Why do I do this?

just do some yoga on a daily basis and relax. accept yourself whatever size you are. and if ur size really bothers you, do something about it. eat healthier and work out until you get to ur desired size. try new things to yourself everyday to feel better about yourself. get a new haircut. wear makeup. get a new outfit, perfume, or new shoes once in a while. i dont think ur weight bothers ur boyfriend or he wouldnt be with your right now. he liked u the way u were to begin with. accept it, be happy or u might lose him if u take things to personally.

I think that you should focus on your positive aspects,rather than the negative ones.it is much better of you focus on being optimistic.when you focus on your negative self,it will weigh you down more.it helps boost your self-esteem.so what if you aren't as skinny as her?on the weight-loss side,find a physical activity you love.if you love walking or dancing,then do it.an activity you love doesn't feel like exercise.

Hi there Tickle The first thing is, you are mean and horrible because you do not like yourself You need to start taking some Vitamins for your Moods and one good one is Evening Primrose You need to start training yourself and yes I mean training, to control the muddle of feelings inside you, tackle one problem at a time, first of loss of weight......... Eat healthy food, drink lots of water to, as you will find a part of it is Water retention, also if you get hungry in between Meals drink Water or eat Fruit, remember it will not happen over night, try to exercise to even if it is just taking walks You will find in time it will come of you and be patient, do not constantly weigh yourself, only once a week, if you see no difference in 3 weeks think about what you might be eating that you should not As for the pretty side, I have not seen a Photo of you Girl, but a little Make up always helps, not a lot and not plastered on, basically natural Colours, a bit of Mascara, natural eye shadow, I use the colour Heather, I also use the Max Factor double Skin Foundation, you can get this on Ebay at a cheap price and you do not need a lot, just enough to give you a bit of a Healthy look, a natural Lipstick, I do not use any blusher and try to use either a white or light eye liner and that is it you will see a big difference, my Daughter went through what you are going through right now and it worked for her The main thing is though to try and control the mood, and do NOT ever compare yourself to other Women, that is the worse you can do, tell your Boyfriend to that he is not to do it and that he has to support you and be patient I hope this works for you Girl, good luck to you and let me know how you get on

Some people are not satisfied for their appearances and they are sad but others are happy for what they are and use their talents and ability to overcome their infirmities in life. The imperfection is 99.9% even 99.9% beauty or handsome faces has a problem in life or imperfection. I saw some ugly that they are more smarter than the pretty ones and shines over them. I saw a pretty girl but so shy and speechless. Some they have more problems on trauma, treat, blackmail because of their beauty. They are prone to the evil guys. Some suffered of the act of lasciviousness in crowded places like markets, shows and subway. Cuties has problematic, too in life. Some simple faces are kind and generous, too. They are good example. Some good personalities are bad, some ugly posses evil character, too. Some ugly are delight-some persons. Some beauty inside-out. Life is like that. My life is like ugly duckling, too. When I was in my childhood I felt I'm ugly cos I'm not famous and only few recognized my cuteness and I'm so thin. Then, in my early 20s till present at 33 people recognizes my appearances and attitude of brotherly kindness. People likes me, even in this life we cannot please everyone. Have a great day. God bless us all.

I am sorry that you feel this way about yourself, but I will tell you that you are definitely not alone. I think deep down a lot of people feel that way sometimes. Although we don't always dislike ourselves for the same reasons, it all boils down to the fact that we don't like the way we are. The question is, do we hate the way we are enough to make an effort to change? I can definitely understand why you got so upset by the comment made in comparing you to the other girl and I don't believe you were overreacting at all! That was pretty insensitive on his part, especially since he knew you that was already a sensitive issue (I'm assuming that he did know). If you really want things to be different in your life, you need to make the decision to do it because YOU want to, not because you think everyone else wants you to change. If you're doing it to please everyone else, it will be a burden and you will never follow through with it. You will also be resentful towards others for it too. If you want to lose weight, set some realistic goals. Come up with a number of pounds you would like to lose over the long term and break it down in months or weeks. A smaller goal is easier to work toward and the possibility of you getting overwhelmed is much lower. Second, learn to eat some healthier foods and eat smaller portions of food every 3 to 4 hours. Smaller portions and eating more frequently will keep you from overeating at mealtime. When it comes to exercising, it doesn't have to be something that you hate. Go for a walk with some friends. Go to the mountains for a hike. Get an iPod and load it full of music and put your headphones in and go for it. As far as the other things you don't like about yourself, get to the root of the problem. Why is it that you feel that way? When did you stop being the person you used to be? What has changed. Those are all some questions you should ask yourself. It will help give you a little insight into what's going on. Just keep your head up and keep on going. And know that God makes us the way we are for a reason and we all have a great purpose on this earth. We are all valuable in His eyes.

