Duggar Baby #19 born prematurely @ 25 weeks
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
December 11, 2009 12:08pm CST
I'm glad they are both ok as every baby is a blessing.
However, does anyone else out there wonder if they need to call it quits and be thankful for all that they have? Really I know it was a gallbladder attack that started it & she's fortunate that it only hit as child #19 was in utero. I've had that but w/ my first child. And now that she's had a c/sect (I don't know if she's had any previously) she's limiting how many more she can have. As I believe most Dr's won't deliver more than 3 via c-section & v-bac's are often failed.
http://www.abcnews.go.com/Health/Television/michelle-duggar-birth-19th-child-emergency-section/story?id=9311401
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@charblaize (1026)
• United States
11 Dec 09
If this is her first c-section then she will only have 2 more to go. I just don't understand why they would want so many children, how can the all manage, give the same attention to the others and just the financial responsibility is outlandious. You would also think that the doctors would be afraid of the uterus getting stretched too much and if able to carry all this time.
Just with all these other children running around, sporting activities, meetings, work, etc how would they even time or energy to get this way to begin with.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Actually, many doctors no longer subscribe to the "once a c-section, always a c-section" mentality unless there is a physical reason why the mother cannot have a normal delivery. A friend of mine's daughter had an emergency c-section with her first because the cord was wrapped around the baby's neck but she delivered normally with her second child.
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@charblaize (1026)
• United States
11 Dec 09
In my area, that is how all the physicians work, but I can see others doing that also.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
11 Dec 09
It depends on how the person was cut during the c-section and how much scar tissue the persons body had built up. I've heard more than 50-75% end up w/ a repeat c-sect of people that I have known.
Charblaize - If you know about that family even just a lil you know that she's basically been pregnant almost every year of her married/adult life. I don't think I could do that. They also just became grandparents this year!
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
11 Dec 09
The Duggar family is very well known, mostly due to the television exposure they receive on The Learning Channel, and calling it quits is not an option for them because of their religious beliefs. They are thankful for all of the children that God has given to them and, because they believe that any form of birth control is in violation of God's law, they will have as many children as He gives to them. From the limited viewing of the show and the limited reading that I've done about this family, it's my belief that their children are well adjusted, happy and secure. This family supports themselves, they are very organized with the older kids helping with the younger ones and everyone pitching in when it comes to household chores. Some of the older ones are adults now...a son just became a father himself. I personally wouldn't have that many children but, just because most people wouldn't, that doesn't automatically mean that there's anything wrong with those who choose to have large families...even very large families.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I under stand their beliefs but even if they don't belive in birth control they can just be abstinant. Shoot I only have 3 kids and I don't have the time to even fantom wanting another. But you are right to each their own.....
I would just worry bout mom's health in time after so many babies.
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@charblaize (1026)
• United States
11 Dec 09
My older generation is Catholic and they like big families but they haven't due to financial reasonings. If it works for them, then that is their business, but I personally wouldn't have that many and with the wear and tear on the physical body.
My mother in law came from a huge family her mother had 9 children then her husband went to war, when he came back they had another 9.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I do agree about the health issues. I would imagine that the strain of pregnancy would become more difficult as a woman ages.
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@surfette (673)
• United States
12 Dec 09
The Duggar's seem to be a very happy, well-adjusted family. They have no debt because of many real estate holdings, so they are financially secure, even without the television show. They all work together to keep the home running and they are spiritually very strong. That is o.k. for them, but I would not choose to have so many babies.
I do worry for the health of all the younger children. When you are pregnant one after the other, it gives very little time for the mother's body to recuperate in between babies. For now, they do seem healthy and active, but their lives or health may be compromised because of lack of vitamins, passed on through Michelle.
My mother went to school with the oldest of 14 children. I went to school with the youngest set of twins. Several of the younger children passed on long before the older ones. I know we do have more access to vitamins and better food now, but the doctor's usually agree that 2-3 years between babies is the minimum time for a truly healthy baby.
I also have an issue with the fact that they seem to be teaching the belief of turning into baby machines to all their children. I would hope that at least a couple of these children will pursue college and careers instead of just making babies. Even the Amish families allow their 16 year olds to have one year to work and play among the English (people outside the Amish community are called English).
Then they have the choice of continuing in the Amish life or not.
Everyone's beliefs and religion are their own business, I guess. I wouldn't even comment except they have television show which makes their lifestyle open for comment. If it works for them, fine, but it sure wouldn't be my choice in this day and age.
I do hope that the little preemie and Michelle are doing okay.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Dec 09
You are right by being a very public family their lifestyle is up for comment. I did mention that in another post too that babies will take the vitamins they are able to from the mom's bones & teeth ect wich is not good for Mom as she ages.
I believe what I had heard it was atleast 1 yr minimum for your body to recover from a pregnancy fully. My 1st & 2nd are 3yrs appart & 2nd & 3rd are 2yrs appart. I don't think I could handle babies back to back to back to back physically, financially, or emotionally.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Dec 09
I like kids (even better when they are someone elses and I can give them back!) but that is too many kids for me.
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@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
12 Dec 09
Well if instead of the buddy systen an the parents took care of the kids themselves I think they would of stop after aaahhh five she said she is going to have more I know my 4 tenn daughters have days that make me want to pull my hair out so 19 sorry I would jump of a bridge lol just kiddng
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@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
12 Dec 09
an another thing is how can they manage time with each child
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Dec 09
That is true. I don't know how fair it is to the older siblings to constantly care for the younger siblings when mom & dad are busy. They are not the parents but kids themselves and need to have kid experiences not just nanny experiences.
@olisaur (1922)
• United States
11 Dec 09
omfg. I really cannot stand the Duggars. I would've asked them to stop at 3 kids- if they wanted THAT many, they should have adopted. I believe its so much better and so much more self-less to give the exsisting children that have no where to go a home, rather than creating your own when the human population is already over the top. :o
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Dec 09
That is true there are so many kids in foster care that could use a perminant home to call their own. Especially with them being as well off as they are.
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
12 Dec 09
Actually, she's had more than three c-sections. The baby previous to this one was a c-section and I believe her second pregnancy was a c-section too, being twins. There were others between vbacs.
The decision to do a second c-section is based on how the original one was done. If the cut is horizontal, meaning a bikini cut (on the uterus, not the skin) the chances of a vbac are much better. When I was pregnant with my second child they had to get the records to determine whether or not I was a candidate for a vbac.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
12 Dec 09
I really think that they should have stopped at 4 or 6 but I don't know the quality of life they are able to give their children. I can't imagine they get much hugging from their parents or even much interaction on a one to one basis. To me, that's cheating them of the attention they deserve and every child needs. On the other hand, they are probably very close to their siblings.
Really, I think this couple is a bit insane. I wish them the best and hope the family is healthy, happy and well adjusted. But I don't understand wanting that many children--how can you really know a child when you have that many?
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I don't think this her first c-section. I believe Michelle Duggar has had one or two in the past. I hope the doctor tell her and the husband not to have anymore! This is getting crazy! I hope they will stop if told! If not I don't want to see the Duggar's keep trying to have more and put mom and child in danger! I have a feeling this could happen! I hope not!
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Dec 09
I hope so as well. To me it would be wise, afterall they are grandparents themselves now. I'm curious if their son (& his wife) who is now a father will do the same with having kids.