Has anyone had a family member stop communication out of anger?

Hello magicalart! You know what, my mom is actually like that, when we argue or disagree with things and our voices somehow went on a bit higher pitch, she will really not talk to me unless I make the first move... And sometimes even if I initiate a talk she will still not talk to me and would walk away as if she doesn't see me at all... I guess for us children, no matter or whether we are in the right side, it is always best to put down our pride. Our parents are not that young anymore that would think and try to understand us. They are getting a bit sensitive about things... Well it is still up to you if you can still stand your gap and misunderstanding with your mom. But I guess and pretty sure that your mom will not do the first move... She will just wait for you. But I am pretty sure that she misses you already but her pride won’t allow her to greet you... Goodluck to you and your mom. I hope you break that wall very soon...

My Grandpa is really racist, judgmental, and prejudice. When my cousin came out of the closet, he refused to talk to him and disowned him from the family. It was really terrible, but no one could seem to make him change his mind. Another time my Aunt started dating this guy who was part African, and my grandpa got so mad, he also disowned my Aunt, and told her he'd only put her back in his will if she broke up with him. It's terrible that my family has to be kept under this burden just because our Grandpa is so close minded. It's slowly started to tear our family apart, making every get together tense and full of conflict :(

I have a cousin that does this from time to time and we never usually even know what she is upset over. She just will stop speaking to or acknowledging the existense of whoever she is angry with at the moment. IT can go on for months, sometimes years and then suddenly she will start talking again as if nothing happened. I just ignore her as I really don't care one way or another. If it were my mom....that might be different. Sometimes the relationship has to be more important than who is right or wrong. I don't think that talking to your mom would be saying that you are wrong at all. Just stand by your convictions. You are right in thinking that your first responsibility is to your children...it is. Apparently your mom has a different take on things....let her have her thoughts but she is your mom and the grandmother of your kids. I think if it were me, I would at least put an effort into putting aside our differences and at least making ammends. Maybe if it is a touchy subject, just agree to not even discuss it.

I am sorry u & your mom had the disagreement but can certainly relate to it. My mother never agreed w/anything i did. We went for long peroids of time & didn't talk either. Since she was always the one that had shown out & acted ugly i just left her alone. There was no way i could please her in anything so i just got to the point of after years of trying to stay on good terms w/her that if she was in a good mood w/me fine if she wasn't fine. U can't keep yourself upset over worrying about something u will never change.

Hi magicalart I was once in the same place you are now in that my Mom and I stopped communicating over something that we couldn't agree on. I wont bore you with the details as this isn't about me, its about you. What started out as an heated argument, that we seem to have had more than I care to remember over the years, turned into 3 years of no communication with each other. We are very much the same, her and I, and when it comes to being stubborn, we invented the word. Because of this stubborn nature, I lost out on 3 years of time with my Mom that I can never get back. This Christmas she turns 84 and it scares me because I don't know how many more Christmas holidays we will have with her. In your case, I'm sure that you feel you are doing right by your children but at the same time I'm assuming they are being estranged from their Grandmother as well. You really have to think long and hard about that. Is it fair to them? If there is any way you and your Mom can as they say, "agree to disagree" and move forward with life? That would be great. Don't do what I did. I regret those years more than I can ever tell you and would not wish that loss of precious time on anyone else. Life is way to short, believe me. Making the first move does not say you are in the wrong. Sit her down and tell her that you feel stro ngly about whatever it is thats happening, have not changed your mind or feelings but would like to resume your family life which includes her. If nothing else, for the kids. I'm telling you, if you dont do it soon, it could drag on and on and on like my situation did and turn into years. It's senseless magical..nothing is more important than family and if you dont realize that now, you will later, and maybe then it will be too late. In any case, I hope everything works out ok for you and her and that you have a blessed Christmas and a happy healthy new year, that included your Mom...

I have this problem with a disgusting boyfriend. Complaining is like admitting that you have a grievance which means they disregard your feelings. And so I complain. And he continues to disregard. My anger at least has got me a therapist, and hopefully he will help me get him out of my house. Yes, I have stopped communicating out of anger. But really we are always angry. And to stop communicating is to let things get out of hand I think. Simply saying hello or no, just talking to your family means that you are trying but really it means that you are a part and have a say. Anger out of hand makes your personality deteriorate.

Hello magicalart, I do not know all of the details of your situation, but it sounds like you did do the right thing and that was putting your child's needs above all others, everyone should be this way with their kids. I do know how you feel about not communicating with family members. A while back my mother was in an abusive relationship and my aunt [her sister] came and brought us from the situation and opened her home to us. I do not know what went wrong, but I guess the two families living together was only a good idea for "short term" because it did not last. There was several heated arguments between my mom and my aunt and needless to say, that was yearsssss ago [I cannot even remember exactly how many] and we are still to stubborn to call her and just try to start over. Even though she is the only family we have left here in florida. My advice, try to talk to your mom. She is your mom, and you two really need to work everything out because I know I cannot go longer than a day without talking to my mom. Great discussion. :) Good luck in everything you do.