Hi! Being fat is not big deal now. Know what i had a bestfriend she is fat but she accept who really she is. When some of my friends even my family saw here they always said give some fat to her (to me) because she's skinny. You look like 10 when your together.. I also bully here but its okay with here because shes happy what really she is. I just want to saw her reaction that's why I'm doing it.. Heheh Im bad.. And know what? Her boyfriend dying on her, crazy with her.. Just love yourself and accept everything .. Always uplift yourself so what if your heavier than other? Most Important is the character..When you love yourself everybody will love you.. Try to appreciate yourself.. If you hate yourself you wont see and appreciate all the people appreciating you and loves you..so cheer up! smile

You've expressed a lot of deep,serious challenges you are facing. I will offer just a couple of suggestions. First, regarding weight loss. Take a look around, in any direction and you will see that you are not the only one facing this hurdle. There are many people who fight weight gain, and even those who are successful must continue to face the challenge of keeping the weight off. Maybe this is really hard for you to do alone, and you need the support and strength that can come from others. There are various weight loss groups and organizations around. Would that help you? Also, and this may be something Dr. Phil would say, you can lose weight if you want to, but you must take responsibility to make it happen. You cannot just sit back and wait for it to happen on its own, and no one can do it for you. Now with respect to your overall self-image - don't hate yourself. So you and your life are not perfect. That is true for everyone, even those around you who seem to have their act so together. There are periods in our life where we transfer from a lot of hope and expectation into something more real. Maybe you are in such a stage. This last comment may seem strange, especially since you are talking about a boyfriend and not a husband. When a man and woman get married, one of the important things that happens is that the husband takes on the interests of his wife and will work to build her up. You indicate that you have changed in the last three years. Well, so has he. Those early days in a relationship are so different. Think how it is when a man is courting a woman - there is so much encouragement, praise and worthiness given to her. Then down the road,when the relationship is more routine, those blessings may not come on a regular basis. I'm not suggesting you blame your boyfriend, but it is helpful for you to realize that his love and caring for you must grow even stronger, and that is regardless of your weight. Hopefully you will find peace with yourself, with the help of him and in the end your relationship will be stronger and your life much happier. By the way, your photos show you to be a beautiful woman. God Bless You, djbtol

Hi Tickle! I feel that you are thinking too much negative about yourself, and this will not lead you anywhere. Thinking about one's negative traits is alright, as long as one wants to improve it, however, thinking that one has only 'negative' traits is incorrect. You need to look positive traits in yourself and think about the blessings, which you had in your life. No one is perfect, each one of us has negative and positive traits, as well, what we need to do is think positively and let the negative thoughts not come in our mind. All the best to you. Please believe in yourself, you are a wonderful person and you are not less than anyone.

I don't think there's a person alive who doesn't feel that way at one time or another but I think you're focusing too much on what you don't like instead of what you do like about yourself. I probably would have been offended at what your b/f said as well. It sounds like he has this idea of what you should be and is trying to push you into it. If you want to change, do it for yourself...not for anyone else. Everyone changes as they grow, mentally and physically, he has to learn that as well. I hope this helps some. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STANDING STRONG IN MY BELIEFS**[/b]

Well, I guess you should be impressed because I read thru everything you just wrote hear. you sound a lot like one of my daughters. I looked at your profile before responding and you are very pretty and as for your weight...you look tiny in the pics. You sure as heck are not overweight. My daughter is just a tiny little thing but is always complaining that she has flub. Most women would die to look like her but she gets in these moods where everything from her nose to her body etc just bothers her. She also flies off the handle easily and over the littlest things. Then she feels bad. It's more under control as she gets older but we have always wondered if she might be bi-polar. She herself wonders at times but has yet to go in and be evaluated. Of course the more episodes of this sort of behavior she has, the worse she feels about herself and it is just a vicious cycle. I do think it would be a good idea to talk to your doctor about this. There are meds that can help with the mood swings. It is a pretty common thing really. I also want to add that your boyfriend showing you a picture of a girl that looked like you "if you were skinnier" is something that would have offended most women. It is pressure to change and it is like saying ...you aren't "good enough but could be". Maybe he didn't mean it that way but it was offensive. Also telling you that he is only with you because of how you were when you were first dating...that is pressure also. We grow and we change constantly. You are never going to be the same person you were back then....neither is he.

ticklemebreathless well let me say something that boyfriend' is no prize when he wants you to make yourself over to suit his royal highness.he is at fault not you at all. if he really loved you he would love you unconditionally warts and all your weight would not matter as its the you in you he would love.I would like to give him a good swift kick to the seat of his pants for making you go all down on yourself.you do not have to measure up to some non existent female,you just need to be confident that you are someone,you are unique and you love yourself. shout it out believe it and live it.not for your boyfriend, but for yourself and your self esteem. Your boyfriend needs some lessons in love and in tact too. he did not need to do a number on you if he really loves you. You need to believe you are alright just the way you are,you must love yourself so you can love others.

