the rule of the true God,only to separate him/her is if one or both committed adultery/concubinage and the most is you cant get married again if your husband/wife are still living. It must better to seek and ask the Lord about that, try to confess in Him, not to anyone because God is the only one who knows the answers, say all your problems by means of prayers. Talk to God, Im very much sure that He answers. Now, how about the kids? I think it must better to tell them when they're in the right age, because as of now they dont ever understand what you are saying.. Hope these can help, have good day.

For me I just separate because it is not the correct way of life and the kid's is the owing they supper the imperfection.

This is weird, I have no answer what so ever. Do you? It is the hardest question in the world I think.

Hi,gemmaris,It is more like a movie ah that you imagined.I would been continued if I am.So it is the most important in our life with happy and quite.