Adopted Child

A woman is supposed to be epitome of love and that becomes multifold when she becomes a mother. I just can't imagine how a woman can be so selfish and cruel. A child is a child be it adopted or own and gives the same pleasure to a mother. If she had such indifferent feeling why did she adopt a child in the first place. I doubt if she can love her own child and may also turn materialistic if circumstances arise. Shame on such woman who can inflict pain on such a small child. If she had adopted the child legally the child can claim the rights as he grows up. Happy mylotting.

This is not right deepa. The boy must have become the legal hair of the family. He must be having all the rights in the family including the property right.This mother is really disappointing.

It is sad that after two years she could stop loving the little boy. she must not have loved him very much. It is probably a good thing that she sent him back because she probably would end up abusing him or making him her servant and he could be worse off then if he were in the orphanage. I don't understand how she could just shut off her love for the little boy.

What a horrible message she sent to that child. A person should not adopt a child unless that person feels that child is THEIR child. What's she going to do, when the going gets rough with her birth child, send it to an orphanage when it's a teenager? That child now has bonded with that parent and will have a hard time trusting or believing that adoption is forever with the next family. That child will feel that any time she could be sent back. She probably wonders what she did wrong or why her Mom didn't love her any more. That's just horrible. I feel sorry for that child, too. She was robbed of a family 2xs and the child that was born should be her brother or sister, so she was not only robbed of parents, but of a sibling. I hope she finds a better family and that they're a forever family.

That's so sad. In my eyes that's the same thing as if you gave birth to a child, but then when that child was two you had another child and abandoned your first-born. When you adopt a child it becomes your child, and that's all there is to it. I know people who have adopted children and they would never treat them any differently to a child they had delivered themselves. They were just so grateful to have a child at all, children are so precious. That's the way it should be anyway, and it's very unfortunate for the poor boy that he was rejected like this.

YES, THEY SHOULD! How in the world can this even be a question? I myself was adopted, and this is a subject that really hits home with me. Who would even dare think that adopted children should not be treated as well as biological children? This woman has a serious problem, there are no two ways around it, and if you want my honest opinion, she shouldn't even be a mother at all if she's going to show that much preference to one child over another.

Hi deepa! It is really a sorry state of affairs, that lady should have not have returned the child to orphanage. Who knows that when she was bringing up the adopted child, with her help and blessings, she could conceive and could give birth to her own child. It appears selfish and cruel on her part and the adopted child's soul will not forget her.

It's really a harrasing thing that hey rejected the adopted child after having another child. it must have happened that she had a new baby girl because of the fortune of that adopted child. They should not have done like that.The adopted child must get equal right as non adopted child. Either they wouldnot have adopte any child giving a light of hope for its future and they should rare the child as their own elder child they mustnot have adopted him.

i felt sad for the child too. What is the reason why the child have been returned? I guess if you decided to adopt a child your mind is ready for all the responsibility you have to face. It is weird if they will return it, like they became coward and second thoughts of adopting. I guess there is a seminar or orientation before someone could adopt a child, and that way they have given a chance to decide if they are ready or not , not like that what happened to your neighbor. For sure they have a deep reason for it.

I share the same sentiments as the others. She really shouldn't do that, because during her time of need, and when she was childless, the adopted child was there to give some color and sparkle to her life. And now that she already has her own child, she's sending the blessing away like that. A child is sacred; once being under a care, one should take care of the well-being really well. I think it's a bit unfair for the adopted child. Hopefully the child will be taken care of in a real loving family environment someday.

How awful for this little boy. And depending on how old he is and how long he had been aware of being in an orphanage ect must really hurt. To think someone was willing to love him, but once a biological child finally came along he was sent away. Poor kid! The family should hang their head in shame for their behavior! SHAME ON THEM!

I wonder what is the law like in that country that this woman did this 'terrible thing'. I am wondering if she realises what she has done. She has crushed that child. On the other hand I prefer that the child goes back where he can be properly cared for and find solace again. She seemed selfish. There should be some amount of equatity in the law for the adopted child. A question comes to mind will she really care for her own? What about the man in her life , what is his imput?

I am agree with you, I aslo suggest those people who left the adopted children after compliting their selfish purpose, it's really so sad and so bad that they ignore those children who don't have perents. So i also agree with you and admit you those childrent don't have right to be hopeless and ,eaning less

Hi, What she did is absolutely wrong. You know, in India, the authorities allow people to adopt a Child only when the couples transfers their property to this adopted child's name. This property should be enough for taking care of the child's studies, well beings etc. . So the couples can't avoid the child like nothing. In my opinion, that couples should take care of their adopted child also.

Everyone here has already expressed the disgust I feel. I believe the most responsible and definitely the most privileged task in this life is in being a mother. There is no greater joy. I also believe everything possible should be done to protect children and to shield them from abuse. Of course the mother should have kept the boy and looked after him as her own son and I fail to see how any woman could give away the child she has nurtured for two years. However, no one, including the law, can force her to keep the child - and even if it could be done, that child would suffer. Hopefully the child will not be too badly scarred and will find a loving home - a much better place than staying where he was. "Should an adopted child have the same legal rights as an non - adopted child" In most Western countries an adopted child IS considered as a natural born child in all legal matters - and should be so.

This is so bad. Human beings are not products, and you can't "return" them if you don't like. I know the blood relationship is important. However, your neighbor has brought up her adopted child for two years. Two years is not a short time. I think there must be some emotions created. How can she sent back the adopted child? I know she has her own baby now, but it doesn't mean that she has to give up her adopted child. I think she should still treat her adopted child as well as her own child. Two years relationship should make them like a real family. It is too wrong and irresponsible to send her adopted child back. I love China

oh dear that is so sad... i suppose looking on the bright side, this might be better for the child as opposed to being ill treated whilst still living with this family that obviously does not love the child anymore. I suppose she will carry it with her all her life, that she treated the adopted child like something she bought from a store that she could take and return once she had no need of it. I guess that guilt, if she has a conscience, will be her true punishment.

Some time ago I read about a similar case, there was an article in one of my magazines and there were pictures of the child who had been sent back to the orphanage. I still remember those pictures and the sadness in the boy's eyes. He felt abandoned and rejected, because the couple no longer wanted him, and it made me really sad to read the story. I don't understand how they could send him back, and I don't understand your neighbours either. It is often a difficult situation for an adopted child when the parents get an biological child, but sending back the child is the worst way to solve the problem, I think. I feel so sorry for the child.

It is sad why they need to send the child simply because they have their own now. It is very selffish and it is not a valid reason. I feel sad for the baby it seems that he is unwanted because no one going to keep him. It is definetely wrong because they don't think about it very carefully before they adopt.

For me,i think it is so.When it comes to this,many factors are involved.Parents are great.The children should know this.