Have you ever felt alienated by your friends?

High school for me was filled with friend alienation moments. I don't know how it happens. Sometimes it is hard toknow who is truly your friend. A lot of times you find who your true friends are when a crisis comes along in your life. Then you can separate the fair weather friends from the real thing. When friends alienate, how can you call them a friend?

Yeah, i have the same feeling as you. A friend of mine in the middle school, we do everything together then, go on study, have meals, go shopping, but when she has a boyfriend, she does not do things with me, although i know it is not her foult, i still feel i was alienated by her.

When friendship gets established it is for mutual benefit - one cannot do without the other kind of situation. But situations change which dilute this bond making connection unnecessary. This is normal. When I look back at life the friends I had in school/college, then at the work place then in the different neighbourhoods none of them are there now. That is life and we have to expect it. One makes new friends as one gets along in life but sometimes, and that too rarely old friends still hang around. I have a few such friends - a few of my classmates and an office colleague.

Yes, quite a bit actually. My one friend [sort of now, not really friends anymore] used to be like a sister to me. We did things all the time, baked, went shopping, walked around town, hung out watching tv, went on hikes, everything together. [Note, I had a boyfriend at that time, have for 3 years.] Suddenly she got a boyfriend, got pregnant within three months of dating him, and pretty much pushed me out of her life. She acted like she wanted to talk and hang out, but she could never leave her boyfriend's side. When my parents decided to divorce, she said "Aw, sorry" and began talking about herself. When my boyfriend got into some trouble [not his fault] she didn't care and proceeded to talk about herself. When my mom and I had to move and I stopped by to say goodbye, she didn't answer the door. After I've moved she messages me on facebook and says "Aw, sucks that you moved, we won't be able to talk as much anymore". She didn't talk to be before! Ugh. I don't bother talking to her anymore, simply because it's as if my problems don't matter. I have more stories, but they are long. Simply put - I've been there.

Sometimes friends are not around always to drag you up when your down, to cheer you up when your lonely but it does not they don't exist at all. Maybe they are also in the same situation like you, or they just want you to learn to stand alone and be a real grown woman.However in some cases, it is true that some friends can easily forget especially in times of crisis. They will only appear with a smile when they need some favor from you, it is a stupid hurting fact.