What if your gift is being use by other people?
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
Philippines
December 11, 2009 6:37pm CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters,
Have you ever experience giving gift/s to anybody else(a friend or loved ones)but,that someone did not appreciate your gift?
And the worst thing is,you saw other people using it.
Let's say,you give your friend a bag,and you never saw her use that bag,then one unexpected day,you saw her sister using that bag.Of course you know very well,that,it is the one that you had given to your friend.
How would you feel about it?
How will you take situation like this?
What's your opinion friends and dear mylotters?
Have a nice weekend...Happy Holidays too
10 responses
@830425 (52)
• China
12 Dec 09
It will be so strange when happened.
i would think about it,
Didn't she like my gift?
For her, my gift means nothing?
or she don't care about me?
Every gift I accept from my friend, I hv never resend it to the other people. Even if one of the friend like it , I can buy another same one to her for a gift and she hv to take the same attitude like me towards the gift.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello there,
It's nice to know that you value gifts from friends like how you value the friendship you shared with that person.
And,yes,if other friend like it,we can buy same thing like that and give it to him/her,as long as the item is available or if we can really afford to buy it.(very good thinking)
Thanks for sharing your views on this topic and have a nice weekend friend
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
ah.. all i can say is that.. sometimes it hurts but sometimes it's not.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
hello tess,
It depends whom we are giving the gift,and how the person give away our gifts too.
If the gift we've given is being give away too,and used by the person..then,it would fine.
it is better then,rather than seeing our gifts sitting in a corner untouched or being ignored.
Have a good weekend
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Oh no my bonita that could be so frustrating and so disgusting I think my friend would owe an explanation to me. If that would happen to me towards my friend whom I gave a gift, I think the way I look at him/her would diminish. That friend is not really a good friend..I hope you're not that kind my dear irresistible bonita...
Mobhomeir
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Martin dear,
Yesss,that would be frustrating,it is the thought that counts,no matter how she dislike the color or style.If she can't value the thing that is given by heart,how much can she value any friendship.
Well,this is my opinion also,becoz,i never did like that from all the gifts that i had receive.I also receives gifts that doesn't match my taste,color and style,but i never give it to anyone,even the wrapper and cards attached,i still kept those for my scrapbooking.
Thanks and have a nice week days ahead amigo....regards to your amor
@daliaj (5674)
• India
12 Dec 09
Oh, I don't like it. I will never gave away my gifts to anybody. I value the affection of the person who gives me a gift and keep the gift with me irrespective of the fact that if I like the gift, if I use the gift, or how expensive the gift is. My husband is very particular about the things he use and often he gives away his gifts to poor people. He has a reason for it. He says that it is beeter to give poor people to use that we keep it without using it.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello daliaj,
At least your husband has a good purpose for giving away that gift/s(which i think is reasonable enough to do)
Gifts or things just lying idle from our displays,cabinets and stock room is worth disposing with such charity,i really agree to this.
Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend friend
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Dec 09
it never happened with me but it would be offended if this was the case with my girl friend and i am very particular while selecting gifts and select accordingly to her interests coz i loved her which means i knew all her interests too.coming to friends i gift them some precious ones so they are no chances for them to be passed on to their brothers or sisters even though they wouldnt mine to pass them on i really dont mind.gud day and good discussion Jaiho.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello sunny,
That's good for you that you are giving the best for your loved ones and friends.
And i guess they really won't give those gifts to other person,coz,every piece seems expensive and precious enough to be kept.
Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend friend
@xJaiiDK (163)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
I think that'll hurt me as I expect her/him to use that bag. but as long as I have given that bag, it'll be up to the receiver if she'll use it or not. Everybody has his/her own uniqueness. maybe she/he have another taste on choosing a bag(taking the example by jaiho2009). Maybe it'll still be the Thought that you've remember her/him on that day counts.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello xJaiiDK,
Sure it will hurt us,thu it is up to the receiver what she wants to do with that gift,that she maybe had another taste,but,she also must consider our feelings.
It is always the thoughts that counts,of how we value things like we value friendship.
Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend friend
@madhuvamsi (1185)
• India
12 Dec 09
Some of my closed one refused to take gift and one more person the gift I have given is given away to some one else. After seeing these type of people, I simple stopped giving gifts, I give gifts only to the people who give respect to me and my gifts. One of my cousin once openingly refused to take my Raki gift since then I never offer her a gift after that. She is far from my place now and she sends me Raki by post, I just never tied that Raki because of that insult and next thing is that not only this insult, she even refused to take another gift offered by my family to her. I do not understand why some people are crazy like this woman. This is the only worst experience I faced in the life..
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello madhu,
I could understand your feeling.
Giving gifts to someone means,that,we love,care and they are special to us.
And being rejected is an insult and surely hurt our feelings.(also traumatic)
Maybe people had their own personal reason for rejecting our gifts,but at least,they can explain to us their reason why.(whatever it is...i would surely want to know,to lessen my pain)
Thanks for sharing your experience and have a nice weekend
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
12 Dec 09
Yep! That's why I think gift cards are the best gifts because the person recieving can pick out what they really like and you don't take a chance on them not liking a gift. I don't know how I would handle it though.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello macdingolinger,
That's nice,i also receives gifts like that(gift cheques)
And i think it is also less burden to the giver,less thinking what to buy and less time for purchasing gift either.
Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
hi jaiho,
Oh yeah! haha! I once gave a purse to a friend of mine and I was so surprised that she gave it as a gift to our other friend's birthday. Because she doesn't have anything to give! Funny! It was okay because she asked me if she can give it and there is no other choice for me but to say yes...but still it's weird and it irritates me that time.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
hello danity,
Well at least your friend asks your permission before doing it(really sounds odd).
But,she can at least borrowed some money from you instead of giving away your gift.(which i will preferably choose to do,if i am on her position).
I will be having doubts to give her gift the next time i guess.
Thanks for sharing your experience and have a nice weekend