I don't know how you name me?......
By happy2512
@happy2512 (1266)
Philippines
December 12, 2009 7:21am CST
I am depress from time to time because my husband spend less time with us his family . He always spend time with is friends , My friends always calls me names like a martyr, crazy in love or whatever that will cross their minds. THey always gives me advises what to do but I never implement whatever they said. I just don't know why I can't move on to let go & end our marriage because I am emotionally battered I just can't let go of the marriage even if its too hard for me sometimes to handle. I find marriage very sacred. I always attempted to end the marriage but I just don't have the guts to do it. Why? Can you tell me? You can get angry with me if you want to
4 responses
@umabharti (3972)
• India
12 Dec 09
Its not an advice or a suggestion to u, if we try to hold sand in the hand as tightly as we try to hold it ,it starts flowing out from our hand.when u try to run after something ,it runs more faster from u.Marriage is sacred.Friendship and other relations are also the same.Love from u to ur husband can solve this problem and nothing else.
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@winzkiedevz (38)
• Philippines
18 Dec 09
Its normal for a martyr person like you who believe in the doctrine of the church to be depress sometimes even if you are hoping against hope that your partner will be change. Just pray & do believe in miracles everything will turn out well.
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Hi happy! It seems that you are not happy right now though.
Here's what I can say. My parents are happily married for 28 years now. I was never married so I actually can't relate to what you are feeling right now. But I am so sorry that you are having such problem with your husband.
Personally, i hate seeing any woman who is a martyr nowadays. As for me, I always do what is right, even if not, I always tend to win in any scenario. Which I think is my problem.
Yes, married is sacred, I believe in that.
But why you can't end your marriage? Maybe because you're holding into your kids.
You know you love him but he is hurting you. Do you think it is still healthy? I guess its not. Sorry for my words.
Explore life. There are lots of good men who can love you and will not batter you emotionally. If you will stay, you will only end up as a battered woman because you are letting him do that to you - which I don't recommend.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Yes you are right thanks but I like to being a martyr for now & hope against hope for him to change
@yhyp0205 (12)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 09
hi happy2512
i know what you feel.
But for your problem, you should ask an expert as to Dr James D on Focus On Family or Garry Smailey, they are people who dedicate their lives to help families that are having problems. I believe you will get a way out. ^_^
