What I believe girls should do a lil more often (Directed towards HS & college)

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For as long as I can remember, there has always been a rule or a certain "manner" to go about dating people, especially if you are in high school or college. Do not discuss how many kids you want to have, who or what kind of person you want to marry, particularly the age you want to marry, and do not discuss controversial issues like abortion or religion. Throughout my experience with dating, going out, and meeting different people, I have realized a sort of stereotype that we as adolescents fall into; and that are the roles in which boys and girls, male and female, play in when it comes to the game of love. For example, guys tend to think themselves as the masculine figure in a relationship. They pay for the food, they open the car door, they provide the ride, and they're supposed to text you first to plan the special date. The girls on the other hand would prepare a great "house" date, which is where the loving pair would stay indoors to watch a movie, perhaps play some board games, video games, or even study together for an upcoming test. The girls will do the cooking and some cleaning, then some more cleaning after her significant other leaves. Sounds pretty normal right? Of course. Yet in my opinion these scenarios are just too normal, too typical, and way beyond uninteresting. Does anyone else see what I see? The classical roles in which the girls of today's society play in? (Check out Gold Diggin) It seems to have been this case for as long as social classes existed. Like between 1820 to the Civil War, women fell under a belief or an ideal called the "cult of domesticity," where it was expected for women to grow, wed, give birth to many children, and take care of her household. The men were in charge of bringing home the bacon and taking on the evils of the outside world. Women, or ladies I should say, were expected to have four characteristics to be an ideal wife, and that is piety, purity, domesticity, and submissiveness. SUBMISSIVENESS. The accurate definition of this word submissiveness, is the trait of being willing to yield to the will of another person, or a superior force. Pardon me, but this was the 1800s, when is it that we as women can be that "superior force"? Girls, on your next date, try driving your car and picking up your date for once. Better yet, I dare you to ask out the next good-looking person you see. Go approach him, gather up those guts to talk to him! Who cares if he rejects you, there's more where he came from anyway. Do not wait, trying to look cute like every other girl in the neighborhood, be confident! Make that first move! Guys clean up your naturally "guy-ish" rooms and make it more garish so that your girlfriend would WANT to sit in your household. Cook her food; if it's the morning, make her some OJ and omelettes. Dinner? Chicken parmesan over spaghetti will never fail. Google up the recipe! All in all, dating is a great way to get to know each other and explore. It is considered to be healthy, especially for your social life. With that, I hope to see greater changes and more inspiring relationships in the future. No more "He or she has not called me yet," or "Why is he or she not making a move?" I know why, and it is because you perhaps have fallen into the population of what the typical, normal people would do and that is to not make that bold, first move. Do not forfeit to any dating rules or stereotypes. That's just playing it safe.