Are you self-confident?

Pose123, I hate to be provoked as I do not like to provoke anyone. I always give a person chances. Normally, the first time a person is aggressive towards me, I brush it off as ignorance. The second instance, the same person will be excused and given time for realisation. Normally on the third occassion, I still hold on to patience unless the situation goes really out of control, then all hell will break loose. I try to calm myself as far as possible but I always feel I have to be honest with myself. For by doing so, I am being honest with the offender as well. Then it is up to the offender to correct himself/herself through realisation. Cheers and take care Pose123

Yes, we can be polite and firm at the same time when the occasion requires for us to demonstrate self-confidence. There is nothing wrong with putting people in their place sometimes as long as you do it with style and compassion.

Self-confidence, indeed, gives us the ability to stand up for ourselves, especially when facing with disrespect and indignity. If we sit back and don't do anything to protect ourselves, we may be looked down upon. To make matters worse, those who behave aggressively to us are likely to behave worse to us. So we should be self-confident and know how to speak for ourselves. As for me, I used to be a timid person. Whenever I met with others' rude remarks, I chose to bear it and never dared to speak out loudly what I thought. As you may imagine, I was quite pessimistic at that time. Then, when I became a college teacher, I had to stand in front of the whole class, I told myself I had to be self-confident, or I wouldn't be able to do well. The good thing was I made it. I became a self-confident person and I'm not afraid of others any more. I believe everyone has the power with himself to be self-confident. But the responsibility to awake this self-confidence, is his own.

i am self-confident in my abilities but not in the way i look. i need to lose weight and i am working on it but for myself and not what others think. i just want to feel better about myself. i stand up for myself but it does not come easily. i have to push myself to do it because i do not enjoy conflict.

i admit that i don't have that self confidence that you are referring on this thread. it stems from the reason that i am not sure mostly of my right or if i am doing it right. if i am sure that i am not hurting other people in what i do then i will be confident to act on something. but most of the times i am not really sure in my desires to assert my right that i may act too aggressive that i may come out as too strong in the way i talk and the way i act. that other people may interpret it. i worry about that mostly. and so i tend to be more quiet because of this fear that i may hurt other people if i talk too much or if i become too honest and frank. sometimes i don't know when is the right time to be frank and straightforward though it may hurt other feeling and when to stop being frank and just think of the other people's feelings. though i have learned that we can't always think of other people's feeling or else we will always just agree on what they will say just only to avoid hurting their feelings.

I do have self confidence. Everday is a good day whether it is rain or snow. i work in a park were people say that a rainy day in the the park is better than a day at work. Positive attitude is the way to be. Smiles are free.

I wish I did have self confidence, I am actually due to attend a course in January for assertiveness, I am currently doing a course on self esteem they are very useful courses for small groups (under 10) although I am struggling with self esteem because I have been labelled with chronic low self-esteem for me it's like climbing a mountain. But I am able to say 'NO' to be people which in a way is confidence, however there is a right way and a wrong way of saying NO too which as you said is about being kind to someone without hitting them over a head with a sledgehammer with a cutting NO! (figuratively speaking that is ;0)

Hi Pose, I think I am able to stand up for my rights most of the time. I have noticed that if you do not do it you get trampled upon by the more assertive people. I used to be very timid before, but harsh realities of life has taught me to be more assertive and stand up for my rights because no one else will do it for you. I feel much more confident now while facing any kind o9f adverse situation - all the best

I am self confident but I dont openly show it .That means seem contardictory but I will explain,I believe in myself but I dont put it out there in everyone's face .The reason why I am this way is that I dont believe in being boasty or drawing attention to myself This maeans that I will sometimes back away from a fight but not because I am weak but because I believe self control is the ultimate expression of power and something not may people can do

i would like to think i do but not to the point where i would be considered cocky or just obnoxious. there are people that just have too much self-confidence which makes them seem more cocky than confident. some people just need to know how to calm there ego sometimes lol

To respond to your discussion, No I personally dont have self confidence. I lack the ability to show just how strong a person I can be whether its at home, at a friends house or in a public place like a bar or coffee shop. If I am put in a situation and Im the only one who can speak up I will gather the courage and do it. My Families been this way their whole life, So I think its genetics. haha.. but seriously being able to stand up and say Im a person too would be too cool for words, I tend to show it more than others instead of keeping it inside.

I have a self confidence in everything I do, because you can not persuade others to believe and trust in you, if you yourself is in doubt about what you do and how you do it.