First of all let me just say that you are very pretty. From the picture I see you look like a lovely girl. The best advice I can give is that we are what we make our selves and we are what we decide to be. If you are always telling yourself nothing but negative things about you self you are never going to be happy with yourself. Try to start concentrating on being more positive about yourself. The next time you catch yourself putting your self down or be critical of your self stop yourself and instead tell your self something positive about your self. About being mean you can control that too. If you find your self being mean for no reason stop and breath and re-focus, think of something funny, or even better think of something nice to say, it will change your whole mood I promise. Learn to laugh more. If you don't take things to seriously you will be able to find that fun loving girl your boyfriend once knew. Remember negativity breads negativity, instead bread postive things.

i hope that by now, you've already found your motivation.. but i would still want to drop some lines... I think that sometimes, the reason why you hate yourself is you automatically see what you do not have... you instantly see and notice the ones others have and you don't... so you tend to compare... it's pretty hard to be satisfied.. everyone probably has their own disappointments upon themselves... you are not alone on that... that is why it's said that the beginning to happiness is when you get to be satisfied with what you have... happy mylotting!

no doubt, Building Self-motivation indeed difficult. Every person just like you don't know exactly how to build motivation in itself. We often hit by various constraints. And the biggest obstacle is ourselves. Here I try to describe the basic steps 7 Build Self-motivation, namely: * Expand your horizons. You have to look at life with eyes of faith, look you're off to a higher level. You must have a clear mental picture of what you will achieve. This picture should be a part of you, in your mind, seep into your subconscious mind, in deed and in every aspect of your life. * Develop a healthy self image. That means you have to picture yourself on the basis of what God says about you. Success reach your goals depends on how you view yourself and how you feel about yourself. Because it will determine your level of confidence in the act. The fact that you will never flew higher than what you think about yourself. * Discover power behind your mind and what you say. The main target of enemy attack is mind. He knew if he managed to control and manipulate what you think, then he will successfully control and manipulate your entire life. Determine the attitude of mind, attitude and self image. The mind set goals. * Let go of the past, let it go. You may have lost everything that no one should be experienced in this life. If you want to live victoriously, you should not use the trauma of the past as an excuse to make choices that bad right now. You must dare not make the past as a reason for this attitude during burukmu, or justify your actions to not forgive someone. * Discover power in the worst circumstances, even though we should be: "I may have fallen several times in this life, but but I'm not going to continue to live under there." We all face challenges in life. We all must have experienced things that come to attack us. We may be imposed from outside, but the key to victorious living is to learn how to rise again from the inside. * Be confident with your beliefs. Many experts believe "that determines the direction keyakinanlah motion one". Obviously, that opinion did not go out like that, and it often happens in our lives. Where when we were tossed in different teromabng choices, then we will be very difficult to determine next steps. * Choosing to be happy at today. You do not have to wait until all your problems solved. You do not have to postpone happiness until you reach all your target. God wants you to be happy in any condition, right now!

Hm, seems that the problem lies in your brain actually. How to motivate yourself? well, live your life, read many books about living, follow some motivating seminar but don't follow business seminar, go talk to your rev (if you are christian), or else go to a psychiatric. But for me, it actually depends on yourself. No matter how much books you read, how many seminar you have follow, if you don't really want to change and don't want to accept then it will useless and you will only waste your money. I can't help that much, but I have some friends who just like you and they actually seek someone who can comfort them by saying "you are good", "you look great", etc. And they likely never come to me because I am more sarcastic in commenting :p (this is not good, don't try this at home) So, my suggestion is : 1. Pray, ask your God to help you understand yourself better 2. Self-acceptance, you need to put it on your brain that you are good! 3. Consult with the expert! 4. Ask your friends to help you out in motivating you. Success!

you've just described how billions (yes billions) of people look at themselves. YOur boyfriend sounds like an a-hole. You should find someone who brings out the best in you. I guess you're impressed with me then and now i feel happy. see you're not all bad.

I'm very sure you are beautiful because all people are beautiful. You need a smile because is time to do something for you. Is time to love you like you are. Belive in you and do something. If you have courage to write this you are courageous. Don't live with fear, be you like you are. Every person is wonderful in some way.