Do you dread speaking in front of many people?

@hotsummer (13837)
Philippines
December 11, 2009 10:22pm CST
I don't like making a speech or introducing myself in front of many people. i think we call it fear of public speaking. cause i feel that i am not beautiful person and i don't speak and most of all i am not really good in speaking being a quite person that i am that i am not able to tell a good story or make a good humor or give some entertaining speech to the people. one time being in college that we were asked to introduce ourselves in front of the class one by one. and when i did, i was kinda nervous and just said some nonsense cause i really don't know what to say back then.
4 people like this
12 responses
• China
12 Dec 09
Me,too.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
i understand your fear.
• China
12 Dec 09
What do you mean?
@AJGWFW (16)
• China
12 Dec 09
I do understand your swear
@suchi60 (912)
• India
13 Dec 09
I do and that too despite being in marketing and administrative roles at work. It takes a while for me to come to terms with my predicament, but once I get over the phobia, I am pretty relaxed. I think I need more exposure to such situations to get over this situation.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
you must really get rid of this fear as your line of work calls for exposure to more people and public speaking. and i think that you may have get lessened your fear already without you noticing it.
• United States
13 Dec 09
Not really, after what I have been through over the years, I do not dread it at all.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
that is nice. i really listening and watching speakers who are confident and feel relaxed like they give a good vibes and their confidence is pretty infectious like i want to be like them some day.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
13 Dec 09
Hi hotsummer, I'm not sure if anyone ever gets rid of their fear of public speaking completely. I was a teenager when I first spoke in public and have done so on hundreds of occasions since, yet even today I will sometimes feel uncomfortable just before I have to speak.Audiences too make a lot of difference. Blessings.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
oh taking it from you, it seems that having experienced to speak in front of many crowd for a long time does not necessarily take away all your nervousness each time you time, i thought that it will jsut become natural as you get exposed more in front of the public audiences. so it is not always the case. but i guess it definitely helped to give more confidence and ease now than before. i am not really interested to speak in public or in front of large audience and crowd. i just do so when i am left with no choice.
• Belgium
12 Dec 09
I also do not like speaking in front of many people. I kind of get nervous when I am asked to do so. I have given very few presentations in my college. Once I start then it is ok for me. But again I can not take that confidence into next presentation. Again next time I will be very nervous. I would like to change this thing about me but I do not know how this can be done.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
yeah in my schooling days. i feel like a bum and felt so ashamed of myself after speaking in front of the class.
@yyzaxt (10)
• China
12 Dec 09
Hi hotsummer. your name give me a feeling of outgoing.. i have the same experience as you, i was really anxious before i speaking in front of people and too nervous to say sth. but i think this kind of ability can be developed.. u can give yourself some different topic to say everyday. to talk to yourself in the mirror and imagine there's lots of people here.. Good luck!
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
good tip. i think that practicing in front of the mirror and pretending you are in front of big crowd can be a good way to practice and when you are already in big crowd just pretend you are just in front of the mirror. LOL. seriously, i think it will help a lot.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Dec 09
hi hotsummer I Am right with you as I dread speaking on front fo a large group of people. My hands shaKe, my voice trembles, and i really cannot do it at all. I just get so panicked that I cannot even think as all I see are all those people out there staring at me, and I am thinking who am I , I do not have any speaking talent at all.I imagine there are a lot of people like us, poor things and they suffer just like we do. Here I am eighty three and still have a hard time speaking in public.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
though my hands don't shake when i speak in public but my voice trembles a lot and it is really obvious though. it is really humiliating experience each time i am about to speak in front of some people. and sometimes even talking to one person who i am not really familiar with and i have to sell something like i have to do a good speech or intro then my voice shakes too.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
12 Dec 09
hey, that is the same way to me. My sweat will fall every time i have to stand in front of the public, i do not know how to handle this nervous..
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
though i don't sweat if i speak in front of people but still as nervous as you are though.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Yes I'm also afraid to talk in front of the people. I hate also introducing myself in the class when I'm still studying I'm really nervous and I don't know what to say. I'm also hate when we have reporting in class I'm really nervous and sometimes it is hard for me to discuss my topic.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
yeah class reporting is a very terrifying experience for most students. like every one wants to avoid that. specially if the topic is kinda hard and you are not prepared to report and you have not much things to say or contribute with your report. if only it is easy to research our topics. but during my time there was no internet back then.
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
It's a normal feeling to be nervous when speaking in front of people. Even people who is used to talking in front of an audience still gets nervous. I think people get butterflies on their stomach because they are afraid of making mistakes or of what the audience will say about them. But the best way to overcome that fright is to expose yourself to it. The more that you allow yourself to speak in front of an audience the less fear you'll feel next time you are in the same situation. I try to prepare for what I have to say and practice so that I won't be thinking of making mistakes when I speak. If you make a mistake it's ok. Just say to yourself that it's part of learning to be a better speaker. :)
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
yeah i talk to myself also saying that it is just one way for me to get rid of my fear. it is not easy to get rid of this nervousness.
• India
12 Dec 09
HI HOTSummer Just like you till last year i felt faint and nervous to speakout any thing in front of the peoples , for this reason i had lost so many good opportunitis of jobs,but this year i decied to improve my cumminication skills with confidence,meanwhile i got a job in media as reporter and anchor. Now I am more confident and ready to give speech at any topic in front of public.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
yeah i think having good communication skills will make us more confident to do job interviews. i wish that you will improve a lot soon in your communication skills for you to gain more confidence.
@kaylachan (71773)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Dec 09
I'm not a public speaker, I never have been been or ever will be. I chose not to be. I don't honestly care what I look like, but I'm not very good at convaying my thoughts very well at times. Public speaking is just something I've never been good at. I'v been asked to do some public speaking, but I have not. gone through with. I supose I could if it was a topic I'm passinate about. or, I'm provoked. That's not really very happy for me. I can be a real chatter box under those conditions, but yeah.... don't like the cerimstances in which I'd have to do that.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
i think that those who are good in public speaking are introvert people who are not afraid to speak their mind and not afraid to show their real selves in public. and that they are confident with themselves no matter what will be the reaction of other people. i am not like that being an introvert person, i am very much conscious of other people reactions and body movements. like there is always meaning to their actions.