Who is the best? Wife or ex-girlfriend

Can you afford to live with your past ? I mean those things in your past can certainly affect your future. Look, you have a steady life and your ex has a tragic life. You are bound to be emotional on seeing her sorry state, but what about ur own wife. DO you think she will manage to live without you. you have kids too. Dont you think , u owe any responsibility for them ? I dont know what happy moments u had with your girl friend, and neither i can understand in any way, because I never had any ex or current. But My advice is that you should not be fool enough to live your wife and go back to ur ex , just because she is a widow now.

Hi there bhawanee, The fact that you even asked this question makes me feel that you are looking for confirmation that it is ok to leave your wife and be with your ex. Deep down I think you know the answer. Well, you asked so I am going to tell you what I think even tho it probably is not what you want to hear. I think that you should respect your wife and family and the marriage itself and stay away from this girl.....far away. I understand that you have great memories of this other girl but that relationship ended a long time ago. I understand that you are tempted but it is times like this that you really should put your energy into your marriage. I hope you make the right choice.

According to your description and my understanding, I suggest you to keep your current family. If you still like your ex GF then you can be just friends, and help her in some other way. If your current wife is qualified, then don't divorce. When you married, you already had some promise to her, right? If your ex GF is really for your good, she shouldn't break your current family. Maybe she needs a good man like you, but she should know that the change of family is a big thing to you... Your current wife doesn't deserve the "heartbreaking" treatment, then I hope you don't make yourself a guilty person, just because of one step choice.

For me, wife will be the best as you had made a decision before you settle down. For any circumstances that you had made a wrong decision, then you must face it and continue to live with your two kids as you are building your own family. Love and trust is the most important factor in any relationship.

this is really a no brainer. the relationship you have with your wife is one of which now can be compromised by this former girl friend. number one she is just that your former girl friend. obviously something happened chemistry non interest or what ever you want to call it. ask your self one question if the situation was reversed and you were the widower would she consider getting involved in a relationship with you. remember she married another man and it sounds like you might have been dumped or mislead some how i don't know but her husband is now deceased and now she's back in your arms and it should be pretty obvious to you that this relationship could never really be because it was never meant to be please keep faithful to your wife as you probably still have some feelings for her but your now twelve years into a relationship with a woman who loves you and cares and understands you don't throw that away... please save your tears tell your former girl friend that you are happily married. a great deal of married people find there selves in this kind of situation and it ends marriages don't let this woman break up your marriage it's not worth it, please take this advice if you are happily married to your wife then this should not be a problem tell your x girlfriend straight up no. she's ready to begin a life with you after her husband is deceased. if go with her you will not only hurt your wife and kids and leave a permanent scar but this relationship that never was meant to be could end up in ruins. if you are smart and have a good head on your shoulders you will not throw twelve years down the drain for some woman who married someone else years ago.

i stay stick with your wife i think she loves you so stick with her the ex is not a safe bet

Well bhawanee, you must not have started this discussion at all. Your GF ditched you, and married some body else, whereas you have a loving wife in your house. Just think if she is not widowed, whether she would have given you a second look. Because she has got nobody, and since she needs a walking stick, she says she loves you. That is an absolute lie. So please do not leave your wife. Last but not the least, just think of your children, if you go with your GF, just think what will happen to them, they will be completly shattered, and you will ruin not only your life, but the lives of your wife, and children.

Why are you still confused? There shouldn't be any dilemma on this. You certainly married + you already have children. And you also said that your marriage is fine and very lovely. What else? Do you want to break everything just because of your ex-crush? Let logic, morale, and sanity talk first here. Oh, and if you are still confused because of your ex-girlfriend trying to get you back, I think you need to take a special time to meditate and clean your mind up buddy! For me, looked from every angle, if you choose to accept your ex-girlfriend back, then you are definitely the one to be blamed by your current-wife, current-kids, your parents, etc.

Did your wife know about the ex when you got married and just how much you loved her and hurt you were? If so then can you be honest with the wife and talk about it in detail with her? Maybe talking with her and then with them both together can help resolve the issues you have for I can clearly see you love both just in different ways but still love both. Maybe it can work out in the end if every issue is took and talked about. Maybe it can be a 2 wife situation. I know there are more women then men and bible says there will be 7 wives for every man maybe this is your start for your seven. Take into consideration everyone's feelings as you talk about things. Especially with wife for you know ex is up for anything you will give her right now. I truly wish you the best in this little journey you are embarking on. Keep us up-to-date on your progress with things and choices you make along the way.

It must be your wife, because you married her. I believe that you ask someone to marry you because she is the best, she loved you like no one else did, your feelings for her cannot be compared, you love her in the truest sense of the word. We all have some unresolved feelings with our exes but these things usually go by in time once you've found happiness with another. Though it would still hurt a bit, we should accept what can and can't be.

Of course,the wife is.I know your problems,if you choose EX-girlfriend,you will inevitable face more problems.So,be alert to this.I think your ex-girlfriend will overcome it at last.Don't think of the memory.