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I feel the same way about my hubbie. I find it frustrating when he doesn't listen to me about things I want to say. I can start talking to him and stop in the middle of a sentence and watch his reaction. He doesn't even react. He use to listen but not any more. Another thing that frustrates me, He wants to get intimate with me, but how can I get intimate with him when he is only thinking about his needs only. I've have said to him in the last 12 hours that he has to be nice to me and pick up after himself around the house. I have just looked and see that there is 2 empty cans and an empty box of biscuts sitting on the coffee table. So much for him listening to me.

One thing I have learned in my ??????? years of marriage is maybe it's you who isn't listening to what your partner is trying to tell you------- quit complaining to that cousin, take time for the partner and listen to him. He just might have something of worth to say to you. Keep that in mind.

Sad to know about your situation, my friend. But you need to talk to your husband about something differences between you and him to settle what is really the route of that complain that you said here... It's not a healthy relationship if you always hide the things in your mind. it maybe cause your strong depression if not being resolve immediately or resulted to your heart problem... If he is not listen just talk your cousin to be a mediator if he has the ability to maintain that relationship between you and him...

You are so lucky to have a cousin who is always there to listen to you. Its also pretty hard to have a partner who is always running away from a problem that supposedly both of you have to resolve. Just outstretch your patience the more not soon but I know your husband will realize & have time to listen to you

Well i think instead of sharing with your cousin make your husband listen to you as he should also know what you are feeling and tell him what you are feeling and tell your complaints to him , i know every husband have so much work to do but neglecting wife's complaints is not at all good , he should listen to what you say and make him to listen or tell him if you will not listen then i will share my problem with my cousin , this will have a impact on him as he will not like that any other person hear your problem which are related to him.All the best and take care :)

I just got out of a relationship, and we had so many problems, and every time I tried to talk to him about ANYTHING he would either yell and talk over me or hang up on me and ignore me for days. So from the beginning I would talk to my friends about it and then eventually I was just always venting to them and basically I could tell they were sick of me complaining about the same things so I just shut up, but now I have nobody to talk to because my ex-boyfriend refuses to talk about anything. :(

I go to my best friend when I need to complain about something. I talk about different things with her about men issues, work issues and whatever is on my plate at the time and she is okay with it because she is my best friend.

It is hard sometimes to tell your partner how you feel because you feel like they won't listen or they will leave you. It's never easy to open up. Even though my boyfriend tells me that I can open up to him, sometimes I still feel like I can't because I am afraid that he won't listen, won't understand, or he will leave me or tell me that he does not want to hear it.

Your Partner sounds like my Ex Husband used to be I know how hard it is when you have someone and they do not listen, they do not want to know I think you need to have a talk with him, but I have to say it did not work with my Ex Husband he was to selfish to change his attitude towards Problems or anything I wanted to talk about evem if it was about the Children I hope your Partner changes that attitude I really do for you

I guess, you need to find the right timing to talk with your husband. It is not healthy in a marriage relationship that the two of you are not talking about personal matters because it will truly affect your relationship. It is not always good that your cousin has to absorb everything because surely she has some problems too that she has to deal. Or perhaps, try to find another person where you can speak out all your complaints. I tell you, there may be instances that it is not the guy alone who has flaws in a relationship. You never know that because of your too much complaining on things, you did not realize that you have a flaw too that is why your husband avoid talking it out. If you wish someone to talk to, give me a private message. It is always nice that you have to blur things out and never keep it.

A lot of men are not very good when it comes to conversations and especially ones about relationships and feelings. Sometimes it seems that the more you push for that kind of deep conversation, the more they close up. If you have a serious problem then the only way to really help it is to talk it over with him. Maybe your cousin seems as if she is getting tired of listening to it but it might be more that she feels helpless to help you. Maybe you could talk about some of your problems on here as an outlet and you may get some great advice as well.

I have learned a long of time ago that men are not the same as women in so many aspects aside from the obvious and listening and empathy are not usually their strongest points! Your problem is not uncommon; I love my husband because he is a very good man but he is not too good at the ‘sharing of feelings’ scenario! It is a positive thing you have someone you can talk to but you have to consider your cousin’s feelings too and the fact that she may have problems to share with you or she may just be tired of just talking about your concerns every time you get together. One of the great things about good friends is that, sure we can share our pain, but we can also be very good therapy for one another by having good times together and chatting about all kinds of things that would get our minds away from our problems. Anyway you have us here; if you wish to rant, share, talk…There are a lot of us here that will be glad to help!

I'm just curious, instead of trying to make your husband listen to you, have you ever tried to listen to him? Ask him how his day went? Listen to the problems he has? Ask him what is on his mind? Have you ever asked him out on a date? Gone to a movie or diner, without the kids or anyone else along?

Maybe you should get a couples therapist. Or if not, then a therapist for you to talk to. I would say a couples therapist, but if your partner doesn't want to then someone to talk to that can help with the relationship might be nice.

Well its indeed a sad day when two partners cant share their feelings.Dont know what to say about this as it is your partner you need to share with but your cousin represents a temporary outlet until the ideal outlet can be had.I think you may have to suggest going to a councillor to help kick start the situation .In addition maybe you could start talking to someone who he respects ,maybe a pastor or priest,or a friend adn hope to get through to him that way.He may be angry at first but if thats the price then it must be undertaken

i have a cousin who is and has been a great support for me..i got though a very painful relationship and she helped me but then i realized i was going over board with telling her everything.she has a man and sometimes she does not understand wha it is like to be alone but she has been great ..so i have decided to set boundaries for myself ..so i dont abuse our friendship.....i would hate to lose her ....she has been great..as far as your husband...you cant change a man to be all chatty like we are ..so maybe find a chat friend also.....you cant MAKE as you said a man listen....men think in terms of soulutions and not emotions....

In my opinion thats how guys are. My husband does the same thing some times, but guys never understand that we are more happier when we talk about our problems. I try and find a time to speak with my husband when an issue arises. I know to never try to talk to him about issues when he is either watching one of his favorite tv shows or when he just got home from work. You just need to find an appropriate time to speak with him and if he says he'd rather not talk about it now. Tell him that you would like to talk about it and when would be the best time to talk about it. Sometimes that helps, it does when I'm needing to talk with my husband about something.

well, always hope for the good that your husband will listen to you. Maybe you have marital crisis that is why there is no good conversation with your husband where you can freely tell all.. your cousin is your absorber and her patience and time given to you is very priceless. You see there are things in life we wanted in a partner but we cannot have all, but sooner your husband will realize that you need him when there is a situation in you life that would make him realize what he lacks in you and does not provide to you. No matter your husband is right now, he will change soon just be patient. Maybe things are meant to happen to make you stronger so do not give up.

I guess complaining too much is not helpful to get along well with others, you shall think about others' thoughts. Don't care too much about some triviality.But oif they are too selfish, you can leave them alone and focus on your own thing.

It seems your husb. is not really a good listener. It is better not to expect a man to be as delicate as a lady, right? Your cousin can be a good friend, but if you pour out everything to her, surely she became impatient. Now, 1, you can let her know that she is important to your life, emphasize your intimacy, etc. 2, also try to find some other outlet, maybe other intimate people; 3, try to make yourself and your husb. more open to each other. If you are totally open, then other people's role would be less important; I know there must be some specific policy to improve, but you know your family situation, so you are the only one who can figure out what to do exactly.